Straight talk, up-to-date information and resources for individuals and couples about sexual addiction, cybersex addiction, sexual anorexia, sexual desire and sexual dysfunction.
Cybersex activities are not only viewing or downloading pornography along with masturbation, but also reading and writing sexually explicit letters and stories, e-mailing to set up personal meetings with someone, placing ads to meet sexual partners, visiting sexually oriented chat rooms, and engaging in interactive online affairs which include real-time viewing of each other using electronic cameras hooked up to the computer.
According to Dr. Mark Schwartz’s book “Sex on the Net is like heroin,” “Cybersex grabs people and takes over their lives, and treatments are very difficult because the people affected don’t want to give it up.”
Did you just figure out that you’re a sex addict? Have you been in sexual recovery for a while and continue to struggle with staying sexually sober on a plan? Do you think your partner is a sex addict and think he/she needs help?
At the Center for Healthy Sex we offer a low cost, highly effective alternative to long-term, more expensive in-patient hospital care. For over ten years, the team at CHS has been providing intensive out-patient care for those in need.
Our next scheduled IOP begins on June 14. To lean more about our 11-day program call 310-335-0997 or visit out site at www.thecenterforhealthysex.com
At CHS we’re devoted to assisting you in restoring your sexual health!
Join me, Alex Katehakis, MFT, CSAT-S, CST, and Lance Tango, MA for coffee and pastry as we take a Jungian perspective on sexual addiction at the Center for Healthy Sex on July 9. Lance and I will look at the polarity of the body and mind, meaning we will examine how sex addict’s split off and compartmentalize so they can act out sexually with a high level of denial and dissociation.
You can order my new book, “Erotic Intelligence: Igniting Hot Healthy Sex While in Recovery From Sex Addiction” at the Amazon link below. I wrote this book because so many people struggle with how to have healthy, exciting sex once they’ve committed to a life of sexual recovery. I think you’ll find it an easy, informative, and useful read. To order, go to:
“Addicted to Sex” is a case study I had published last month in the Psychotherapy Networker Magazine. Although this magazine directs its writings to professionals, lay persons can benefit by the rich and varied information in it.
“Addicted to sex” incorporates the traditional cognitive/behavioral model of sex addiction treatment with attachment theory, privileging the therapeutic relationship and incorporating the use of the body.
It’s becoming more and more common today to hear about sexual scandals of the rich and famous or political leaders. While there’s no way to know whether or not George Alan Rekers, an anti-gay activist, is a sex addict, the allegations in this article illustrate the gross compartmentalization that sex addicts have to have in order to live double lives.
There’s an old wives tale that says, “if you masturbate, you’ll go blind.” I have always thought this was one of the most ridiculous, archaic things I’d ever heard, presumably designed for puritanical reasons. I have wondered for years where this saying came from. I still haven’t taken the time to research where it came from but I know one thing, it turns out to be an accurate statement!
I now understand that it doesn’t mean that a person will literally go blind from hours of masturbation, but that it means that they will figuratively go blind! Who knew?!
Case in point: According to many news sources (google: SEC Scandal), dozens of senior officials at the SEC visited porn sites 16,000 times in one month! A senior attorney is reported to have spent 8 hours a day looking at pornography during the years when Bernie Madoff was financially raping the country. All of the SEC officials implicated in this scandal are reported to have been making over $200,000.00 per year - your tax dollars at work!
Again, the senior officials of the United States of America Securities and Exchange Commission were literally masturbating - compulsively - to pornography and NOT doing their job on taxpapyer’s time!
Talk about Nero fiddling while Rome was burning!!
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If you are a health care professional and interested in learning more about how to treat sexual addiction you will find this 18 hour course extremely helpful.
Beginning May 1 from 9am - noon I will be offering a 6 Saturday course that covers everything from how to define sex addiction to assessment, diagnosis, treatment concerns, family issues, restoring sexuality, and more.
Dates are: May 1, 8, 15, June 5, 12, 26
There are currently 2 spaces left!
For detailed information and to sign up call Douglas Evans at 310-801-9574.
Erotic Intelligence is a long awaited book for those in recovery from sex addiction who want to experience sex in healthy, erotic, and life-affirming ways.
