Sex, Lies, and Congressman Weiner

Another sex scandal? They’re coming so fast now I can hardly keep up with them.  Are men in power acting “like pigs” as the May 30 Time Magazine accuses them of.  Take a look at this article in Time Magazine last week: http://www.time.com/time/covers/0,16641,20110530,00.html

On the matter of Weiner, this guy has all the signs and symptoms of sexually addictive behaviors.  You might think his arrogance is shocking then be fooled by his willingness to apologize over and over again.  Don’t let the apology fool you.  He will act out again if he doesn’t get help because he can’t stop himself.

Let’s see what happens…

Heavy Internet porn use is not fun

Men, women, and teens are getting caught in the web of on-line pornography and, sometimes, can’t get out.  With the advent of more free porn than ever before and high levels of accessibility, porn addiction is on the rise.

A study in the UK of 1,057 adults aged 18-24 shows that looking at more than 10 hours a week of porn can have detrimental effects on desire for sex with a partner. Porn is rapidly becoming a substitute for actual sex because, for one thing,  it takes less work than intimate engagement with a partner.  Attaching to pornography can negatively impact the users ability to get aroused with a real person, and it can sometimes take months before a natural sexual arousal will return.

The article states:

Men who look at porn for 10 hours a week are much more likely to worry it is influencing their behaviour, the survey suggested.

Higher numbers of those heavy users said their porn viewing had upset a partner or caused them to miss a meeting at work.

Men looking at porn for at least 10 hours a week were also more likely to say it can put them off real-life sex.

To read the article go to: http://www.bbc.co.uk/newsbeat/12918531.

Scientists discover new stress neuropathway

Everyone experiences some kind of stress in their lives but traumatic stress impacts some people more than others. It seems that some people are more susceptible to the impact of stress on the brain, creating anxiety or depressive disorders.  Sex addicts, and sometimes their partners, can suffer from both anxiety or depression or both due to childhood trauma.

Here is an excerpt from the study:

“The study found that the emotional centre of the brain – the amygdala – reacts to stress by increasing production of a protein called neuropsin. This triggers a series of chemical events which in turn cause the amygdala to increase its activity. As a consequence, a gene is turned on that determines the stress response at a cellular level.”

To read the article, go to:

http://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/222991.php#bXpulseX

Is your partner cheating on you?

Did you know that 50-70% of married men cheat?! AND, 2/3 of all women being cheated on have no idea.  If you think your spouse is cheating then they probably are.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/agi-smith/im-divorced-but-the-shame_b_817109.html?ref=email_share

TIME Magazine questions sex addiction as a bona fide problem

The battle continues on whether sex addiction is really a problem of addiction or bad behavior.  I contend that what we call “sex addiction” is really a problem of unresolved childhood trauma that leads to repetitive, often destructive behaviors.

Take a look at this article and let us know what you think by clicking the comment button below.

http://www.time.com/time/magazine/article/0,9171,2050027,00.html

Alternatives to the sex addiction model

Bill Hearing in Atlanta, Georgia has written a terrific article in order to reach people who don’t get the help they need because they resist the word “addict”.  He writes, “It seems to me that there are only a
few other words they can use, and each carries its own profound implication
that people often choose to overlook, generally to their own detriment.”

To read this article, click on the link below and let us know what you think.

http://billherring.info/atlanta_counseling/alternatives-to-the-sex-addiction-model

He’s just not into anyone

New York Magazine writer, Davy Rothbart, takes us on an honest journey of what watching too much pornography can do to mens ability to keep an erection or ejaculate. He never talks about “addiction” to porn or cybersex addiction, but he makes it clear that porn affects the brain/bodies of men who overindulge.

See for yourself:

http://nymag.com/news/features/70976/


Story of a “dark marriage”- living with a sex addict

Sally Ryder Brady reveals a life of abuse in her marriage to an alcoholic and sex addict.   This memoir, written by a widow who discovered, upon her husband’s death after almost 50 years of marriage, that he had a double life, affairs with men and gay porn, and he was $70 thousand dollars in debt.  The memoir is about her reflecting back on her life and trying to figure out “what do I know that I didn’t know I knew until now?”  Her husband, a well-regarded editor of Atlantic Monthly, was an emotionally abusive alcoholic and she of course, had grown up in an abusive family, making her a primary candidate to marry an addict.

To read more in-depth reviews of the book and to order the book, go to the link below:

http://www.amazon.com/box-darkness-story-marriage/dp/B004JBR1XA

Sex addiction rehab a thriving industry

Is sex addiction treatment big business OR is the problem growing so rapidly that treatment centers are needed? The Los Angeles Times ran an article on Monday, November 15 posing these questions and begain the article with the services the Center for Healthy Sex provides:

When she hung out her shingle as a sex addiction therapist in 1997, Alexandra Katehakis had only a handful of colleagues.

“There were five people in this field and we all knew each other,” she said.

These days, Katehakis, a licensed marriage and family therapist, has hundreds of competitors and has grown her Los Angeles solo practice into the Center for Healthy Sex, “a full-blown organization” with a team of counselors, an intensive outpatient program, a range of therapy groups, an expansive website and training for other therapists.

Celebrities have been the greatest evangelists for treatment. “My practice wouldn’t exist without them,” Katehakis said.

To read the entire article go to:

http://www.latimes.com/news/nationworld/nation/la-et-sex-addiction-20101115,0,3778215.story

Females can be sex addicts too!

A recent article in Marie Claire Magazine talks about how sex addiction affects females.  I believe women get caught in a neuro-hormonal roller coaster where they chase sex for love hoping to meet “the one.” Take a look at this well-written article. Female sex Addiction Treatment Los Angeles

http://www.marieclaire.com/sex-love/relationship-issues/articles/women-sex-addicts