What is Erotic Intelligence?

What is erotic intelligence?  The word erotic means the “deliberate seeking of pleasure” and the word intelligence means the “skilled use of reason.”  Therefore, erotic intelligence means the deliberate seeking of pleasure using skilled reasoning.

Sex addicts deliberately seek pleasure, yet do so  without the skilled use of reason.  I wrote Erotic Intelligence: Igniting Hot Healthy Sex While in Recovery from Sex Addiction as a guide to assist individuals in sexual recovery to skillfully move towards healthy, intimate, and erotic sex.

To read portions of each chapter of the book, go to the following site:


Intensive Out-Patient Treatment for Sex Addiction

Did you just figure out that you’re a sex addict?  Have you been in sexual recovery for a while and continue to struggle with staying sexually sober on a plan?  Do you think your partner is a sex addict and think he/she needs help?

At the Center for Healthy Sex we offer a low cost, highly effective alternative to long-term, more expensive in-patient hospital care.  For over ten years, the team at CHS has been providing intensive out-patient sex addiction treatment program for those in need.

Our IOPs are usually scheduled for the middle two weeks of every month.  To learn more about our 11-day program call 310-843-9902 or visit out site at www.thecenterforhealthysex.com

At CHS we’re devoted to assisting you in restoring your sexual health!

Sex Addiction: Polarity of the Body and Mind – Free CEU Course at CHS July 9

Join me, Alex Katehakis, MFT, CSAT-S, CST, and Lance Tango, MA for coffee and pastry as we take a Jungian perspective on sex addiction at the Center for Healthy Sex on July 9.  Lance and I will look at the polarity of the body and mind, meaning we will examine how sex addicts split off and compartmentalize so they can act out sexually with a high level of denial and dissociation.

Click here to register: douglas@thecenterforhealthysex.com or CALL 310-843-9902

When: Friday July 9, 2010 9:30-11:00am

Where: Center for Healthy Sex, Los Angeles

Cost: Free!

Click here to register: douglas@thecenterforhealthysex.com or CALL 310-843-9902

We look forward to seeing you there!!

Behavioral Health & Addictive Disorders Conference – Newport Beach, CA

Join me, Claudia Black, Dan Amen, John Bradshaw, and may others from June 17-19 in Newport Beach, California for this cutting-edge, informative conference! Sex Addiction Treatment Los Angeles

I will be presenting  information from my new book, “Erotic Intelligence” and talking about the effects of early childhood attachment patterns on sexual addiction.

Come to my book signing and say “hello!”  I look forward to seeing you there.

Erotic Intelligence now available!

Why I Wrote Erotic Intelligence – Watch the video!

You can order my new book,  “Erotic Intelligence: Igniting Hot Healthy Sex While in Recovery From Sex Addiction” at the Amazon link below.  I wrote this book because so many people struggle with how to have healthy, exciting sex once they’ve committed to a life of sexual recovery.  I think you’ll find it an easy, informative, and useful read.  To order, go to:


Why I Wrote Erotic Intelligence – Watch the video!

Read the book, tell your friends, and comment on the Amazon page!

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Erotic Intelligence: Igniting Hot, Healthy Sex While in Recovery From Sex Addiction

Erotic Intelligence is a long awaited book for those in recovery from sex addiction who want to experience sex in healthy, erotic, and life-affirming ways. Sex Addiction Los Angeles


Patrick Carnes comments on sex addiction on CBS

See last weeks early show on CBS on Sex Addiction.


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Center for Healthy Sex Intensive Out-Patient Treatment Program

CHS will kick off the new year with our new Intensive Out-Patient Treatment Program for sexual addiction.  If you or a loved one struggle with sex addiction let us help you start the new year right!  Join us from January 11 through January 22, 2010. Sex Addiction Los Angeles

This eleven-day program provides a comprehensive look at your sexual history, sexual acting out behaviors, secrets, lies, and family of origin trauma.  Through the use of  many forms of therapy such as cognitive behavioral therapy, art therapy, and EMDR our highly trained staff will create a program that is tailored to meet your individual needs.  You will be involved in group therapy, individual therapy, couples therapy, and twelve-step meetings as part of your change process.

Don’t delay getting the help you need one more day.  Call 310-335-0997 www.thecenterforhealthysex.com

Let us help you restore your sexual health!

New Sex Addiction Recovery Book: Hope & Freedom for Sexual Addicts and Their Partners

This exciting new book comes from Milton Magness, Ph.D.  If you are new to sexual addiction recovery take a moment to go to the website below and check it out!
Hope & Freedom for Sexual Addicts and Their Partners
Includes information about:
  • Recovery Components
  • Disclosure
  • Polygraph Exams as an Aid to Recovery
  • Celibacy Contracts
  • The Partner’s Recovery Journey
  • Slip and Relapse Recovery
  • A Blueprint for Rebuilding Broken Trust
  • When Is It Time to Move On?
Click on the comment button below and let us know what you think! Sex Therapy Los Angeles

Women’s retreat with Brenda Schaeffer

Women’s Fall Retreat

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DATES: September 11 – 13, 2009
LOCATION: Private lake retreat near Spooner, WI

Open to women who want to claim the “goddess within” often lost to betrayal, trauma, love addiction or self neglect. This retreat will be an opportunity to play, nurture and continue a self healing process of body, mind and spirit.  In addition to group process, women will have an opportunity to:

  • rest and relax in nature
  • take in a massage
  • spend time in the sauna or Jacuzzi
  • share a gourmet meal
  • meditate
  • heal the past and move forward
  • claim lost innocence
To register and more information:

please visit our website ,
call 952-944-4046.

Healthy Relationships
15798 Venture Lane
Eden Prairie, Minnesota 55344

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