Is your partner cheating on you?

Did you know that 50-70% of married men cheat?! AND, 2/3 of all women being cheated on have no idea.  If you think your spouse is cheating then they probably are.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/agi-smith/im-divorced-but-the-shame_b_817109.html?ref=email_share

Alternatives to the sex addiction model

Bill Hearing in Atlanta, Georgia has written a terrific article in order to reach people who don’t get the help they need because they resist the word “addict”.  He writes, “It seems to me that there are only a
few other words they can use, and each carries its own profound implication
that people often choose to overlook, generally to their own detriment.”

To read this article, click on the link below and let us know what you think.

http://billherring.info/atlanta_counseling/alternatives-to-the-sex-addiction-model

Story of a “dark marriage”- living with a sex addict

Sally Ryder Brady reveals a life of abuse in her marriage to an alcoholic and sex addict.   This memoir, written by a widow who discovered, upon her husband’s death after almost 50 years of marriage, that he had a double life, affairs with men and gay porn, and he was $70 thousand dollars in debt.  The memoir is about her reflecting back on her life and trying to figure out “what do I know that I didn’t know I knew until now?”  Her husband, a well-regarded editor of Atlantic Monthly, was an emotionally abusive alcoholic and she of course, had grown up in an abusive family, making her a primary candidate to marry an addict.

To read more in-depth reviews of the book and to order the book, go to the link below:

http://www.amazon.com/box-darkness-story-marriage/dp/B004JBR1XA

What’s the difference between having an affair and being cheated on?

Writer, Wendy Plump, writes a courageous and meaningful article in the New York Times in which she reveals her experiences on both sides of this coin.  Take a look at the article and let us know what you think:

http://www.nytimes.com/2010/12/12/fashion/12Modern.html?pagewanted=1&_r=1

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What do you do when you’re divorcing a sex addict?

Virginia Gilbert, MFT intern and writer asked me this question. Partner of a sex addict. Follow this link to read our conversation:

www.examiner.com/divorce-parenting-in-los-angeles/when-your-ex-is-a-sex-addict-helping-your-kids-and-healing-yourself?sms_ss=aolmail

Erotic Intelligence Workshop for Couples

The Center for Healthy Sex presents a weekend workshop for couples in recovery from sexual addiction.  Based on my book, “Erotic Intelligence: Igniting Hot, Healthy Sex While in Recovery From Sex Addiction” this weekend workshop will focus on intimacy building skills toward the goal of creating sexual desire. Sex Therapy Los Angeles

Workshop dates are Friday, September 17 – Sunday, September 19

For more details go to www.thecenterforhealthysex.com or call 310-335-0997


What is Erotic Intelligence?

What is erotic intelligence?  The word erotic means the “deliberate seeking of pleasure” and the word intelligence means the “skilled use of reason.”  Therefore, erotic intelligence means the deliberate seeking of pleasure using skilled reasoning.

Sex addicts deliberately seek pleasure, yet do so  without the skilled use of reason.  I wrote Erotic Intelligence: Igniting Hot Healthy Sex While in Recovery from Sex Addiction as a guide to assist individuals in sexual recovery to skillfully move towards healthy, intimate, and erotic sex.

To read portions of each chapter of the book, go to the following site:

http://www.thecenterforhealthysex.com/eroticintelligence/book/



Ways women orgasm

Are you interested in the ways women orgasm?  If so, why?  If not, why not?!

There are a lot of myths about female orgasm and little understanding about female sexual arousal.  The truth is that all women are NOT created equal in this area.  Each woman has distinctly different patterns of arousal and needs to understand her own body so that she can bring herself to orgasm.  Once a woman is familiar with her sexuality in intimate ways and what her sexual preferences are, she can then communicate them to her partner. Sex Therapy Los Angeles

For more information on female orgasm go to:

http://www.wayswomenorgasm.org/


Erotic Intelligence now available!

Why I Wrote Erotic Intelligence – Watch the video!

You can order my new book,  “Erotic Intelligence: Igniting Hot Healthy Sex While in Recovery From Sex Addiction” at the Amazon link below.  I wrote this book because so many people struggle with how to have healthy, exciting sex once they’ve committed to a life of sexual recovery.  I think you’ll find it an easy, informative, and useful read.  To order, go to:

http://www.amazon.com/Erotic-Intelligence-Igniting-Recovery-Addiction/dp/0757314376/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1272214335&sr=1-1

Why I Wrote Erotic Intelligence – Watch the video!

Read the book, tell your friends, and comment on the Amazon page!

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Sex Addiction Training Course at CHS

If you are a health care professional and interested in learning more about how to treat sex addiction you will find this 18 hour course extremely helpful.

Beginning May 1 from 9am – noon I will be offering a 6 Saturday course that covers everything from how to define sex addiction to assessment, diagnosis, treatment concerns, family issues, restoring sexuality, and more. Sex Addiction Los Angeles

Dates are: May 1, 8, 15,  June 5, 12, 26

There are currently 2 spaces left!

For detailed information and to sign up call Douglas Evans at 310-843-9902.