Story of a “dark marriage”- living with a sex addict

Sally Ryder Brady reveals a life of abuse in her marriage to an alcoholic and sex addict.   This memoir, written by a widow who discovered, upon her husband’s death after almost 50 years of marriage, that he had a double life, affairs with men and gay porn, and he was $70 thousand dollars in debt.  The memoir is about her reflecting back on her life and trying to figure out “what do I know that I didn’t know I knew until now?”  Her husband, a well-regarded editor of Atlantic Monthly, was an emotionally abusive alcoholic and she of course, had grown up in an abusive family, making her a primary candidate to marry an addict.

To read more in-depth reviews of the book and to order the book, go to the link below:

http://www.amazon.com/box-darkness-story-marriage/dp/B004JBR1XA

Bringing up kids in a porn culture…

How do you do it today?  How do you bring up sexually healthy kids when there is so much pornography available at the click of a mouse? Take a look at this article by Gail Danes, author of “Pornland: How Porn Has Hijacked Our Sexuality.” Porn Addiction Los Angeles

After you read the article, let us know what you think!

http://www.mamapedia.com/voices/bringing-up-kids-in-a-porn-culture


Do you know what cybersex activities include?

Cybersex activities are not only viewing or downloading pornography along with masturbation, but also reading and writing sexually explicit letters and stories, e-mailing to set up personal meetings with someone, placing ads to meet sexual partners, visiting sexually oriented chat rooms, and engaging in interactive online affairs which include real-time viewing of each other using electronic cameras hooked up to the computer.

According to Dr. Mark Schwartz’s book “Sex on the Net is like heroin,” “Cybersex grabs people and takes over their lives, and treatments are very difficult because the people affected don’t want to give it up.”

Take a look at this article:

http://www.sagennext.com/2010/04/07/cybersex-addiction/


Intensive Out-Patient Treatment for Sex Addiction

Did you just figure out that you’re a sex addict?  Have you been in sexual recovery for a while and continue to struggle with staying sexually sober on a plan?  Do you think your partner is a sex addict and think he/she needs help?

At the Center for Healthy Sex we offer a low cost, highly effective alternative to long-term, more expensive in-patient hospital care.  For over ten years, the team at CHS has been providing intensive out-patient sex addiction treatment program for those in need.

Our IOPs are usually scheduled for the middle two weeks of every month.  To learn more about our 11-day program call 310-843-9902 or visit out site at www.thecenterforhealthysex.com

At CHS we’re devoted to assisting you in restoring your sexual health!

Sex Addiction: Polarity of the Body and Mind – Free CEU Course at CHS July 9

Join me, Alex Katehakis, MFT, CSAT-S, CST, and Lance Tango, MA for coffee and pastry as we take a Jungian perspective on sex addiction at the Center for Healthy Sex on July 9.  Lance and I will look at the polarity of the body and mind, meaning we will examine how sex addicts split off and compartmentalize so they can act out sexually with a high level of denial and dissociation.

Click here to register: douglas@thecenterforhealthysex.com or CALL 310-843-9902

When: Friday July 9, 2010 9:30-11:00am

Where: Center for Healthy Sex, Los Angeles

Cost: Free!

Click here to register: douglas@thecenterforhealthysex.com or CALL 310-843-9902

We look forward to seeing you there!!


Erotic Intelligence now available!

Why I Wrote Erotic Intelligence – Watch the video!

You can order my new book,  “Erotic Intelligence: Igniting Hot Healthy Sex While in Recovery From Sex Addiction” at the Amazon link below.  I wrote this book because so many people struggle with how to have healthy, exciting sex once they’ve committed to a life of sexual recovery.  I think you’ll find it an easy, informative, and useful read.  To order, go to:

http://www.amazon.com/Erotic-Intelligence-Igniting-Recovery-Addiction/dp/0757314376/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1272214335&sr=1-1

Why I Wrote Erotic Intelligence – Watch the video!

Read the book, tell your friends, and comment on the Amazon page!

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Psychotherapy Networker Magazine March/April issue

“Addicted to Sex” is a case study I had published last month in the Psychotherapy Networker Magazine.  Although this magazine directs its writings to professionals, lay persons can benefit by the rich and varied information in it.

“Addicted to sex” incorporates the traditional cognitive/behavioral model of sex addiction treatment with attachment theory, privileging the therapeutic relationship and incorporating the use of the body.

To read the article, go to http://www.psychotherapynetworker.org/magazine/currentissue/803-case-study

Let me know what you think by clicking the comment button below. Sex Addiction Los Angeles


Anit-gay activist accused of sexual liason with male prostitute

It’s becoming more and more common today to hear about sexual scandals of the rich and famous or political leaders.  While there’s no way to know whether or not George Alan Rekers, an anti-gay activist,  is a sex addict, the allegations in this article illustrate the gross compartmentalization that sex addicts have to have in order to live double lives. Sex Addiction Los Angeles

Check out the details by clicking on this link:

http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=126539946&sc=17&f=1001

Let us know what you think by clicking the comment button below


Masturbation makes you go blind!

There’s an old wives tale that says, “if you masturbate,  you’ll go blind.”  I have always thought this was one of the most ridiculous, archaic things I’d ever heard, presumably designed for puritanical reasons.  I have   wondered for years where this saying came from.  I still haven’t taken the time to research where it came from but I know one thing, it turns out to be an accurate statement!

I now understand that it doesn’t mean that a person will literally go blind from hours of masturbation, but that it means that they will figuratively go blind! Who knew?! Sex Therapy Los Angeles

Case in point: According to many news sources (google: SEC Scandal), dozens of senior officials at the SEC visited porn sites 16,000 times in one month!  A senior attorney is reported to have spent 8 hours a day looking at pornography during the years when Bernie Madoff was financially raping the country.  All of the SEC officials implicated in this scandal are reported to have been making over $200,000.00 per year – your tax dollars at work!

Again, the senior officials of the United States of America Securities and Exchange Commission were literally masturbating – compulsively – to pornography and NOT doing their job on taxpapyer’s time!

Talk about Nero fiddling while Rome was burning!!

Let us know what you think about this mess by clicking the comment button below.


Sex Addiction Training Course at CHS

If you are a health care professional and interested in learning more about how to treat sex addiction you will find this 18 hour course extremely helpful.

Beginning May 1 from 9am – noon I will be offering a 6 Saturday course that covers everything from how to define sex addiction to assessment, diagnosis, treatment concerns, family issues, restoring sexuality, and more. Sex Addiction Los Angeles

Dates are: May 1, 8, 15,  June 5, 12, 26

There are currently 2 spaces left!

For detailed information and to sign up call Douglas Evans at 310-843-9902.