Scientists discover new stress neuropathway

Everyone experiences some kind of stress in their lives but traumatic stress impacts some people more than others. It seems that some people are more susceptible to the impact of stress on the brain, creating anxiety or depressive disorders.  Sex addicts, and sometimes their partners, can suffer from both anxiety or depression or both due to childhood trauma.

Here is an excerpt from the study:

“The study found that the emotional centre of the brain – the amygdala – reacts to stress by increasing production of a protein called neuropsin. This triggers a series of chemical events which in turn cause the amygdala to increase its activity. As a consequence, a gene is turned on that determines the stress response at a cellular level.”

To read the article, go to:

http://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/222991.php#bXpulseX

Is your partner cheating on you?

Did you know that 50-70% of married men cheat?! AND, 2/3 of all women being cheated on have no idea.  If you think your spouse is cheating then they probably are.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/agi-smith/im-divorced-but-the-shame_b_817109.html?ref=email_share

TIME Magazine questions sex addiction as a bona fide problem

The battle continues on whether sex addiction is really a problem of addiction or bad behavior.  I contend that what we call “sex addiction” is really a problem of unresolved childhood trauma that leads to repetitive, often destructive behaviors.

Take a look at this article and let us know what you think by clicking the comment button below.

http://www.time.com/time/magazine/article/0,9171,2050027,00.html

Alternatives to the sex addiction model

Bill Hearing in Atlanta, Georgia has written a terrific article in order to reach people who don’t get the help they need because they resist the word “addict”.  He writes, “It seems to me that there are only a
few other words they can use, and each carries its own profound implication
that people often choose to overlook, generally to their own detriment.”

To read this article, click on the link below and let us know what you think.

http://billherring.info/atlanta_counseling/alternatives-to-the-sex-addiction-model

Story of a “dark marriage”- living with a sex addict

Sally Ryder Brady reveals a life of abuse in her marriage to an alcoholic and sex addict.   This memoir, written by a widow who discovered, upon her husband’s death after almost 50 years of marriage, that he had a double life, affairs with men and gay porn, and he was $70 thousand dollars in debt.  The memoir is about her reflecting back on her life and trying to figure out “what do I know that I didn’t know I knew until now?”  Her husband, a well-regarded editor of Atlantic Monthly, was an emotionally abusive alcoholic and she of course, had grown up in an abusive family, making her a primary candidate to marry an addict.

To read more in-depth reviews of the book and to order the book, go to the link below:

http://www.amazon.com/box-darkness-story-marriage/dp/B004JBR1XA

Do you know what cybersex activities include?

Cybersex activities are not only viewing or downloading pornography along with masturbation, but also reading and writing sexually explicit letters and stories, e-mailing to set up personal meetings with someone, placing ads to meet sexual partners, visiting sexually oriented chat rooms, and engaging in interactive online affairs which include real-time viewing of each other using electronic cameras hooked up to the computer.

According to Dr. Mark Schwartz’s book “Sex on the Net is like heroin,” “Cybersex grabs people and takes over their lives, and treatments are very difficult because the people affected don’t want to give it up.”

Take a look at this article:

http://www.sagennext.com/2010/04/07/cybersex-addiction/


Assessing and Treating Love Addiction Free CEU Course at CHS, August 27

Join Aaron Alan, MFT, CSAT as he talks to you about “Assessing and Treating Love Addiction,” on Friday, August 27, 2010 at the Center for Healthy Sex.  Enjoy a cup of coffee and pastry as Aaron takes you through the mysterious process known as Love Addiction, which is showing up in our practices more frequently.

Click here to register: douglas@thecenterforhealthysex.com or CALL 310-843-9902

When: Friday August 27, 2010 9:30 – 11:00 am

Where: Center for Healthy Sex

Cost: Free!

Click here to register: douglas@thecenterforhealthysex.comor CALL 310-843-9902


Sex Addiction: Polarity of the Body and Mind – Free CEU Course at CHS July 9

Join me, Alex Katehakis, MFT, CSAT-S, CST, and Lance Tango, MA for coffee and pastry as we take a Jungian perspective on sex addiction at the Center for Healthy Sex on July 9.  Lance and I will look at the polarity of the body and mind, meaning we will examine how sex addicts split off and compartmentalize so they can act out sexually with a high level of denial and dissociation.

Click here to register: douglas@thecenterforhealthysex.com or CALL 310-843-9902

When: Friday July 9, 2010 9:30-11:00am

Where: Center for Healthy Sex, Los Angeles

Cost: Free!

Click here to register: douglas@thecenterforhealthysex.com or CALL 310-843-9902

We look forward to seeing you there!!


Psychotherapy Networker Magazine March/April issue

“Addicted to Sex” is a case study I had published last month in the Psychotherapy Networker Magazine.  Although this magazine directs its writings to professionals, lay persons can benefit by the rich and varied information in it.

“Addicted to sex” incorporates the traditional cognitive/behavioral model of sex addiction treatment with attachment theory, privileging the therapeutic relationship and incorporating the use of the body.

To read the article, go to http://www.psychotherapynetworker.org/magazine/currentissue/803-case-study

Let me know what you think by clicking the comment button below. Sex Addiction Los Angeles


Masturbation makes you go blind!

There’s an old wives tale that says, “if you masturbate,  you’ll go blind.”  I have always thought this was one of the most ridiculous, archaic things I’d ever heard, presumably designed for puritanical reasons.  I have   wondered for years where this saying came from.  I still haven’t taken the time to research where it came from but I know one thing, it turns out to be an accurate statement!

I now understand that it doesn’t mean that a person will literally go blind from hours of masturbation, but that it means that they will figuratively go blind! Who knew?! Sex Therapy Los Angeles

Case in point: According to many news sources (google: SEC Scandal), dozens of senior officials at the SEC visited porn sites 16,000 times in one month!  A senior attorney is reported to have spent 8 hours a day looking at pornography during the years when Bernie Madoff was financially raping the country.  All of the SEC officials implicated in this scandal are reported to have been making over $200,000.00 per year – your tax dollars at work!

Again, the senior officials of the United States of America Securities and Exchange Commission were literally masturbating – compulsively – to pornography and NOT doing their job on taxpapyer’s time!

Talk about Nero fiddling while Rome was burning!!

Let us know what you think about this mess by clicking the comment button below.