Do you have obligatory sex?

If you do, you may consider that as a mature adult, you’re not doing yourself or your partner any favors.  The question of why so many people feel obligated to have sex on nationally designated holidays is addressed in this smart, well thought out article by Jennifer Rhodes.

http://www.edenfantasys.com/sexis/sex/obligatory-sex-0328115/

Sexual Behaviors in the United States: A Study

Michael Reece, Ph.D. and his colleagues at the Center for Sexual Health Promotion at Indiana University
recently released results from the National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior (NSSHB), a study based on answers from 5,865 Americans between the ages of 14-94. “This survey is one of the most expansive
nationally representative studies of sexual behavior and condom use ever conducted, given the 80-year span of [participants’] ages,” Reece says. The Journal of Sexual Medicine publishednine papers (using NSSHB data) by Indiana University researchers in its October issue. In addition to Reece, the research team included
Debby Herbenick, PhD, Stephanie Sanders, PhD, J. Dennis Fortenberry, MD, MS, VanessaSchick, PhD, and Brian Dodge, PhD. Sex Therapy Los Angeles

Perhaps the most wide-ranging of the studies is titled, “Sexual Behaviors in the United States: Results from
a National Probability Sample of Men and Women Aged 14-94.” That report includes data on masturbation (alone and partnered), oral sex (receiving and giving), vaginal intercourse and anal intercourse (receiving
and inserting) categorized by nearly a dozen age ranges.

Among the findings:
• The proportion of people having vaginal sex is highest for men ages 25-39 and women ages 20-
29. As might be expected, the frequency of vaginal sex declines with age.

• Masturbation is common among all age groups, but never dips below 33 percent (for those masturbating alone at least once in the past year). The highest rates were among individuals ages 25-29: 84 percent for men and 72 percentfor women.
• Oral sex was rare among 14- to 15-year-olds, but 18 percent of 16- to 17-year-old males and 22 percent of 16- to 17-year-old females engaging in oral sex in the past year.
• About one-fifth of men ages 25-49 and women ages 20-39 engaged in anal sex in the past year.

Reprinted from: Contemporary Sexuality www.aasect.org | December 2010 Vol. 44, No. 12

What is Erotic Intelligence?

What is erotic intelligence?  The word erotic means the “deliberate seeking of pleasure” and the word intelligence means the “skilled use of reason.”  Therefore, erotic intelligence means the deliberate seeking of pleasure using skilled reasoning.

Sex addicts deliberately seek pleasure, yet do so  without the skilled use of reason.  I wrote Erotic Intelligence: Igniting Hot Healthy Sex While in Recovery from Sex Addiction as a guide to assist individuals in sexual recovery to skillfully move towards healthy, intimate, and erotic sex.

To read portions of each chapter of the book, go to the following site:

http://www.thecenterforhealthysex.com/eroticintelligence/book/



Behavioral Health & Addictive Disorders Conference – Newport Beach, CA

Join me, Claudia Black, Dan Amen, John Bradshaw, and may others from June 17-19 in Newport Beach, California for this cutting-edge, informative conference! Sex Addiction Treatment Los Angeles

I will be presenting  information from my new book, “Erotic Intelligence” and talking about the effects of early childhood attachment patterns on sexual addiction.

Come to my book signing and say “hello!”  I look forward to seeing you there.

Erotic Intelligence now available!

Why I Wrote Erotic Intelligence – Watch the video!

You can order my new book,  “Erotic Intelligence: Igniting Hot Healthy Sex While in Recovery From Sex Addiction” at the Amazon link below.  I wrote this book because so many people struggle with how to have healthy, exciting sex once they’ve committed to a life of sexual recovery.  I think you’ll find it an easy, informative, and useful read.  To order, go to:

http://www.amazon.com/Erotic-Intelligence-Igniting-Recovery-Addiction/dp/0757314376/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1272214335&sr=1-1

Why I Wrote Erotic Intelligence – Watch the video!

Read the book, tell your friends, and comment on the Amazon page!

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Erotic Intelligence: Igniting Hot, Healthy Sex While in Recovery From Sex Addiction

Erotic Intelligence is a long awaited book for those in recovery from sex addiction who want to experience sex in healthy, erotic, and life-affirming ways. Sex Addiction Los Angeles

http://www.amazon.com/Erotic-Intelligence-Igniting-Recovery-Addiction/dp/0757314376/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1267983684&sr=1-1


Women who want to want

30% of young and middle-aged women go through a period of little to no sexual desire.  While some women say that they’re O.K. with not having sex again, often times that’s not true.

Lori Brotto is one of the world’s leading experts on hypoactive sexual desire disorder in women.  Through her research and experience, she now instructs women on how to be mindful of the sensations in their bodies, leading them to experience themselves as highly sexual, erotic beings.  In her thinking, desire takes time…Sex Therapy Los Angeles

If you are female and struggle with low sexual desire, we can help!  310-843-9902

To read the article, go to:

http://www.nytimes.com/2009/11/29/magazine/29sex-t.html?_r=1&emc=eta1

Teleclass with Joe Kort: Why Does THAT Arouse Me?

Learn the hidden meaning of what turns you on! Sex Therapy Los Angeles

Wednesday, October 28 at 8:30PM EST

Fee: $15.00

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You will receive your call-in number via email
Joe Kort learned the benefit of helping people explore the origins of their fantasies through years of work with men who are addicted to sex and from those who have been sexually abused. By “cracking the erotic code” and learning the narrative of what the sexual desires mean can help you feel better about your sexuality and learn more about yourself.

Sex Therapy Hotline!

If your tired of keeping your disturbing sexual issues to yourself, or need an inexpensive way to get your sex therapy questions answered you can call a hot-line.  That’s right!  Contact this sex therapy hot-line where licensed professionals will help you with your issues. Sex Therapy Los Angeles

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The Spirituality of Sex

In the 10th and 11th centuries in in India, sex was  was thought to be a path to spirituality.

Today, sex has been denigrated to a fast-food item, to be consumed strictly for the high it brings without the heart and soul of exploration into the divine.

In their article “The Spirituality of Sex,” Jurriaan Kamp and Tijn Touber take you through the stages of change sex has undergone over the ages. They bring us full circle  back to sex as a meaning-making meeting of two souls for the purposes of personal growth and development. Sex Therapy Los Angeles

To read their article, go to:http://www.care2.com/greenliving/the-spirituality-of-sex.html

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