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What is erotic intelligence? The word erotic means the “deliberate seeking of pleasure” and the word intelligence means the “skilled use of reason.” Therefore, erotic intelligence means the deliberate seeking of pleasure using skilled reasoning.
Sex addicts deliberately seek pleasure, yet do so without the skilled use of reason. I wrote Erotic Intelligence: Igniting Hot Healthy Sex While in Recovery from Sex Addiction as a guide to assist individuals in sexual recovery to skillfully move towards healthy, intimate, and erotic sex.
To read portions of each chapter of the book, go to the following site:
Join me, Alex Katehakis, MFT, CSAT-S, CST, and Lance Tango, MA for coffee and pastry as we take a Jungian perspective on sexual addiction at the Center for Healthy Sex on July 9. Lance and I will look at the polarity of the body and mind, meaning we will examine how sex addict’s split off and compartmentalize so they can act out sexually with a high level of denial and dissociation.
Join me, Claudia Black, Dan Amen, John Bradshaw, and may others from June 17-19 in Newport Beach, California for this cutting-edge, informative conference!
I will be presenting information from my new book, “Erotic Intelligence” and talking about the effects of early childhood attachment patterns on sexual addiction.
Come to my book signing and say “hello!” I look forward to seeing you there.
It’s becoming more and more common today to hear about sexual scandals of the rich and famous or political leaders. While there’s no way to know whether or not George Alan Rekers, an anti-gay activist, is a sex addict, the allegations in this article illustrate the gross compartmentalization that sex addicts have to have in order to live double lives.
There’s an old wives tale that says, “if you masturbate, you’ll go blind.” I have always thought this was one of the most ridiculous, archaic things I’d ever heard, presumably designed for puritanical reasons. I have wondered for years where this saying came from. I still haven’t taken the time to research where it came from but I know one thing, it turns out to be an accurate statement!
I now understand that it doesn’t mean that a person will literally go blind from hours of masturbation, but that it means that they will figuratively go blind! Who knew?!
Case in point: According to many news sources (google: SEC Scandal), dozens of senior officials at the SEC visited porn sites 16,000 times in one month! A senior attorney is reported to have spent 8 hours a day looking at pornography during the years when Bernie Madoff was financially raping the country. All of the SEC officials implicated in this scandal are reported to have been making over $200,000.00 per year - your tax dollars at work!
Again, the senior officials of the United States of America Securities and Exchange Commission were literally masturbating - compulsively - to pornography and NOT doing their job on taxpapyer’s time!
Talk about Nero fiddling while Rome was burning!!
Let us know what you think about this mess by clicking the comment button below.
This exciting new book comes from Milton Magness, Ph.D. If you are new to sexual addiction recovery take a moment to go to the website below and check it out!
Hope & Freedom for Sexual Addicts and Their Partners
Dr. Milton Magness has a new recovery book out entitled:
Hope & Freedom for Sexual Addicts and Their Partners
This exciting new book Includes information about:
Recovery Components
Disclosure
Polygraph Exams as an Aid to Recovery
Celibacy Contracts
The Partner’s Recovery Journey
Slip and Relapse Recovery
A Blueprint for Rebuilding Broken Trust
When Is It Time to Move On?
If you’re currently a sex addict, involved with a sex addict, or already in recovery, I highly recommend that you pick up this book! To purchase the book, go to:
The Los Angeles Times reports that State Assemblyman Mike Duvall resigned on Wednesday, Sepbember 9 after his lewd comments about women he had been sexually involved with were inadvertently broadcast over an open microphone during a lull in a Sacramento hearing in July.
This is another example of the split we see in sex addicts all the time. Mr. Duvall is a Republican, pro-family advocate who has clearly lead a double life. I’m not saying that he’s definately a sex addict but his behaviors certainly make him suspect.
