Do you think it’s beneficial for some people to reject their gay or lesbian attractions? In an article entitled “A New Therapy on Faith and Sexual Identity” in the Wall Street Journal, The American Psychological Association says that it can be. When people are tormented by their sexual orientation because it conflicts with their religious beliefs, changing their sexual compass may bring them relief.
This is not meant to be the old “conversion therapy” that “cures” people out of their homosexuality but will certainly create controversy nonetheless.
Check out the article at http://online.wsj.com/article/SB124950491516608883.html
What do you think about this topic? Let us know by clicking the comments button below. Sex Therapy Los Angeles
. Aug 15, 2009
Filed under: sex and daily living, gay relationships, healthy eroticism, sexual potential, women's sexuality
Some time at the beginning of 2009 I got an email in my info@centerforhealthysex box from a man named ”Michael” in Pakistan. He wrote that he was suffering from high anxiety and premature ejaculation and had the courage to reach out and ask me for help. Knowing that his problem was not unusual and fairly easy to address, I referred him to two books I thought would be helpful. To my surprise, he wrote back telling me he was a student who could not afford to purchase books and had no means to charge books on-line. Sex Therapy Los Angeles
Buying a book on-line is a basic transaction in my world so I was taken aback that this simple activity was a hardship for him. So I decided to buy the books for ”Michael” and mail them to him in Pakistan. After a debacle with a bookseller on Amazon and a number of communiques with ”Michael” as we waited for the books to arrive at my office, I finally sent the books via US mail. I have to say I was not that confident that he would get them because his address was so convoluted. It read something like this: the name of his employer, across from the butcher shop, next to the bank, Pakistan and a postal code of sorts (I’m not kidding!)
Ten days later, ”Michael” received the books and sent me a thank you note. He was incredibly grateful and began reading them. After a few months, I received an email from him letting me know his progress. I think you might be as moved as I was when you read his note. It reminded me how little it takes to help someone restore their sexuality. For those of you who have more access and resources than ”Michael” did, I hope this inspires you to reach out and get help.
Once I was very worried about my P E. I was unable to know why it occurs.
I used to ejaculate within a minute . Luckily I got two useful books recommended me by honourable Miss Alexandra Katehakis. The name of one book is : Coping with Premature Ejaculation written by Michael E Metz and Barry W Mc Carthy. The book has a biopsychosocial approach which has not only helped me substantially to control rapid ejaculation, but also increased my sexual joy. For the first time, I understood the multi causal and multidimensional problem of Premature Ejaculation and to enjoy sex with enhanced ejaculatory control. The book presents different diagnostic methods and tools to scientifically evaluate and assess P.E. I came to know exactly in what type of P E, I was suffering from. I also found the psycho sexual exercises very useful.
The other book that was recommended me was : Anxiety and Phobia Workbook written by Edmund J Bourne. For most people, P E is caused by anxiety. The book has a holistic approach to overcoming anxiety, phobia, depression etc. When I learned how to manage my anxiety, I gained good control of my P E.
In short I found these two books very beneficial and I recommend these books to all those guys who are worried about their premature ejaculation. I am still on the path of progress.
With best wishes
Michael
. Jul 24, 2009
Filed under: sexual dysfunction, healthy eroticism, men's sexuality, sexual desire
Join me from May 27 - May 29 in Seattle, Washington for the U.S. Journal’s 22nd Annual Northwest Conference on Behavioral Health and Addictive Disorders.
I will be a keynote speaker at 9:00 am on Friday, May 29 talking about my new book, “Erotic Intelligence.”
In two follow-up sessions, I will be presenting a course entitled “Sex Addiction 101: Assessment, Diagnosis, and Treatment of Sexual Addiction” and “It’s Not the Orgasm, It’s the Connection: Igniting Eroticism After Recovery.”
Join me and many others for an informative weekend in Seattle! Sex Addiction Los Angeles
For more information go to www.usjt.com
. May 22, 2009
Filed under: speaking engagements/upcoming events, uncategorized, female sexual desire, healthy eroticism, men's sexuality, sex addiction, sex addiction help, sex addiction therapy, sex therapy, sexual addiction, sexual desire, sexual potential
Finally, a book geared to adults enjoying and celebrating their sexuality! Sex Therapy Los Angeles
The newest sex education manual, Older Wiser, Sexually Smarter: 30 Sex Ed Lessons for Adults Only is the first sex ed manual exclusively for adults! This book is getting rave reviews and I think you will rave too. To find out more and to order your copy, visit http://ppgnnj.org/jforms/flyerOWSS.pdf
Enjoy and let us know what you think by clicking the comments button below.
. May 01, 2009
Filed under: sex and daily living, sexual desire & potential, female sexuality, healthy eroticism, sex therapy, sexual desire, women's sexuality
If you are gay and interested in exploring your questions about sex, what is healthy and what is not, then this group is for you.
Sex Therapy Los Angeles
Lead by Christopher Donaghue, MSW in a dynamic and non-judgmental fashion, questions around dating, casual sex, sexual compulsivity, and long-term committed relationships with be addressed.
It’s difficult to be gay and sex positive in a culture that gives the message that anything goes when it comes to sex. Come sort out these issues for yourself in the safety and comfort of a peer group at the Center for Healthy Sex on Monday nights from 7 - 9pm.
For more information, call Chris at 310-280-8472 or email him at chris@centerforhealthysex.com
Have fun and let us know what you think of the group!
. Jan 30, 2009
Filed under: sex and daily living, gay relationships, healthy eroticism, sex therapy, sexual compulsivity, sexual desire
“Men’s Sexual Health,” by Barry W. Mccarthy and Michael E. Metz is a must read for men! This is a well researched book full of useful information for optimal sexual health. The author’s state, “Anything good for your physical body will be good for your sexuality, and anything that subverts your physical body will subvert your sexuality”.In that, they are saying that fitness is critical for everyone especially men over 40. Sex Therapy Los Angeles
The author’s remind us that behavioral habits like sleep, exercise, eating, drinking, drug use and smoking are key.Chronic health problems like sleep apnea, sleeping less than 5 hours per night, depression and irrability have a major negative impact on sexuality. Smoking is major contributor to erectile dysfunction and medications for blood pressure control can have an impact on desire and erection. We are reminded that stress is the number one killer of sexual desire in the body and the authors recommend that men take a semi annual vacation. “Take all your allotted vacation and personal time” and take “micro vacations” i.e. movie, concert, sporting event and concentrate on this as a microvacation from stress.
- They recommend that you change your exercise program with age.Don’t do the workout at 40 that you were doing at 20.Look for activities that increase respiration, cardiac output and vascular system heal.All these will improve your sexual vitality and function! Sensuality, looking at how you treat your body, how you workout - “appreciate your maleness and your sexuality at every age of your life.
- Make new choices for self-nurturance and fun– clothes, food, hobbies, moving bodies, celebrating YOU without shameThe good-enough sex model is not about performance but about acceptance, pleasure and positive, realistic sexual and relationship expectations”.”With the good enough sex model, intimacy and satisfaction are the ultimate purpose, with pleasure as important as function and mutual acceptance as the context”.
“Relationship and sexual satisfaction are the ultimate developmental focus.The couple is an intimate team”
“The essence of sexuality is giving and receiving pleasure-oriented touching, which is the foundation of healthy sexual function”.
. Jan 16, 2009
Filed under: sex and daily living, fitness, healthy eroticism, men's sexuality, sexual desire
