Sex, Lies, and Congressman Weiner

Another sex scandal? They’re coming so fast now I can hardly keep up with them.  Are men in power acting “like pigs” as the May 30 Time Magazine accuses them of.  Take a look at this article in Time Magazine last week: http://www.time.com/time/covers/0,16641,20110530,00.html

On the matter of Weiner, this guy has all the signs and symptoms of sexually addictive behaviors.  You might think his arrogance is shocking then be fooled by his willingness to apologize over and over again.  Don’t let the apology fool you.  He will act out again if he doesn’t get help because he can’t stop himself.

Let’s see what happens…

Heavy Internet porn use is not fun

Men, women, and teens are getting caught in the web of on-line pornography and, sometimes, can’t get out.  With the advent of more free porn than ever before and high levels of accessibility, porn addiction is on the rise.

A study in the UK of 1,057 adults aged 18-24 shows that looking at more than 10 hours a week of porn can have detrimental effects on desire for sex with a partner. Porn is rapidly becoming a substitute for actual sex because, for one thing,  it takes less work than intimate engagement with a partner.  Attaching to pornography can negatively impact the users ability to get aroused with a real person, and it can sometimes take months before a natural sexual arousal will return.

The article states:

Men who look at porn for 10 hours a week are much more likely to worry it is influencing their behaviour, the survey suggested.

Higher numbers of those heavy users said their porn viewing had upset a partner or caused them to miss a meeting at work.

Men looking at porn for at least 10 hours a week were also more likely to say it can put them off real-life sex.

To read the article go to: http://www.bbc.co.uk/newsbeat/12918531.

Excessive internet porn usage leads to erectile dysfunction

How can excessive Internet porn usage lead to ED?

The brain gets fatigued from viewing the intense and highly graphic pornographic images that are available on-line, making real people less arousing.  When a real, attractive person comes into contact with an excessive Internet porn user, the brain of the porn user doesn’t recognize the person as novel enough to produce dopamine so the body doesn’t get a signal for arousal. In other words, the real person doesn’t activate the dopamine system in the brain so no excitement registers.

The trap is that porn can eventually become an addiction, rendering the user sexually impotent when they try to have real sex with another person.  Take a look at this dramatic and clear article at

http://goodmenproject.com/guy-talk/swearing-off-porn-saved-my-sex-life/

Let us know what you think!

TIME Magazine questions sex addiction as a bona fide problem

The battle continues on whether sex addiction is really a problem of addiction or bad behavior.  I contend that what we call “sex addiction” is really a problem of unresolved childhood trauma that leads to repetitive, often destructive behaviors.

Take a look at this article and let us know what you think by clicking the comment button below.

http://www.time.com/time/magazine/article/0,9171,2050027,00.html

He’s just not into anyone

New York Magazine writer, Davy Rothbart, takes us on an honest journey of what watching too much pornography can do to mens ability to keep an erection or ejaculate. He never talks about “addiction” to porn or cybersex addiction, but he makes it clear that porn affects the brain/bodies of men who overindulge.

See for yourself:

http://nymag.com/news/features/70976/


Story of a “dark marriage”- living with a sex addict

Sally Ryder Brady reveals a life of abuse in her marriage to an alcoholic and sex addict.   This memoir, written by a widow who discovered, upon her husband’s death after almost 50 years of marriage, that he had a double life, affairs with men and gay porn, and he was $70 thousand dollars in debt.  The memoir is about her reflecting back on her life and trying to figure out “what do I know that I didn’t know I knew until now?”  Her husband, a well-regarded editor of Atlantic Monthly, was an emotionally abusive alcoholic and she of course, had grown up in an abusive family, making her a primary candidate to marry an addict.

To read more in-depth reviews of the book and to order the book, go to the link below:

http://www.amazon.com/box-darkness-story-marriage/dp/B004JBR1XA

Bringing up kids in a porn culture…

How do you do it today?  How do you bring up sexually healthy kids when there is so much pornography available at the click of a mouse? Take a look at this article by Gail Danes, author of “Pornland: How Porn Has Hijacked Our Sexuality.” Porn Addiction Los Angeles

After you read the article, let us know what you think!

http://www.mamapedia.com/voices/bringing-up-kids-in-a-porn-culture


Craigslist shuts down adult services listing

A twenty-four year old medical student murdered a masseuse he found off Craigslist then killed himself while in prison for the crime.  After investigating the crimes, the state attorney generals have ordered Craigslist to shut down their adult services listing. Sex Addiction Treatment Los Angeles

Craigslist officials argue that their ads are no more explicit then other on-line services and are calling this move censorship.

To read the article go to:

http://www.nytimes.com/aponline/2010/09/04/business/AP-US-Craigslist-Adult-Services.html?_r=1&partner=rss&emc=rss

What do you think?  Is this censorship or public protection?  Click the comment button below and let us know.


Do you know what cybersex activities include?

Cybersex activities are not only viewing or downloading pornography along with masturbation, but also reading and writing sexually explicit letters and stories, e-mailing to set up personal meetings with someone, placing ads to meet sexual partners, visiting sexually oriented chat rooms, and engaging in interactive online affairs which include real-time viewing of each other using electronic cameras hooked up to the computer.

According to Dr. Mark Schwartz’s book “Sex on the Net is like heroin,” “Cybersex grabs people and takes over their lives, and treatments are very difficult because the people affected don’t want to give it up.”

Take a look at this article:

http://www.sagennext.com/2010/04/07/cybersex-addiction/


Intensive Out-Patient Treatment for Sex Addiction

Did you just figure out that you’re a sex addict?  Have you been in sexual recovery for a while and continue to struggle with staying sexually sober on a plan?  Do you think your partner is a sex addict and think he/she needs help?

At the Center for Healthy Sex we offer a low cost, highly effective alternative to long-term, more expensive in-patient hospital care.  For over ten years, the team at CHS has been providing intensive out-patient sex addiction treatment program for those in need.

Our IOPs are usually scheduled for the middle two weeks of every month.  To learn more about our 11-day program call 310-843-9902 or visit out site at www.thecenterforhealthysex.com

At CHS we’re devoted to assisting you in restoring your sexual health!