Straight talk, up-to-date information and resources for individuals and couples about sexual addiction, cybersex addiction, sexual anorexia, sexual desire and sexual dysfunction.
What is erotic intelligence? The word erotic means the “deliberate seeking of pleasure” and the word intelligence means the “skilled use of reason.” Therefore, erotic intelligence means the deliberate seeking of pleasure using skilled reasoning.
Sex addicts deliberately seek pleasure, yet do so without the skilled use of reason. I wrote Erotic Intelligence: Igniting Hot Healthy Sex While in Recovery from Sex Addiction as a guide to assist individuals in sexual recovery to skillfully move towards healthy, intimate, and erotic sex.
To read portions of each chapter of the book, go to the following site:
Did you just figure out that you’re a sex addict? Have you been in sexual recovery for a while and continue to struggle with staying sexually sober on a plan? Do you think your partner is a sex addict and think he/she needs help?
At the Center for Healthy Sex we offer a low cost, highly effective alternative to long-term, more expensive in-patient hospital care. For over ten years, the team at CHS has been providing intensive out-patient care for those in need.
Our next scheduled IOP begins on June 14. To lean more about our 11-day program call 310-335-0997 or visit out site at www.thecenterforhealthysex.com
At CHS we’re devoted to assisting you in restoring your sexual health!
Join me, Alex Katehakis, MFT, CSAT-S, CST, and Lance Tango, MA for coffee and pastry as we take a Jungian perspective on sexual addiction at the Center for Healthy Sex on July 9. Lance and I will look at the polarity of the body and mind, meaning we will examine how sex addict’s split off and compartmentalize so they can act out sexually with a high level of denial and dissociation.
Join me, Claudia Black, Dan Amen, John Bradshaw, and may others from June 17-19 in Newport Beach, California for this cutting-edge, informative conference!
I will be presenting information from my new book, “Erotic Intelligence” and talking about the effects of early childhood attachment patterns on sexual addiction.
Come to my book signing and say “hello!” I look forward to seeing you there.
“Addicted to Sex” is a case study I had published last month in the Psychotherapy Networker Magazine. Although this magazine directs its writings to professionals, lay persons can benefit by the rich and varied information in it.
“Addicted to sex” incorporates the traditional cognitive/behavioral model of sex addiction treatment with attachment theory, privileging the therapeutic relationship and incorporating the use of the body.
It’s becoming more and more common today to hear about sexual scandals of the rich and famous or political leaders. While there’s no way to know whether or not George Alan Rekers, an anti-gay activist, is a sex addict, the allegations in this article illustrate the gross compartmentalization that sex addicts have to have in order to live double lives.
There’s an old wives tale that says, “if you masturbate, you’ll go blind.” I have always thought this was one of the most ridiculous, archaic things I’d ever heard, presumably designed for puritanical reasons. I have wondered for years where this saying came from. I still haven’t taken the time to research where it came from but I know one thing, it turns out to be an accurate statement!
I now understand that it doesn’t mean that a person will literally go blind from hours of masturbation, but that it means that they will figuratively go blind! Who knew?!
Case in point: According to many news sources (google: SEC Scandal), dozens of senior officials at the SEC visited porn sites 16,000 times in one month! A senior attorney is reported to have spent 8 hours a day looking at pornography during the years when Bernie Madoff was financially raping the country. All of the SEC officials implicated in this scandal are reported to have been making over $200,000.00 per year - your tax dollars at work!
Again, the senior officials of the United States of America Securities and Exchange Commission were literally masturbating - compulsively - to pornography and NOT doing their job on taxpapyer’s time!
Talk about Nero fiddling while Rome was burning!!
Let us know what you think about this mess by clicking the comment button below.
Whether you do or don’t, I suggest you check out Dr. Joe Kort’s article on the topic. This is an informative, intelligent look at a complicated question.
CHS will kick off the new year with our new Intensive Out-Patient Treatment Program for sexual addiction. If you or a loved one struggle with sex addiction let us help you start the new year right! Join us from January 11 through January 22, 2010.
This eleven-day program provides a comprehensive look at your sexual history, sexual acting out behaviors, secrets, lies, and family of origin trauma. Through the use of many forms of therapy such as cognitive behavioral therapy, art therapy, and EMDRour highly trained staff will create a program that is tailored to meet your individual needs. You will be involved in group therapy, individual therapy, couples therapy, and twelve-step meetings as part of your change process.
Cybersex addiction in the workplace is a problem the world over. Findings from an Australian study show that people addicted to cybersex can spend up to 10 hours per day on-line. People in recovery from cybersex addiction state that they go through a withdrawl symptoms similar to those associated with quitting smoking.
