Check out this new book:Thirty Days to Hope & Freedom From Sexual Addiction

Check out this new book by Milton Magness, Ph.D.  It’s easy to use and assists the recovering person in putting together thirty days of sobriety in a clear and efficient way.

Thirty Days to Hope & Freedom From Sexual Addiction has just been released by Gentle Path Press.  It gives a step-by-step approach for recovery for those who are just entering recovery and those who want to raise their recovery to the next level.

Several unique features of this book include:

· Introduction of the Recovery Points System: a way of tracking recovery progress by earning recovery points.  This tool not only helps get a person firmly established in recovery but it is a powerful relapse prevention tool.

· iRecovery—An iPhone app is coordinated with this book.  It utilized the Recovery Points System and also allows the user to bring all parts of their recovery together into one easy to use app.  A free version is this app can be found in the Apple Store and also at www.RecoveryApp.com.

· All worksheets in this book are available online. Readers are given the URL of the website that contains fillable PDF files of all the worksheets.

· The thirty day plan has one chapter for the reader each day. Following that plan will ensure that readers are solidly in recovery and have eliminated the typical causes of slips and relapse.

The book can be ordered at http://www.gentlepath.com.

Let us know what you think of this great, new book by clicking the comment button below!

Is your partner cheating on you?

Did you know that 50-70% of married men cheat?! AND, 2/3 of all women being cheated on have no idea.  If you think your spouse is cheating then they probably are.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/agi-smith/im-divorced-but-the-shame_b_817109.html?ref=email_share

TIME Magazine questions sex addiction as a bona fide problem

The battle continues on whether sex addiction is really a problem of addiction or bad behavior.  I contend that what we call “sex addiction” is really a problem of unresolved childhood trauma that leads to repetitive, often destructive behaviors.

Take a look at this article and let us know what you think by clicking the comment button below.

http://www.time.com/time/magazine/article/0,9171,2050027,00.html

Alternatives to the sex addiction model

Bill Hearing in Atlanta, Georgia has written a terrific article in order to reach people who don’t get the help they need because they resist the word “addict”.  He writes, “It seems to me that there are only a
few other words they can use, and each carries its own profound implication
that people often choose to overlook, generally to their own detriment.”

To read this article, click on the link below and let us know what you think.

http://billherring.info/atlanta_counseling/alternatives-to-the-sex-addiction-model

He’s just not into anyone

New York Magazine writer, Davy Rothbart, takes us on an honest journey of what watching too much pornography can do to mens ability to keep an erection or ejaculate. He never talks about “addiction” to porn or cybersex addiction, but he makes it clear that porn affects the brain/bodies of men who overindulge.

See for yourself:

http://nymag.com/news/features/70976/


Story of a “dark marriage”- living with a sex addict

Sally Ryder Brady reveals a life of abuse in her marriage to an alcoholic and sex addict.   This memoir, written by a widow who discovered, upon her husband’s death after almost 50 years of marriage, that he had a double life, affairs with men and gay porn, and he was $70 thousand dollars in debt.  The memoir is about her reflecting back on her life and trying to figure out “what do I know that I didn’t know I knew until now?”  Her husband, a well-regarded editor of Atlantic Monthly, was an emotionally abusive alcoholic and she of course, had grown up in an abusive family, making her a primary candidate to marry an addict.

To read more in-depth reviews of the book and to order the book, go to the link below:

http://www.amazon.com/box-darkness-story-marriage/dp/B004JBR1XA

Sexual Behaviors in the United States: A Study

Michael Reece, Ph.D. and his colleagues at the Center for Sexual Health Promotion at Indiana University
recently released results from the National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior (NSSHB), a study based on answers from 5,865 Americans between the ages of 14-94. “This survey is one of the most expansive
nationally representative studies of sexual behavior and condom use ever conducted, given the 80-year span of [participants’] ages,” Reece says. The Journal of Sexual Medicine publishednine papers (using NSSHB data) by Indiana University researchers in its October issue. In addition to Reece, the research team included
Debby Herbenick, PhD, Stephanie Sanders, PhD, J. Dennis Fortenberry, MD, MS, VanessaSchick, PhD, and Brian Dodge, PhD. Sex Therapy Los Angeles

Perhaps the most wide-ranging of the studies is titled, “Sexual Behaviors in the United States: Results from
a National Probability Sample of Men and Women Aged 14-94.” That report includes data on masturbation (alone and partnered), oral sex (receiving and giving), vaginal intercourse and anal intercourse (receiving
and inserting) categorized by nearly a dozen age ranges.

Among the findings:
• The proportion of people having vaginal sex is highest for men ages 25-39 and women ages 20-
29. As might be expected, the frequency of vaginal sex declines with age.

• Masturbation is common among all age groups, but never dips below 33 percent (for those masturbating alone at least once in the past year). The highest rates were among individuals ages 25-29: 84 percent for men and 72 percentfor women.
• Oral sex was rare among 14- to 15-year-olds, but 18 percent of 16- to 17-year-old males and 22 percent of 16- to 17-year-old females engaging in oral sex in the past year.
• About one-fifth of men ages 25-49 and women ages 20-39 engaged in anal sex in the past year.

Reprinted from: Contemporary Sexuality www.aasect.org | December 2010 Vol. 44, No. 12

What’s the difference between having an affair and being cheated on?

Writer, Wendy Plump, writes a courageous and meaningful article in the New York Times in which she reveals her experiences on both sides of this coin.  Take a look at the article and let us know what you think:

http://www.nytimes.com/2010/12/12/fashion/12Modern.html?pagewanted=1&_r=1

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Bringing up kids in a porn culture…

How do you do it today?  How do you bring up sexually healthy kids when there is so much pornography available at the click of a mouse? Take a look at this article by Gail Danes, author of “Pornland: How Porn Has Hijacked Our Sexuality.” Porn Addiction Los Angeles

After you read the article, let us know what you think!

http://www.mamapedia.com/voices/bringing-up-kids-in-a-porn-culture


Sex addiction rehab a thriving industry

Is sex addiction treatment big business OR is the problem growing so rapidly that treatment centers are needed? The Los Angeles Times ran an article on Monday, November 15 posing these questions and begain the article with the services the Center for Healthy Sex provides:

When she hung out her shingle as a sex addiction therapist in 1997, Alexandra Katehakis had only a handful of colleagues.

“There were five people in this field and we all knew each other,” she said.

These days, Katehakis, a licensed marriage and family therapist, has hundreds of competitors and has grown her Los Angeles solo practice into the Center for Healthy Sex, “a full-blown organization” with a team of counselors, an intensive outpatient program, a range of therapy groups, an expansive website and training for other therapists.

Celebrities have been the greatest evangelists for treatment. “My practice wouldn’t exist without them,” Katehakis said.

To read the entire article go to:

http://www.latimes.com/news/nationworld/nation/la-et-sex-addiction-20101115,0,3778215.story