He’s just not into anyone

New York Magazine writer, Davy Rothbart, takes us on an honest journey of what watching too much pornography can do to mens ability to keep an erection or ejaculate. He never talks about “addiction” to porn or cybersex addiction, but he makes it clear that porn affects the brain/bodies of men who overindulge.

See for yourself:

http://nymag.com/news/features/70976/


Story of a “dark marriage”- living with a sex addict

Sally Ryder Brady reveals a life of abuse in her marriage to an alcoholic and sex addict.   This memoir, written by a widow who discovered, upon her husband’s death after almost 50 years of marriage, that he had a double life, affairs with men and gay porn, and he was $70 thousand dollars in debt.  The memoir is about her reflecting back on her life and trying to figure out “what do I know that I didn’t know I knew until now?”  Her husband, a well-regarded editor of Atlantic Monthly, was an emotionally abusive alcoholic and she of course, had grown up in an abusive family, making her a primary candidate to marry an addict.

To read more in-depth reviews of the book and to order the book, go to the link below:

http://www.amazon.com/box-darkness-story-marriage/dp/B004JBR1XA

Sexual Behaviors in the United States: A Study

Michael Reece, Ph.D. and his colleagues at the Center for Sexual Health Promotion at Indiana University
recently released results from the National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior (NSSHB), a study based on answers from 5,865 Americans between the ages of 14-94. “This survey is one of the most expansive
nationally representative studies of sexual behavior and condom use ever conducted, given the 80-year span of [participants’] ages,” Reece says. The Journal of Sexual Medicine publishednine papers (using NSSHB data) by Indiana University researchers in its October issue. In addition to Reece, the research team included
Debby Herbenick, PhD, Stephanie Sanders, PhD, J. Dennis Fortenberry, MD, MS, VanessaSchick, PhD, and Brian Dodge, PhD. Sex Therapy Los Angeles

Perhaps the most wide-ranging of the studies is titled, “Sexual Behaviors in the United States: Results from
a National Probability Sample of Men and Women Aged 14-94.” That report includes data on masturbation (alone and partnered), oral sex (receiving and giving), vaginal intercourse and anal intercourse (receiving
and inserting) categorized by nearly a dozen age ranges.

Among the findings:
• The proportion of people having vaginal sex is highest for men ages 25-39 and women ages 20-
29. As might be expected, the frequency of vaginal sex declines with age.

• Masturbation is common among all age groups, but never dips below 33 percent (for those masturbating alone at least once in the past year). The highest rates were among individuals ages 25-29: 84 percent for men and 72 percentfor women.
• Oral sex was rare among 14- to 15-year-olds, but 18 percent of 16- to 17-year-old males and 22 percent of 16- to 17-year-old females engaging in oral sex in the past year.
• About one-fifth of men ages 25-49 and women ages 20-39 engaged in anal sex in the past year.

Reprinted from: Contemporary Sexuality www.aasect.org | December 2010 Vol. 44, No. 12

What’s the difference between having an affair and being cheated on?

Writer, Wendy Plump, writes a courageous and meaningful article in the New York Times in which she reveals her experiences on both sides of this coin.  Take a look at the article and let us know what you think:

http://www.nytimes.com/2010/12/12/fashion/12Modern.html?pagewanted=1&_r=1

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Bringing up kids in a porn culture…

How do you do it today?  How do you bring up sexually healthy kids when there is so much pornography available at the click of a mouse? Take a look at this article by Gail Danes, author of “Pornland: How Porn Has Hijacked Our Sexuality.” Porn Addiction Los Angeles

After you read the article, let us know what you think!

http://www.mamapedia.com/voices/bringing-up-kids-in-a-porn-culture


Female sex and love addiction

Women have a lot of difficulty getting the courage to reach out and get the help they need when it comes to problematic sexual behaviors.  A the Center for Healthy Sex, we’re committed to helping women talk about and heal from these issues without shame.

To learn more about this problem, take a look at this article I co-wrote with Caroline Frost of CHS

recoveryview.com/2010/09/understanding-female-sex-addiction/

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What do you do when you’re divorcing a sex addict?

Virginia Gilbert, MFT intern and writer asked me this question. Partner of a sex addict. Follow this link to read our conversation:

www.examiner.com/divorce-parenting-in-los-angeles/when-your-ex-is-a-sex-addict-helping-your-kids-and-healing-yourself?sms_ss=aolmail

Craigslist shuts down adult services listing

A twenty-four year old medical student murdered a masseuse he found off Craigslist then killed himself while in prison for the crime.  After investigating the crimes, the state attorney generals have ordered Craigslist to shut down their adult services listing. Sex Addiction Treatment Los Angeles

Craigslist officials argue that their ads are no more explicit then other on-line services and are calling this move censorship.

To read the article go to:

http://www.nytimes.com/aponline/2010/09/04/business/AP-US-Craigslist-Adult-Services.html?_r=1&partner=rss&emc=rss

What do you think?  Is this censorship or public protection?  Click the comment button below and let us know.


Erotic Intelligence Workshop for Couples

The Center for Healthy Sex presents a weekend workshop for couples in recovery from sexual addiction.  Based on my book, “Erotic Intelligence: Igniting Hot, Healthy Sex While in Recovery From Sex Addiction” this weekend workshop will focus on intimacy building skills toward the goal of creating sexual desire. Sex Therapy Los Angeles

Workshop dates are Friday, September 17 – Sunday, September 19

For more details go to www.thecenterforhealthysex.com or call 310-335-0997


New York Times Article on Sex Addiciton

This article interviews legitimate therapists who speak about the treatment of sex addiction intelligently.  Take a look at:

http://www.nytimes.com/2010/02/23/health/23ther.html?emc=eta1

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