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When sex is hot and heavy with your partner, there’s nothing to talk about. Over time your sexual attraction, libido, desires, and interests change. If you don’t talk about it sooner rather than later, you could find yourself in martial gridlock.
Check out this article and start talking about sex daily - you won’t be sorry!
30% of young and middle-aged women go through a period of little to no sexual desire. While some women say that they’re O.K. with not having sex again, often times that’s not true.
Lori Brotto is one of the world’s leading experts on hypoactive sexual desire disorder in women. Through her research and experience, she now instructs women on how to be mindful of the sensations in their bodies, leading them to experience themselves as highly sexual, erotic beings. In her thinking, desire takes time…
If you are female and struggle with low sexual desire, we can help! 310-335-0997
To read the article, go to:
http://www.nytimes.com/2009/11/29/magazine/29sex-t.html?_r=1&emc=eta1
Are you married to a sex addict or in relationship with one? Have you recently learned that your partner has been cheating on you? Have you already been through the pain of discovery and need support to keep working on yourself and the relationship?
If you answered “yes” to any of these questions, join Rebecca Ishida, MFT beginning January 13, 2010 from 7:00 - 9:00 p.m for our weekly partner’s group.
Support from others who are struggling with the pain and heartbreak of betrayal in a safe environment will help you to heal. You will feel better and stronger when you can express your feelings, understand what sex addiction is, who you are in relation to it, the effects it has had on you, and whether or not you should stay in your relationship.
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In the 10th and 11th centuries in in India, sex was was thought to be a path to spirituality.
Today, sex has been denigrated to a fast-food item, to be consumed strictly for the high it brings without the heart and soul of exploration into the divine.
In their article “The Spirituality of Sex,” Jurriaan Kamp and Tijn Touber take you through the stages of change sex has undergone over the ages. They bring us full circle back to sex as a meaning-making meeting of two souls for the purposes of personal growth and development.
To read their article, go to:http://www.care2.com/greenliving/the-spirituality-of-sex.html
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If you are female and want to know more about how you tick, if you have a female child, or if you are in relationship with a female I HIGHLY recommend you read “The Female Brain” by Louann Brizendine, M.D.
Dr. Brizendine simply and clearly lays out the differences between the male and female brains and makes it easy to understand. She finally lays to rest the argument about nature vs. nuture and gives scientific evidence for why women are the way they are - versus just being from “Venus.”
You can order this book from www.amazon.com
Happy reading and let us know what you think!
The updated and new edition of the book that changed the way we think about romance, love and intimacy is now available!
In the expanded 3rd edition of her best selling classic Is It Love or Is It Addiction?, psychologist Dr. Brenda Schaeffer offers readers an expert prognosis of love addiction, what it is, what it is not, how to identify it, and most important, how to get you out of it and into healthy love. It includes:
If you are ready to move towards a healthier love life and join the thousands whose lives have already been changed by this book, click here: www.itsallaboutlove.com
The book is also available through hazelden.org, amazon.com and at bookstores.
Anthropologist Helen Fisher talks about why we love on this video at Ted.com. She states that romantic love is a basic mating drive and can be an addiction as well.
Love addiction is comprised of focus, obsession, craving, distorting reality, and taking risks. It also shares the same features of chemical addiction such as tolerance, withdrawl, and relapse.
To watch the video, go to
http//www.ted.com/index.php/talks/helen_fisher_studies_the_brain_in_love.html
Dr. Fisher states, “love is in us, it’s deeply embeded in the brain.”
Whether or not pornography is good for a culture or not is a complicated topic. On the one hand the right to print and view porn is a free speech issue, and on the other hand it can be a human rights issue. Many young men and women die every year due to overdose, suicide, homicide, and accidents due to the torment they are going through working in porn films.
Although I don’t have an answer about what is “right” and what is “wrong” where the availability of porn is concerned, former porn actress, Shelley Luben does. She has created a crusade to help people get out of the porn industry. Her site does anything but glamorize an industry that chews people up and spits them out.
Watching porn is not a victimless crime.
Eleven porn porn stars died from HIV, suicide, homicide and drugs in 2007.
Between 2003 and 2005, 976 performers were reported with 1,153 positive STD results.
66% of porn performers have Herpes, a non-curable disease.
To read more about porn industry stats and current legislation in the state of California, go to http://www.shelleylubben.com/index.php?truth=home
Click on the comment button below and let us know what you think about this topic.
If you are female and are worried about your sexual behaviors, take a look at this video produced by faithave.com. Marnie Feree, a long-time expert on female sex addiction, talks about the facts of female sex addiction.
This is a faith-based message which I neither endorse or condem. As they say in the 12-step tradition, “take what you like and leave the rest.” To view the video go to:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bTJkfUibkIY&feature=PlayList&p=5D83675D836231D3&index=0
Is there such a thing as sexual fluidity or is our sexuality static? This author offers both research and explanation as to why/how it’s possible that our sexuality fluctuates over time and according to who were with and where we are in our lives.
“I Kissed a Girl” Sexual Fluidity: Understanding Women’s Love and Desire by Lisa M. Diamond Cambridge, MA: Harvard University Press, 2008, is available in hardcover should you want to read the book.
Below you will find an excerpt of her book reviewed by Ellyn Ruthstrom:
In a culture most comfortable analyzing important issues using binary concepts—Democrat/Republican, pro/con, right/wrong—the straight/gay binary of sexual orientation is particularly well-defended. Admitting to any element of ambiguity or changeability in this most intimate part of our identities strikes fear into the hearts of many. Certainly the biphobia—prejudice against bisexuals—that is exhibited by both the straight and gay communities is a manifestation of that fear. If we understood ambiguity better, would we be able to accept that a fluid sexual orientation is as valid as any other? Would there be less distrust and apprehension of those whose sexuality doesn’t fit into a heads-or-tails reality?
To read the rest of the article, go to http://www.wcwonline.org/content/view/1945/
Or to read another article on why women leave men, go to http://www.cnn.com/2009/LIVING/personal/04/23/o.women.leave.menfor.women/index.html
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