Story of a “dark marriage”- living with a sex addict

Sally Ryder Brady reveals a life of abuse in her marriage to an alcoholic and sex addict.   This memoir, written by a widow who discovered, upon her husband’s death after almost 50 years of marriage, that he had a double life, affairs with men and gay porn, and he was $70 thousand dollars in debt.  The memoir is about her reflecting back on her life and trying to figure out “what do I know that I didn’t know I knew until now?”  Her husband, a well-regarded editor of Atlantic Monthly, was an emotionally abusive alcoholic and she of course, had grown up in an abusive family, making her a primary candidate to marry an addict.

To read more in-depth reviews of the book and to order the book, go to the link below:

http://www.amazon.com/box-darkness-story-marriage/dp/B004JBR1XA

Sexual Behaviors in the United States: A Study

Michael Reece, Ph.D. and his colleagues at the Center for Sexual Health Promotion at Indiana University
recently released results from the National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior (NSSHB), a study based on answers from 5,865 Americans between the ages of 14-94. “This survey is one of the most expansive
nationally representative studies of sexual behavior and condom use ever conducted, given the 80-year span of [participants’] ages,” Reece says. The Journal of Sexual Medicine publishednine papers (using NSSHB data) by Indiana University researchers in its October issue. In addition to Reece, the research team included
Debby Herbenick, PhD, Stephanie Sanders, PhD, J. Dennis Fortenberry, MD, MS, VanessaSchick, PhD, and Brian Dodge, PhD. Sex Therapy Los Angeles

Perhaps the most wide-ranging of the studies is titled, “Sexual Behaviors in the United States: Results from
a National Probability Sample of Men and Women Aged 14-94.” That report includes data on masturbation (alone and partnered), oral sex (receiving and giving), vaginal intercourse and anal intercourse (receiving
and inserting) categorized by nearly a dozen age ranges.

Among the findings:
• The proportion of people having vaginal sex is highest for men ages 25-39 and women ages 20-
29. As might be expected, the frequency of vaginal sex declines with age.

• Masturbation is common among all age groups, but never dips below 33 percent (for those masturbating alone at least once in the past year). The highest rates were among individuals ages 25-29: 84 percent for men and 72 percentfor women.
• Oral sex was rare among 14- to 15-year-olds, but 18 percent of 16- to 17-year-old males and 22 percent of 16- to 17-year-old females engaging in oral sex in the past year.
• About one-fifth of men ages 25-49 and women ages 20-39 engaged in anal sex in the past year.

Reprinted from: Contemporary Sexuality www.aasect.org | December 2010 Vol. 44, No. 12

What’s the difference between having an affair and being cheated on?

Writer, Wendy Plump, writes a courageous and meaningful article in the New York Times in which she reveals her experiences on both sides of this coin.  Take a look at the article and let us know what you think:

http://www.nytimes.com/2010/12/12/fashion/12Modern.html?pagewanted=1&_r=1

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Females can be sex addicts too!

A recent article in Marie Claire Magazine talks about how sex addiction affects females.  I believe women get caught in a neuro-hormonal roller coaster where they chase sex for love hoping to meet “the one.” Take a look at this well-written article. Female sex Addiction Treatment Los Angeles

http://www.marieclaire.com/sex-love/relationship-issues/articles/women-sex-addicts


Female sex and love addiction

Women have a lot of difficulty getting the courage to reach out and get the help they need when it comes to problematic sexual behaviors.  A the Center for Healthy Sex, we’re committed to helping women talk about and heal from these issues without shame.

To learn more about this problem, take a look at this article I co-wrote with Caroline Frost of CHS

recoveryview.com/2010/09/understanding-female-sex-addiction/

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Intensive Out-Patient Treatment for Sex Addiction

Did you just figure out that you’re a sex addict?  Have you been in sexual recovery for a while and continue to struggle with staying sexually sober on a plan?  Do you think your partner is a sex addict and think he/she needs help?

At the Center for Healthy Sex we offer a low cost, highly effective alternative to long-term, more expensive in-patient hospital care.  For over ten years, the team at CHS has been providing intensive out-patient sex addiction treatment program for those in need.

Our IOPs are usually scheduled for the middle two weeks of every month.  To learn more about our 11-day program call 310-843-9902 or visit out site at www.thecenterforhealthysex.com

At CHS we’re devoted to assisting you in restoring your sexual health!

More than 40% of Teens in the US Have Had Sex

Hard to believe?  One quarter of them state that they would be pleased if their partner got pregnant.  According to the article in US News,  teen pregnancy has been on the decline the past two decades. These numbers are still high and likely have to do with the continued lack of sex education. Sex Therapy Los Angeles

For more detailed information, take a look at the article at the link below then let us know your thoughts on this topic:

http://health.usnews.com/health-news/family-health/womens-health/articles/2010/06/02/more-than-40-of-us-teens-have-had-sex.html


Behavioral Health & Addictive Disorders Conference – Newport Beach, CA

Join me, Claudia Black, Dan Amen, John Bradshaw, and may others from June 17-19 in Newport Beach, California for this cutting-edge, informative conference! Sex Addiction Treatment Los Angeles

I will be presenting  information from my new book, “Erotic Intelligence” and talking about the effects of early childhood attachment patterns on sexual addiction.

Come to my book signing and say “hello!”  I look forward to seeing you there.

Anit-gay activist accused of sexual liason with male prostitute

It’s becoming more and more common today to hear about sexual scandals of the rich and famous or political leaders.  While there’s no way to know whether or not George Alan Rekers, an anti-gay activist,  is a sex addict, the allegations in this article illustrate the gross compartmentalization that sex addicts have to have in order to live double lives. Sex Addiction Los Angeles

Check out the details by clicking on this link:

http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=126539946&sc=17&f=1001

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Infidelity not a death sentence

Infidelity is a painful experience of betrayal and experts say it can be healed.

Imagine finding out that the person you trust the most has hurt you more than anyone.  People who have been betrayed express feeling like the world around them no longer makes any longer, that they can’t trust their instincts, and that every thing they once believed in has lost it’s value.

If you or someone you know has suffered from infidelity take time to get the help you need in order to heal.  Take a look at Janis Spring-Abrams book, “After the Affair” and read the article below. Sex Addiction Los Angeles

http://health.discovery.com/centers/loverelationships/articles/infidelity.html