Heavy Internet porn use is not fun

Men, women, and teens are getting caught in the web of on-line pornography and, sometimes, can’t get out.  With the advent of more free porn than ever before and high levels of accessibility, porn addiction is on the rise.

A study in the UK of 1,057 adults aged 18-24 shows that looking at more than 10 hours a week of porn can have detrimental effects on desire for sex with a partner. Porn is rapidly becoming a substitute for actual sex because, for one thing,  it takes less work than intimate engagement with a partner.  Attaching to pornography can negatively impact the users ability to get aroused with a real person, and it can sometimes take months before a natural sexual arousal will return.

The article states:

Men who look at porn for 10 hours a week are much more likely to worry it is influencing their behaviour, the survey suggested.

Higher numbers of those heavy users said their porn viewing had upset a partner or caused them to miss a meeting at work.

Men looking at porn for at least 10 hours a week were also more likely to say it can put them off real-life sex.

To read the article go to: http://www.bbc.co.uk/newsbeat/12918531.

He’s just not into anyone

New York Magazine writer, Davy Rothbart, takes us on an honest journey of what watching too much pornography can do to mens ability to keep an erection or ejaculate. He never talks about “addiction” to porn or cybersex addiction, but he makes it clear that porn affects the brain/bodies of men who overindulge.

See for yourself:


Ways women orgasm

Are you interested in the ways women orgasm?  If so, why?  If not, why not?!

There are a lot of myths about female orgasm and little understanding about female sexual arousal.  The truth is that all women are NOT created equal in this area.  Each woman has distinctly different patterns of arousal and needs to understand her own body so that she can bring herself to orgasm.  Once a woman is familiar with her sexuality in intimate ways and what her sexual preferences are, she can then communicate them to her partner. Sex Therapy Los Angeles

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Erotic Intelligence: Igniting Hot, Healthy Sex While in Recovery From Sex Addiction

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What is Sleep Sex?

Do you know there are a host of parasomnia’s meaning involuntary behaviors that occur during sleep? Everyone’s heard of sleep walking but sexsomnia or “sleep sex” can be a bigger problem.  That’s right!  People can masturbate during sleep, talk dirty, or worse yet, break the law by forcing sex on to another person. Sex Therapy Los Angeles

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The Female Brain

If you are female and want to know more about how you tick, if you have a female child, or if you are in relationship with a female I HIGHLY recommend you read “The Female Brain” by Louann Brizendine, M.D.

Dr. Brizendine simply and clearly lays out the differences between the male and female brains and makes it easy to understand.  She finally lays to rest the argument about nature vs. nuture and gives scientific evidence for why women are the way they are – versus just being from “Venus.”

You can order this book from www.amazon.com

Happy reading and let us know what you think! Sex Therapy Los Angeles

Was David Carradine a Sex Addict?

It’s difficult to answer that question with certainty but given the information in the article posted below, it doesn’t look good for the fallen Kung-Fu actor. Sex Addiction Los Angeles

Not everyone who dies of a sexually-related death is a sex addict.  But according to his ex-wives (he had five), he engaged in potentially leathel sexual behaviors when seemed to escalate over time.  Developing a tolerance is one of the ear-marks of sex addiction.

Did he ultimately kill himself due to his preference for tying himself up?  It sure looks that way.  Although one of his ex-wives states that he used to tie himself up, the reports of the condition he was in when found dead indicate that there was another party present.

I’m no Sherlock Holmes but my speculation is that the sex-play went awry with one or both parties pushing the envelope too far.  When it was clear that Mr. Carradine was dead, his sexual partner fled the scene.

For more detailed information on the topic, go to http://http://www.nydailynews.com/news/2009/06/10/2009-06-10_thai_tabloid_david_carradine_photos_show_fishets_wig_womens_lingerie.html

The Porn Industry Kills…

Whether or not pornography is good for a culture or not is a complicated topic. On the one hand the right to print and view porn is a free speech issue, and on the other hand it can be a human rights issue.  Many young men and women die every year due to overdose, suicide, homicide, and accidents due to the torment they are going through working in porn films.   

Although I don’t have an answer about what is “right” and what is “wrong” where the availability of porn is concerned, former porn actress, Shelley Luben does.  She has created a crusade to help people get out of the porn industry.  Her site does anything but glamorize an industry that chews people up and spits them out. 

Watching porn is not a victimless crime. Porn Addiction Los Angeles

Eleven porn porn stars died from HIV, suicide, homicide and drugs in 2007.
Between 2003 and 2005, 976 performers were reported with 1,153 positive STD results.
66% of porn performers have Herpes, a non-curable disease.

To read more about porn industry stats and current legislation in the state of California, go to http://www.shelleylubben.com/index.php?truth=home

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His and Her Sexual Health

Male or female, just about any question you may have about sexual dysfunction or sexual desire can be found on this web site.  Questions about medication, pain, prostate health or orgasm can be answered.

Go to: http://www.hisandherhealth.com/authors/dr.-aline-zoldbrod-expert-in-sex-therapy.html

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