Heavy Internet porn use is not fun

Men, women, and teens are getting caught in the web of on-line pornography and, sometimes, can’t get out.  With the advent of more free porn than ever before and high levels of accessibility, porn addiction is on the rise.

A study in the UK of 1,057 adults aged 18-24 shows that looking at more than 10 hours a week of porn can have detrimental effects on desire for sex with a partner. Porn is rapidly becoming a substitute for actual sex because, for one thing,  it takes less work than intimate engagement with a partner.  Attaching to pornography can negatively impact the users ability to get aroused with a real person, and it can sometimes take months before a natural sexual arousal will return.

The article states:

Men who look at porn for 10 hours a week are much more likely to worry it is influencing their behaviour, the survey suggested.

Higher numbers of those heavy users said their porn viewing had upset a partner or caused them to miss a meeting at work.

Men looking at porn for at least 10 hours a week were also more likely to say it can put them off real-life sex.

To read the article go to: http://www.bbc.co.uk/newsbeat/12918531.

Erotic Intelligence Workshop for Couples

The Center for Healthy Sex presents a weekend workshop for couples in recovery from sexual addiction.  Based on my book, “Erotic Intelligence: Igniting Hot, Healthy Sex While in Recovery From Sex Addiction” this weekend workshop will focus on intimacy building skills toward the goal of creating sexual desire. Sex Therapy Los Angeles

Workshop dates are Friday, September 17 – Sunday, September 19

For more details go to www.thecenterforhealthysex.com or call 310-335-0997


What is Erotic Intelligence?

What is erotic intelligence?  The word erotic means the “deliberate seeking of pleasure” and the word intelligence means the “skilled use of reason.”  Therefore, erotic intelligence means the deliberate seeking of pleasure using skilled reasoning.

Sex addicts deliberately seek pleasure, yet do so  without the skilled use of reason.  I wrote Erotic Intelligence: Igniting Hot Healthy Sex While in Recovery from Sex Addiction as a guide to assist individuals in sexual recovery to skillfully move towards healthy, intimate, and erotic sex.

To read portions of each chapter of the book, go to the following site:

http://www.thecenterforhealthysex.com/eroticintelligence/book/



Behavioral Health & Addictive Disorders Conference – Newport Beach, CA

Join me, Claudia Black, Dan Amen, John Bradshaw, and may others from June 17-19 in Newport Beach, California for this cutting-edge, informative conference! Sex Addiction Treatment Los Angeles

I will be presenting  information from my new book, “Erotic Intelligence” and talking about the effects of early childhood attachment patterns on sexual addiction.

Come to my book signing and say “hello!”  I look forward to seeing you there.

Ways women orgasm

Are you interested in the ways women orgasm?  If so, why?  If not, why not?!

There are a lot of myths about female orgasm and little understanding about female sexual arousal.  The truth is that all women are NOT created equal in this area.  Each woman has distinctly different patterns of arousal and needs to understand her own body so that she can bring herself to orgasm.  Once a woman is familiar with her sexuality in intimate ways and what her sexual preferences are, she can then communicate them to her partner. Sex Therapy Los Angeles

For more information on female orgasm go to:

http://www.wayswomenorgasm.org/


Erotic Intelligence now available!

Why I Wrote Erotic Intelligence – Watch the video!

You can order my new book,  “Erotic Intelligence: Igniting Hot Healthy Sex While in Recovery From Sex Addiction” at the Amazon link below.  I wrote this book because so many people struggle with how to have healthy, exciting sex once they’ve committed to a life of sexual recovery.  I think you’ll find it an easy, informative, and useful read.  To order, go to:

http://www.amazon.com/Erotic-Intelligence-Igniting-Recovery-Addiction/dp/0757314376/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1272214335&sr=1-1

Why I Wrote Erotic Intelligence – Watch the video!

Read the book, tell your friends, and comment on the Amazon page!

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Erotic Intelligence: Igniting Hot, Healthy Sex While in Recovery From Sex Addiction

Erotic Intelligence is a long awaited book for those in recovery from sex addiction who want to experience sex in healthy, erotic, and life-affirming ways. Sex Addiction Los Angeles

http://www.amazon.com/Erotic-Intelligence-Igniting-Recovery-Addiction/dp/0757314376/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1267983684&sr=1-1


Teleclass with Joe Kort: Why Does THAT Arouse Me?

Learn the hidden meaning of what turns you on! Sex Therapy Los Angeles

Wednesday, October 28 at 8:30PM EST

Fee: $15.00

To register go to

http://www.webmarketingmagic.com/SecureCart/SecureCart.aspx?mid=961EB94A-5D07-4777-9E7A-3311AD69D915&pid=34b8b6c488b342faac96019b28f3033a

You will receive your call-in number via email
Joe Kort learned the benefit of helping people explore the origins of their fantasies through years of work with men who are addicted to sex and from those who have been sexually abused. By “cracking the erotic code” and learning the narrative of what the sexual desires mean can help you feel better about your sexuality and learn more about yourself.

Sex-Surrogate Therapy

Many people think sex-surrogate therapists are a thing of the past.  Fortunately for many, they are not! Sex Therapy Los Angeles

A sex-surrogate therapist can act as a substitute partner if you don’t have a partner at home who is able or willing to work with your sexual concerns.  Often surrogacy is limited to women helping men because men seem to have more sexual problems during sex with women.  A qualified sex- surrogate often has extensive training and creates a safe and supportive environment to resolve sexual issues.

When working with a sex-surrogate, it is advisable to be in therapy with a sex therapist.  This creates a comprehensive program because the sex therapist and sex-surrogate can create a treatment plan together with you to fit your needs.

To learn more about sex-surrogate therapy visit the Center for Sexual Enhancement’s website at:

http://www.sexualsuccess.com/surrogate_therapy.php

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The Spirituality of Sex

In the 10th and 11th centuries in in India, sex was  was thought to be a path to spirituality.

Today, sex has been denigrated to a fast-food item, to be consumed strictly for the high it brings without the heart and soul of exploration into the divine.

In their article “The Spirituality of Sex,” Jurriaan Kamp and Tijn Touber take you through the stages of change sex has undergone over the ages. They bring us full circle  back to sex as a meaning-making meeting of two souls for the purposes of personal growth and development. Sex Therapy Los Angeles

To read their article, go to:http://www.care2.com/greenliving/the-spirituality-of-sex.html

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