Sex, Lies, and Congressman Weiner

Another sex scandal? They’re coming so fast now I can hardly keep up with them.  Are men in power acting “like pigs” as the May 30 Time Magazine accuses them of.  Take a look at this article in Time Magazine last week: http://www.time.com/time/covers/0,16641,20110530,00.html

On the matter of Weiner, this guy has all the signs and symptoms of sexually addictive behaviors.  You might think his arrogance is shocking then be fooled by his willingness to apologize over and over again.  Don’t let the apology fool you.  He will act out again if he doesn’t get help because he can’t stop himself.

Let’s see what happens…

DSM-V to consider Hypersexual Disorder

Here is the latest on whether or not Hypersexual Disorder (formerly sex addiction) will be considered as a bona fide category in the manual for mental illness.  Take a look at the LA Times article and let us know what you think:

http://www.latimes.com/health/la-he-psychiatry-roundup-20110523,0,4198997.story

Heavy Internet porn use is not fun

Men, women, and teens are getting caught in the web of on-line pornography and, sometimes, can’t get out.  With the advent of more free porn than ever before and high levels of accessibility, porn addiction is on the rise.

A study in the UK of 1,057 adults aged 18-24 shows that looking at more than 10 hours a week of porn can have detrimental effects on desire for sex with a partner. Porn is rapidly becoming a substitute for actual sex because, for one thing,  it takes less work than intimate engagement with a partner.  Attaching to pornography can negatively impact the users ability to get aroused with a real person, and it can sometimes take months before a natural sexual arousal will return.

The article states:

Men who look at porn for 10 hours a week are much more likely to worry it is influencing their behaviour, the survey suggested.

Higher numbers of those heavy users said their porn viewing had upset a partner or caused them to miss a meeting at work.

Men looking at porn for at least 10 hours a week were also more likely to say it can put them off real-life sex.

To read the article go to: http://www.bbc.co.uk/newsbeat/12918531.

Scientists discover new stress neuropathway

Everyone experiences some kind of stress in their lives but traumatic stress impacts some people more than others. It seems that some people are more susceptible to the impact of stress on the brain, creating anxiety or depressive disorders.  Sex addicts, and sometimes their partners, can suffer from both anxiety or depression or both due to childhood trauma.

Here is an excerpt from the study:

“The study found that the emotional centre of the brain – the amygdala – reacts to stress by increasing production of a protein called neuropsin. This triggers a series of chemical events which in turn cause the amygdala to increase its activity. As a consequence, a gene is turned on that determines the stress response at a cellular level.”

To read the article, go to:

http://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/222991.php#bXpulseX

Do you have obligatory sex?

If you do, you may consider that as a mature adult, you’re not doing yourself or your partner any favors.  The question of why so many people feel obligated to have sex on nationally designated holidays is addressed in this smart, well thought out article by Jennifer Rhodes.

http://www.edenfantasys.com/sexis/sex/obligatory-sex-0328115/

Check out this new book:Thirty Days to Hope & Freedom From Sexual Addiction

Check out this new book by Milton Magness, Ph.D.  It’s easy to use and assists the recovering person in putting together thirty days of sobriety in a clear and efficient way.

Thirty Days to Hope & Freedom From Sexual Addiction has just been released by Gentle Path Press.  It gives a step-by-step approach for recovery for those who are just entering recovery and those who want to raise their recovery to the next level.

Several unique features of this book include:

· Introduction of the Recovery Points System: a way of tracking recovery progress by earning recovery points.  This tool not only helps get a person firmly established in recovery but it is a powerful relapse prevention tool.

· iRecovery—An iPhone app is coordinated with this book.  It utilized the Recovery Points System and also allows the user to bring all parts of their recovery together into one easy to use app.  A free version is this app can be found in the Apple Store and also at www.RecoveryApp.com.

· All worksheets in this book are available online. Readers are given the URL of the website that contains fillable PDF files of all the worksheets.

· The thirty day plan has one chapter for the reader each day. Following that plan will ensure that readers are solidly in recovery and have eliminated the typical causes of slips and relapse.

The book can be ordered at http://www.gentlepath.com.

Let us know what you think of this great, new book by clicking the comment button below!

TIME Magazine questions sex addiction as a bona fide problem

The battle continues on whether sex addiction is really a problem of addiction or bad behavior.  I contend that what we call “sex addiction” is really a problem of unresolved childhood trauma that leads to repetitive, often destructive behaviors.

Take a look at this article and let us know what you think by clicking the comment button below.

http://www.time.com/time/magazine/article/0,9171,2050027,00.html

Alternatives to the sex addiction model

Bill Hearing in Atlanta, Georgia has written a terrific article in order to reach people who don’t get the help they need because they resist the word “addict”.  He writes, “It seems to me that there are only a
few other words they can use, and each carries its own profound implication
that people often choose to overlook, generally to their own detriment.”

To read this article, click on the link below and let us know what you think.

http://billherring.info/atlanta_counseling/alternatives-to-the-sex-addiction-model

He’s just not into anyone

New York Magazine writer, Davy Rothbart, takes us on an honest journey of what watching too much pornography can do to mens ability to keep an erection or ejaculate. He never talks about “addiction” to porn or cybersex addiction, but he makes it clear that porn affects the brain/bodies of men who overindulge.

See for yourself:

http://nymag.com/news/features/70976/


Bringing up kids in a porn culture…

How do you do it today?  How do you bring up sexually healthy kids when there is so much pornography available at the click of a mouse? Take a look at this article by Gail Danes, author of “Pornland: How Porn Has Hijacked Our Sexuality.” Porn Addiction Los Angeles

After you read the article, let us know what you think!

http://www.mamapedia.com/voices/bringing-up-kids-in-a-porn-culture