Sex Addiction Los Angeles

Do you know what cybersex activities include?

Alexandra — Fri, 27 Aug 2010 12:00:05 +0000

Cybersex activities are not only viewing or downloading pornography along with masturbation, but also reading and writing sexually explicit letters and stories, e-mailing to set up personal meetings with someone, placing ads to meet sexual partners, visiting sexually oriented chat rooms, and engaging in interactive online affairs which include real-time viewing of each other using electronic cameras hooked up to the computer.

According to Dr. Mark Schwartz’s book “Sex on the Net is like heroin,” “Cybersex grabs people and takes over their lives, and treatments are very difficult because the people affected don’t want to give it up.”

Take a look at this article:

http://www.sagennext.com/2010/04/07/cybersex-addiction/

Assessing and Treating Love Addiction Free CEU Course at CHS, August 27

Alexandra — Fri, 20 Aug 2010 12:00:35 +0000

Join Aaron Alan, MFT, CSAT as he talks to you about “Assessing and Treating Love Addiction,” on Friday, August 27, 2010 at the Center for Healthy Sex. Enjoy a cup of coffee and pastry as Aaron takes you through the mysterious process known as Love Addiction, which is showing up in our practices more frequently.

Click here to register: douglas@thecenterforhealthysex.com or CALL 310-843-9902

When: Friday August 27, 2010 9:30 - 11:00 am

Where: Center for Healthy Sex

Cost: Free!

Click here to register: douglas@thecenterforhealthysex.comor CALL 310-843-9902

Erotic Intelligence Workshop for Couples

Alexandra — Fri, 13 Aug 2010 12:00:12 +0000

The Center for Healthy Sex presents a weekend workshop for couples in recovery from sexual addiction. Based on my book, “Erotic Intelligence: Igniting Hot, Healthy Sex While in Recovery From Sex Addiction” this weekend workshop will focus on intimacy building skills toward the goal of creating sexual desire.

Workshop dates are Friday, September 17 - Sunday, September 19

For more details go to www.thecenterforhealthysex.com or call 310-335-0997

What is Erotic Intelligence?

Alexandra — Fri, 06 Aug 2010 12:00:44 +0000

What is erotic intelligence? The word erotic means the “deliberate seeking of pleasure” and the word intelligence means the “skilled use of reason.” Therefore, erotic intelligence means the deliberate seeking of pleasure using skilled reasoning.

Sex addicts deliberately seek pleasure, yet do so without the skilled use of reason. I wrote Erotic Intelligence: Igniting Hot Healthy Sex While in Recovery from Sex Addiction as a guide to assist individuals in sexual recovery to skillfully move towards healthy, intimate, and erotic sex.

To read portions of each chapter of the book, go to the following site:

http://www.thecenterforhealthysex.com/eroticintelligence/book/

Intensive Out-Patient Treatment for Sex Addiction

Alexandra — Fri, 30 Jul 2010 12:00:34 +0000

Did you just figure out that you’re a sex addict? Have you been in sexual recovery for a while and continue to struggle with staying sexually sober on a plan? Do you think your partner is a sex addict and think he/she needs help?

At the Center for Healthy Sex we offer a low cost, highly effective alternative to long-term, more expensive in-patient hospital care. For over ten years, the team at CHS has been providing intensive out-patient care for those in need.

Our next scheduled IOP begins on June 14. To lean more about our 11-day program call 310-335-0997 or visit out site at www.thecenterforhealthysex.com

At CHS we’re devoted to assisting you in restoring your sexual health!

Ready to Heal Workshop for Female Sex & Love Addicts July 23 - 25

Alexandra — Fri, 09 Jul 2010 12:00:19 +0000

Join Kelly McDaniel, author of Ready to Heal: Women Facing Love, Sex and Relationship Addiction, at the Center for Healthy Sex, July 23-25, for an intimately honest and emotionally evocative exploration into the Four Cultural Beliefs about sex and love. Call 310-843-9902 to reserve your space now!

Participants will explore and dismantle four cultural beliefs that women inherit about sex, love, and feminity growing up in America.

“I must be good to be worthy of love”

“If I am sexual, I am bad”

“I’m not really a woman unless someone wants me sexually or romantically”

“I must be sexual to be loveable”

To reserve your space, Call 310-843-9902

We look forward to seeing you there!

Sex Addiction: Polarity of the Body and Mind - Free CEU Course at CHS July 9

Alexandra — Fri, 02 Jul 2010 12:00:26 +0000

Join me, Alex Katehakis, MFT, CSAT-S, CST, and Lance Tango, MA for coffee and pastry as we take a Jungian perspective on sexual addiction at the Center for Healthy Sex on July 9. Lance and I will look at the polarity of the body and mind, meaning we will examine how sex addict’s split off and compartmentalize so they can act out sexually with a high level of denial and dissociation.

Click here to register: douglas@thecenterforhealthysex.com or CALL 310-843-9902

When: Friday July 9, 2010 9:30-11:00am

Where: Center for Healthy Sex, Los Angeles

Cost: Free!

Click here to register: douglas@thecenterforhealthysex.com or CALL 310-843-9902

We look forward to seeing you there!!

More than 40% of Teens in the US Have Had Sex

Alexandra — Fri, 25 Jun 2010 12:00:25 +0000

Hard to believe? One quarter of them state that they would be pleased if their partner got pregnant. According to the article in US News, teen pregnancy has been on the decline the past two decades. These numbers are still high and likely have to do with the continued lack of sex education.

For more detailed information, take a look at the article at the link below then let us know your thoughts on this topic:

http://health.usnews.com/health-news/family-health/womens-health/articles/2010/06/02/more-than-40-of-us-teens-have-had-sex.html

Behavioral Health & Addictive Disorders Conference - Newport Beach, CA

Alexandra — Sun, 13 Jun 2010 16:09:51 +0000

Join me, Claudia Black, Dan Amen, John Bradshaw, and may others from June 17-19 in Newport Beach, California for this cutting-edge, informative conference!

I will be presenting information from my new book, “Erotic Intelligence” and talking about the effects of early childhood attachment patterns on sexual addiction.

Come to my book signing and say “hello!” I look forward to seeing you there.

Ways women orgasm

Alexandra — Fri, 04 Jun 2010 12:00:36 +0000

Are you interested in the ways women orgasm? If so, why? If not, why not?!

There are a lot of myths about female orgasm and little understanding about female sexual arousal. The truth is that all women are NOT created equal in this area. Each woman has distinctly different patterns of arousal and needs to understand her own body so that she can bring herself to orgasm. Once a woman is familiar with her sexuality in intimate ways and what her sexual preferences are, she can then communicate them to her partner.

For more information on female orgasm go to:

http://www.wayswomenorgasm.org/

Erotic Intelligence now available!

Alexandra — Fri, 28 May 2010 12:00:23 +0000

Why I Wrote Erotic Intelligence - Watch the video!

You can order my new book, “Erotic Intelligence: Igniting Hot Healthy Sex While in Recovery From Sex Addiction” at the Amazon link below. I wrote this book because so many people struggle with how to have healthy, exciting sex once they’ve committed to a life of sexual recovery. I think you’ll find it an easy, informative, and useful read. To order, go to:

http://www.amazon.com/Erotic-Intelligence-Igniting-Recovery-Addiction/dp/0757314376/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1272214335&sr=1-1

Why I Wrote Erotic Intelligence - Watch the video!

Read the book, tell your friends, and comment on the Amazon page!

Psychotherapy Networker Magazine March/April issue

Alexandra — Fri, 14 May 2010 12:00:29 +0000

“Addicted to Sex” is a case study I had published last month in the Psychotherapy Networker Magazine. Although this magazine directs its writings to professionals, lay persons can benefit by the rich and varied information in it.

“Addicted to sex” incorporates the traditional cognitive/behavioral model of sex addiction treatment with attachment theory, privileging the therapeutic relationship and incorporating the use of the body.

To read the article, go to http://www.psychotherapynetworker.org/magazine/currentissue/803-case-study

Let me know what you think by clicking the comment button below.

Anit-gay activist accused of sexual liason with male prostitute

Alexandra — Sat, 08 May 2010 04:10:59 +0000

It’s becoming more and more common today to hear about sexual scandals of the rich and famous or political leaders. While there’s no way to know whether or not George Alan Rekers, an anti-gay activist, is a sex addict, the allegations in this article illustrate the gross compartmentalization that sex addicts have to have in order to live double lives.

Check out the details by clicking on this link:

http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=126539946&sc=17&f=1001

Let us know what you think by clicking the comment button below

Masturbation makes you go blind!

Alexandra — Sun, 02 May 2010 12:00:27 +0000

There’s an old wives tale that says, “if you masturbate, you’ll go blind.” I have always thought this was one of the most ridiculous, archaic things I’d ever heard, presumably designed for puritanical reasons. I have wondered for years where this saying came from. I still haven’t taken the time to research where it came from but I know one thing, it turns out to be an accurate statement!

I now understand that it doesn’t mean that a person will literally go blind from hours of masturbation, but that it means that they will figuratively go blind! Who knew?!

Case in point: According to many news sources (google: SEC Scandal), dozens of senior officials at the SEC visited porn sites 16,000 times in one month! A senior attorney is reported to have spent 8 hours a day looking at pornography during the years when Bernie Madoff was financially raping the country. All of the SEC officials implicated in this scandal are reported to have been making over $200,000.00 per year - your tax dollars at work!

Again, the senior officials of the United States of America Securities and Exchange Commission were literally masturbating - compulsively - to pornography and NOT doing their job on taxpapyer’s time!

Talk about Nero fiddling while Rome was burning!!

Let us know what you think about this mess by clicking the comment button below.

Sex Addiction Training Course at CHS

Alexandra — Sun, 25 Apr 2010 17:20:09 +0000

If you are a health care professional and interested in learning more about how to treat sexual addiction you will find this 18 hour course extremely helpful.

Beginning May 1 from 9am - noon I will be offering a 6 Saturday course that covers everything from how to define sex addiction to assessment, diagnosis, treatment concerns, family issues, restoring sexuality, and more.

Dates are: May 1, 8, 15, June 5, 12, 26

There are currently 2 spaces left!

For detailed information and to sign up call Douglas Evans at 310-801-9574.

Infidelity not a death sentence

Alexandra — Mon, 19 Apr 2010 03:33:39 +0000

Infidelity is a painful experience of betrayal and experts say it can be healed.

Imagine finding out that the person you trust the most has hurt you more than anyone. People who have been betrayed express feeling like the world around them no longer makes any longer, that they can’t trust their instincts, and that every thing they once believed in has lost it’s value.

If you or someone you know has suffered from infidelity take time to get the help you need in order to heal. Take a look at Janis Spring-Abrams book, “After the Affair” and read the article below.

http://health.discovery.com/centers/loverelationships/articles/infidelity.html

Cybersex addiction help

Alexandra — Fri, 09 Apr 2010 12:00:05 +0000

Cybersex can be as much of a threat to relationships as other infidelities are. It’s important to set boundaries in your relationship and have explicit conversations about what is okay and what isn’t.

Talk about your life together. It’s crucial to talk to one another while in relationship and decide what is okay for you as a couple. Discuss what infidelity means to you both and set those boundaries. Talk to one another about whether it is okay for your partner to look at online pornography. Do you want to be present when he/she does that or does it matter to you? How do you feel about your partner contacting other people via the web for cybersex? Make sure that you and your partner keep current about what does and doesn’t work for you.

Does cybersex take up a lot of time? One of the earmarks of any of addiction is a loss of time. How much time do you spend on the Internet. Does it take time away from your erotic life with your partner? Does it diminish your sexual desire for your partner? If you are devoting more time to online sexual activities than your partner, then you are creating a breach to intimacy in your relationship and can also be a sign of a cybersex addiction.

Secret, shaming, or abusive. If you become secretive about your on-line behavior then that is a sure sign that you have a problem. It doesn’t matter whether you are hiding what you are doing, how much time you are spending, the sites you are visiting, or the people you are talking to. If a behavior is secretive, shaming, or abusive to yourself or others - you have a problem.

Cybersex addiction can be treated. For more information on how to get help with your problem, go to www.thecenterforhealthysex.com for resources and treatment options. Any form of sex addiction can be as devastating as drug/alcohol addictions. Get help now!

What is dyspareunia?

Alexandra — Fri, 02 Apr 2010 15:54:22 +0000

Dyspareunia is the term that refers to any recurrent genital pain that women experience when they have sexual intercourse. Vaginal pain can develop into a cycle of anticipation of pain which can then cause physical tension that will maintain or increase pain. Women will then naturally avoid having sex in order to avoid the pain. Possible causes of dypsareunia include functional, medical, and psychological conditions.

To read more about the causes of dyspareunia, go to http://www.sexwithoutpain.com/dyspareunia.htmo

12 Objections to 12-Step Groups

Alexandra — Fri, 19 Mar 2010 12:00:15 +0000

People often make excuses for why they’re not one of “those people” and can’t go to 12-step meetings. If you or someone you know has made such arguments, take a look at what Bill Herring has to say about this topic:

http://billherring.info/atlanta_counseling/12-step-groups-twelve-objections-and-twelve-responses#comments

Don’t overlook the most valuable resource for your recovery - 12-Step meetings!

Erotic Intelligence: Igniting Hot, Healthy Sex While in Recovery From Sex Addiction

Alexandra — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 07:19:19 +0000

Erotic Intelligence is a long awaited book for those in recovery from sex addiction who want to experience sex in healthy, erotic, and life-affirming ways.

http://www.amazon.com/Erotic-Intelligence-Igniting-Recovery-Addiction/dp/0757314376/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1267983684&sr=1-1

New York Times Article on Sex Addiciton

Alexandra — Tue, 23 Feb 2010 22:21:00 +0000

This article interviews legitimate therapists who speak about the treatment of sex addiction intelligently. Take a look at:

http://www.nytimes.com/2010/02/23/health/23ther.html?emc=eta1

Do you know the difference between a fetish and sexual addiction?

Alexandra — Fri, 12 Feb 2010 12:00:46 +0000

Whether you do or don’t, I suggest you check out Dr. Joe Kort’s article on the topic. This is an informative, intelligent look at a complicated question.

http://archive.constantcontact.com/fs081/1102561682612/archive/1103012532502.html

Steve Phillips Speaks Up!

Alexandra — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 16:58:30 +0000

in a bold and courageous move, Steve Phillips talked to Matt Lauer on the Today Show about his sex addiction, treatment experience, and the status of his marriage.

Thank you Steve, and good luck to you and your family!

http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/26184891/vp/35293849#35293849

After you view this interview, let us know what you think by clicking the comment button below.

Patrick Carnes comments on sex addiction on CBS

Alexandra — Sat, 30 Jan 2010 21:13:08 +0000

See last weeks early show on CBS on Sex Addiction.

http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2010/01/24/sunday/main6136039.shtml

Let us know what you think by clicking the comment button below

Do you talk about sex?

Alexandra — Tue, 26 Jan 2010 00:53:50 +0000

When sex is hot and heavy with your partner, there’s nothing to talk about. Over time your sexual attraction, libido, desires, and interests change. If you don’t talk about it sooner rather than later, you could find yourself in martial gridlock.

Check out this article and start talking about sex daily - you won’t be sorry!

http://ow.ly/101Du

Women who want to want

Alexandra — Fri, 15 Jan 2010 12:00:54 +0000

30% of young and middle-aged women go through a period of little to no sexual desire. While some women say that they’re O.K. with not having sex again, often times that’s not true.

Lori Brotto is one of the world’s leading experts on hypoactive sexual desire disorder in women. Through her research and experience, she now instructs women on how to be mindful of the sensations in their bodies, leading them to experience themselves as highly sexual, erotic beings. In her thinking, desire takes time…

If you are female and struggle with low sexual desire, we can help! 310-335-0997

To read the article, go to:

http://www.nytimes.com/2009/11/29/magazine/29sex-t.html?_r=1&emc=eta1

Partner’s of Sex Addicts

Alexandra — Thu, 07 Jan 2010 12:00:47 +0000

Are you married to a sex addict or in relationship with one? Have you recently learned that your partner has been cheating on you? Have you already been through the pain of discovery and need support to keep working on yourself and the relationship?

If you answered “yes” to any of these questions, join Rebecca Ishida, MFT beginning January 13, 2010 from 7:00 - 9:00 p.m for our weekly partner’s group.

Support from others who are struggling with the pain and heartbreak of betrayal in a safe environment will help you to heal. You will feel better and stronger when you can express your feelings, understand what sex addiction is, who you are in relation to it, the effects it has had on you, and whether or not you should stay in your relationship.

Call now to reserve your space in group 310-335-0997 www.thecenterforhealthysex.com

Let us help you restore your sexual health today!!

Happy New Year! It’s time to change…

Alexandra — Sat, 02 Jan 2010 02:10:53 +0000

The pundits are calling 2010 the year of change so let’s take that on! Is it time for you to change old habits, patterns, or behaviors? Do you feel stuck but are scared to really take a good look at yourself? Now is the time to change.

Therapy is a challenging, sometimes difficult process that ultimately leads us to our most authentic self. People often tell me they know that there’s a better, more productive self inside them that they can’t access. Through the process of having someone listen to you and understand what you’re going through, you can satisfy your full potential and become the person you really are.

Make your new year’s resolutions, set your goals, and challenge yourself to change - there’s no time like the present!

Center for Healthy Sex Intensive Out-Patient Treatment Program

Alexandra — Sat, 26 Dec 2009 12:00:56 +0000

CHS will kick off the new year with our new Intensive Out-Patient Treatment Program for sexual addiction. If you or a loved one struggle with sex addiction let us help you start the new year right! Join us from January 11 through January 22, 2010.

This eleven-day program provides a comprehensive look at your sexual history, sexual acting out behaviors, secrets, lies, and family of origin trauma. Through the use of many forms of therapy such as cognitive behavioral therapy, art therapy, and EMDR our highly trained staff will create a program that is tailored to meet your individual needs. You will be involved in group therapy, individual therapy, couples therapy, and twelve-step meetings as part of your change process.

Don’t delay getting the help you need one more day. Call 310-335-0997 www.thecenterforhealthysex.com

Let us help you restore your sexual health!

Cybersex Addiction in the Workplace

Alexandra — Fri, 18 Dec 2009 12:00:09 +0000

Cybersex addiction in the workplace is a problem the world over. Findings from an Australian study show that people addicted to cybersex can spend up to 10 hours per day on-line. People in recovery from cybersex addiction state that they go through a withdrawl symptoms similar to those associated with quitting smoking.

To read the entire article go to:

http://www.crn.com.au/News/156754,cybersex-addiction-an-issue-in-the-workplace.aspx

Porn Apps - What do you think about that?!

Alexandra — Fri, 11 Dec 2009 12:00:48 +0000

Now you can download porn directly to your iPhone. Anyone can watch porn any where, any place, and any time and you (or your kids) can be subjected to watching it if you happen to be trapped next to a viewer - like on an airplane. According to a recent article, one in five iPhone users in the UK have used their devices to download porn.

To read the entire article, go to :

http://humantrafficking.change.org/blog/view/want_to_watch_porn_on_a_plane_theres_an_app_for_that

Let us know what you think by clicking the comment button below.

Is your teen sexting?

Alexandra — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 12:00:12 +0000

According to this msnbc article many teens are sexting on their cell phones and on-line. Sexting means sending any kind of sexually explicit photos or videos of oneself or another or sexual chatting either on-line or via cell phone. It seems that teens have a sense of invincibility when it comes to the dangers of risk-taking because the reward center of their brains have formed, but the prefrontal areas that manage good judgment have not.

Many states have serious consequences for sending or receiving sexual photos. Supervising your teens and talking to them directly about the consequences of these behaviors is important to help them stay safe. For more information on sexting and to read the msnbc article go to:

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/34257556/ns/technology_and_science-tech_and_gadgets?GT1=43001

Watch this video!

Alexandra — Fri, 27 Nov 2009 12:00:56 +0000

Is sex addiction a real problem? If you’re still skeptical take a look at this well-done TV report.

If you or a loved one are struggling with issues of sexual addiction, go to SAA-recovery.org for help!

http://www.wpix.com/videobeta/watch/?watch=3253482d-dc85-4e94-b93c-8d88339614e7&src=front

Assessment, Diagnosis & Treatment of Sex Addiction in NYC

Alexandra — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 12:00:34 +0000

The Eastern Group Psychotherapy Society is sponsoring a workshop I will be presenting this Sunday, November 22, 2009 from 10:00 AM - 1:00 PM entitled, Assessment, Diagnosis & Treatment of Sex Addiction: An Advance Approach to Individual and Group Work.

Please join me for what proves to be a dynamic approach to a challenging topic!

Register now by going to www.egps.org

Join me in New York!

Alexandra — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 12:00:48 +0000

I will be the plenary speaker at the Eastern Group Psychotherapy Society on Friday, November 20. The conference entitled, Integration and Expansion: Leading Groups in a Changing World is on Friday, November 20 and Satruday, November 21 at the Riverside Chruch.

For more information on how you can attend go to www.egps.org

I hope to see you there!

New Sex Addiction Recovery Book: Hope & Freedom for Sexual Addicts and Their Partners

Alexandra — Tue, 03 Nov 2009 12:00:05 +0000

This exciting new book comes from Milton Magness, Ph.D. If you are new to sexual addiction recovery take a moment to go to the website below and check it out!

Hope & Freedom for Sexual Addicts and Their Partners

Includes information about:

Recovery Components
Disclosure
Polygraph Exams as an Aid to Recovery
Celibacy Contracts
The Partner’s Recovery Journey
Slip and Relapse Recovery
A Blueprint for Rebuilding Broken Trust
When Is It Time to Move On?

Link to purchase the book is: http://www.hopeandfreedom.com/magnessbook/magnessbook/hope-%26-freedom-for-sexual-addicts-and-their-partners.html

Click on the comment button below and let us know what you think!

Workshops for Sexually Compulsive & Addicted Men in Texas

Alexandra — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 12:00:28 +0000

This is the ninth year of this program: Workshops for Sexually Compulsive and Addicted Men.

These workshops are designed for men new to recovery, men struggling to maintain their recovery, or men undecided as to whether they are sexually addicted. This workshop will benefit you if you struggle with out of control and destructive sexual behavior.

Located in beautiful, historic, downtown Austin, Texas.

3-day workshops:

November 13-15 - 2009

February 26-28 – 2010

June 4-6 - 2010

Cost: $695 (meals and accommodations not included)

A printable flyer can be download at http://www.sexual-addict.com/Flyer2009-2010c.pdf

To learn more about the workshops or sexual addiction go to

www.sexual-addict.com.

Contact Dr. Michael Johnson directly at 512 928 4357 or

doctor@sexual-addict.com.

The City of Brotherly Love, Erotic Intelligence, & Jane Valez-Mitchell

Alexandra — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 16:38:36 +0000

I just got home from Philadelphia where I presented two courses for the US Journal Conference on Behavioral Health & Addictive Disorders, The first talk was on my upcoming book, “Erotic Intelligence: Igniting Hot, Healthy Sex After Recovery From Sex Addiction,” and the other entitled “Early Childhood Attachment Patterns Effects on the Neuropsychobiology of Sex Addicts” mirrors a recent article I had published in the Journal of Sexual Addiction & Compulsivity.

While there, I had the pleasure of meeting Jane Velez-Mitchell who talked about her new book, “iwant? My Journey from Addiction and Overconsumption to a Simpler, Honest Life.”

If you haven’t read this book, I highly recommend you do!!

http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_ss_0_5?url=search-alias%3Dstripbooks&field-keywords=iwant+my+journey+from+addiction+and+overconsumption+to+a+simpler+honest+life&sprefix=iwant

Teleclass with Joe Kort: Why Does THAT Arouse Me?

Alexandra — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 12:00:12 +0000

Learn the hidden meaning of what turns you on!

Wednesday, October 28 at 8:30PM EST

Fee: $15.00

To register go to

http://www.webmarketingmagic.com/SecureCart/SecureCart.aspx?mid=961EB94A-5D07-4777-9E7A-3311AD69D915&pid=34b8b6c488b342faac96019b28f3033a

You will receive your call-in number via email
Joe Kort learned the benefit of helping people explore the origins of their fantasies through years of work with men who are addicted to sex and from those who have been sexually abused. By “cracking the erotic code” and learning the narrative of what the sexual desires mean can help you feel better about your sexuality and learn more about yourself.

Sex Therapy Hotline!

Alexandra — Fri, 23 Oct 2009 12:00:45 +0000

If your tired of keeping your disturbing sexual issues to yourself, or need an inexpensive way to get your sex therapy questions answered you can call a hot-line. That’s right! Contact this sex therapy hot-line where licensed professionals will help you with your issues.

http://yourdarksecrets.com/

Let us know how it goes by clicking the comment button below and giving us a report.

Sex-Surrogate Therapy

Alexandra — Fri, 16 Oct 2009 12:00:53 +0000

Many people think sex-surrogate therapists are a thing of the past. Fortunately for many, they are not!

A sex-surrogate therapist can act as a substitute partner if you don’t have a partner at home who is able or willing to work with your sexual concerns. Often surrogacy is limited to women helping men because men seem to have more sexual problems during sex with women. A qualified sex- surrogate often has extensive training and creates a safe and supportive environment to resolve sexual issues.

When working with a sex-surrogate, it is advisable to be in therapy with a sex therapist. This creates a comprehensive program because the sex therapist and sex-surrogate can create a treatment plan together with you to fit your needs.

To learn more about sex-surrogate therapy visit the Center for Sexual Enhancement’s website at:

http://www.sexualsuccess.com/surrogate_therapy.php

Let us know your thoughts by clicking the comment button below.

“The Boulevard” (a novel) by Stephen Jay Schwartz

Alexandra — Fri, 09 Oct 2009 12:00:17 +0000

Sex addiction is being recognized more and more as a legitimate problem and pop culture is underscoring this. Check out this new novel by Stephen Jay Schwartz:

This first novel introduces Hayden Glass, who’s a Robbery and Homicide detective with the LAPD . . . and a sex addict. Glass is thrust into the spotlight when he investigates the brutal murder of a politician’s daughter, and he quickly sees the signs of a sexual predator at work. His investigation leads him into territory he has personal knowledge of, and he finds it harder and harder to keep his own secrets – and his own sanity – as he gets closer to the killer. What he doesn’t know is that the killer is watching him, too, and making Glass himself a target.

You can order this book by going to http://www.amazon.com

After you read the book, give us your review by clicking the comment button below.

Sexual Addiction or Personality Disorder?

Alexandra — Fri, 02 Oct 2009 12:00:41 +0000

More and more experts are in agreeement that compulsive sexual behaviors can be a problem that ruin people’s lives. The question still remains whether sex can be an addiction or whether it’s part of a personality disorder.

Read this New York Times article then let us know what you think. Go to: http://www.nytimes.com/1984/10/16/science/some-sexual-behavior-viewed-as-an-addiction.html?sec=health&spon=&pagewanted=all

The Spirituality of Sex

Alexandra — Fri, 25 Sep 2009 12:00:12 +0000

In the 10th and 11th centuries in in India, sex was was thought to be a path to spirituality.

Today, sex has been denigrated to a fast-food item, to be consumed strictly for the high it brings without the heart and soul of exploration into the divine.

In their article “The Spirituality of Sex,” Jurriaan Kamp and Tijn Touber take you through the stages of change sex has undergone over the ages. They bring us full circle back to sex as a meaning-making meeting of two souls for the purposes of personal growth and development.

To read their article, go to:http://www.care2.com/greenliving/the-spirituality-of-sex.html

Let us know how you think of sex by clicking the comments button below

Society for the Advancement for Sexual Health 2009 Conference

Alexandra — Fri, 18 Sep 2009 12:00:28 +0000

Beginning Wednesday, September 24 the Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health will commence their 2009 Conference in La Jolla California. Join us for an informative four days as we look at “Creating a Culture of Healthy Sexuality: Integrity and Integration.”

Pre-conference Wednesday, September 23. Join Kelly McDaniel, author of “Ready to Heal” and myself for our workshop, “Women, Love and Sex Addiction: Integrity and Integration from 9am - 4pm

Thursday, September 24 join the team from the Center for Healthy Sex for our presentation, “It Takes a System to Change a System.” 1:30- 2:45 pm

Friday, September 25 at 9am, I will be talking about my upcoming book, “Erotic Intelligence: Igniting Hot, Healthy Sex After Recovery From Sex Addiction.”

For more information go to http://www.sash.net

CA State Assemblyman Resigns

Alexandra — Fri, 11 Sep 2009 12:00:12 +0000

The Los Angeles Times reports that State Assemblyman Mike Duvall resigned on Wednesday, Sepbember 9 after his lewd comments about women he had been sexually involved with were inadvertently broadcast over an open microphone during a lull in a Sacramento hearing in July.

This is another example of the split we see in sex addicts all the time. Mr. Duvall is a Republican, pro-family advocate who has clearly lead a double life. I’m not saying that he’s definately a sex addict but his behaviors certainly make him suspect.

To read the article go to :

http://www.latimes.com/news/local/la-me-duvall10-2009sep10,0,2300584.story?track=rss

Let us know what you think by clicking the comments button below.

What is Sleep Sex?

Alexandra — Fri, 04 Sep 2009 12:00:40 +0000

Do you know there are a host of parasomnia’s meaning involuntary behaviors that occur during sleep? Everyone’s heard of sleep walking but sexsomnia or “sleep sex” can be a bigger problem. That’s right! People can masturbate during sleep, talk dirty, or worse yet, break the law by forcing sex on to another person.

To read more about this phenomenon go to:

http://health.usnews.com/articles/health/sleep/2009/05/08/how-sleep-sex-and-other-parasomnias-can-get-you-in-trouble-with-the-law.html?s_cid=related-links:TOP

Women’s retreat with Brenda Schaeffer

Alexandra — Fri, 28 Aug 2009 12:00:46 +0000

Women’s Fall Retreat

DATES: September 11 - 13, 2009

LOCATION: Private lake retreat near Spooner, WI

Open to women who want to claim the “goddess within” often lost to betrayal, trauma, love addiction or self neglect. This retreat will be an opportunity to play, nurture and continue a self healing process of body, mind and spirit. In addition to group process, women will have an opportunity to:

rest and relax in nature
take in a massage
spend time in the sauna or Jacuzzi
share a gourmet meal
meditate
heal the past and move forward
claim lost innocence

To register and more information:

please visit our website ,

email heidi@itsallaboutlove.com, or

call 952-944-4046.

Healthy Relationships

15798 Venture Lane

Eden Prairie, Minnesota 55344

952.944.4046

info@itsallaboutlove.com

What the 12-step programs have known for 70+ years is now proven!

Alexandra — Fri, 21 Aug 2009 12:00:15 +0000

Mavis Humes-Baird www.recoverysense.com tells us:

12-Step wisdom cautions that relapse can only occur when opportunity and desire meet. That wisdom therefore suggests “Stay away from People, Places and Things,” to minimize your opportunities. Now, a scientific study shows that doing so not only minimizes the opportunity to relapse, but your desire as well. There is a long list of other program tools for minimizing the desire to relapse. Of course, minimizing and replacing both the desire and the opportunity as much as you can is still a big part of what recovery is all about!

The other program wisdom upheld by this study is the need for surrender. The phrase from the AA Big Book, “No amount of human willpower could have relieved our alcoholism” comes to mind. And another goes, “So far as alcohol was concerned, confidence was overrated…..”

To read the article on Yahoo! News, “Temptation Harder to Resist Than You Think, Study Suggests” go to:

http://news.yahoo.com/s/livescience/20090804/sc_livescience/temptationhardertoresistthanyouthinkstudysuggests

Gay or Not Gay?

Alexandra — Sat, 15 Aug 2009 12:00:42 +0000

Do you think it’s beneficial for some people to reject their gay or lesbian attractions? In an article entitled “A New Therapy on Faith and Sexual Identity” in the Wall Street Journal, The American Psychological Association says that it can be. When people are tormented by their sexual orientation because it conflicts with their religious beliefs, changing their sexual compass may bring them relief.

This is not meant to be the old “conversion therapy” that “cures” people out of their homosexuality but will certainly create controversy nonetheless.

Check out the article at http://online.wsj.com/article/SB124950491516608883.html

What do you think about this topic? Let us know by clicking the comments button below.

The Female Brain

Alexandra — Wed, 12 Aug 2009 05:26:07 +0000

If you are female and want to know more about how you tick, if you have a female child, or if you are in relationship with a female I HIGHLY recommend you read “The Female Brain” by Louann Brizendine, M.D.

Dr. Brizendine simply and clearly lays out the differences between the male and female brains and makes it easy to understand. She finally lays to rest the argument about nature vs. nuture and gives scientific evidence for why women are the way they are - versus just being from “Venus.”

You can order this book from www.amazon.com

Happy reading and let us know what you think!

Sexting Teens

Alexandra — Sat, 01 Aug 2009 12:00:07 +0000

This article on Medscape Today is worth taking a look at, “Sexting: New Technology, Old Problem” by Mary E. Muscari, PhD, CPNP, APRN-BC, CFNS. Ms. Muscari takes a sobering look at the complications caused by teen sexting.

The author defines sexting as “the sending of sexually charged messages or images via cell phone” or other electronic media that exposes teens making them vulnerable to highly detrimental consequences.

To educate yourself about the power and complexity technology poses to teen’s safety and sexual development, take a look at this article: http://www.medscape.com/viewarticle/702078

Click the comment button below and let us know what you think.

http://www.medscape.com/viewarticle/702078

Premature Ejaculation in Pakistan

Alexandra — Fri, 24 Jul 2009 12:00:47 +0000

Some time at the beginning of 2009 I got an email in my info@centerforhealthysex box from a man named ”Michael” in Pakistan. He wrote that he was suffering from high anxiety and premature ejaculation and had the courage to reach out and ask me for help. Knowing that his problem was not unusual and fairly easy to address, I referred him to two books I thought would be helpful. To my surprise, he wrote back telling me he was a student who could not afford to purchase books and had no means to charge books on-line.

Buying a book on-line is a basic transaction in my world so I was taken aback that this simple activity was a hardship for him. So I decided to buy the books for ”Michael” and mail them to him in Pakistan. After a debacle with a bookseller on Amazon and a number of communiques with ”Michael” as we waited for the books to arrive at my office, I finally sent the books via US mail. I have to say I was not that confident that he would get them because his address was so convoluted. It read something like this: the name of his employer, across from the butcher shop, next to the bank, Pakistan and a postal code of sorts (I’m not kidding!)

Ten days later, ”Michael” received the books and sent me a thank you note. He was incredibly grateful and began reading them. After a few months, I received an email from him letting me know his progress. I think you might be as moved as I was when you read his note. It reminded me how little it takes to help someone restore their sexuality. For those of you who have more access and resources than ”Michael” did, I hope this inspires you to reach out and get help.

Once I was very worried about my P E. I was unable to know why it occurs.
I used to ejaculate within a minute . Luckily I got two useful books recommended me by honourable Miss Alexandra Katehakis. The name of one book is : Coping with Premature Ejaculation written by Michael E Metz and Barry W Mc Carthy. The book has a biopsychosocial approach which has not only helped me substantially to control rapid ejaculation, but also increased my sexual joy. For the first time, I understood the multi causal and multidimensional problem of Premature Ejaculation and to enjoy sex with enhanced ejaculatory control. The book presents different diagnostic methods and tools to scientifically evaluate and assess P.E. I came to know exactly in what type of P E, I was suffering from. I also found the psycho sexual exercises very useful.
The other book that was recommended me was : Anxiety and Phobia Workbook written by Edmund J Bourne. For most people, P E is caused by anxiety. The book has a holistic approach to overcoming anxiety, phobia, depression etc. When I learned how to manage my anxiety, I gained good control of my P E.
In short I found these two books very beneficial and I recommend these books to all those guys who are worried about their premature ejaculation. I am still on the path of progress.
With best wishes
Michael

“Is It Love Or Is It Addiction?” by Brenda Schaeffer, Ph.D.

Alexandra — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 12:00:28 +0000

The updated and new edition of the book that changed the way we think about romance, love and intimacy is now available!

In the expanded 3rd edition of her best selling classic Is It Love or Is It Addiction?, psychologist Dr. Brenda Schaeffer offers readers an expert prognosis of love addiction, what it is, what it is not, how to identify it, and most important, how to get you out of it and into healthy love. It includes:

two new chapters - Romance Addiction and Sexual Addiction;
up to date information on the biological and psychological basis of addictive behaviors;
the role technology plays;
the role of trauma;
new stories; and
an updated self help section.

If you are ready to move towards a healthier love life and join the thousands whose lives have already been changed by this book, click here: www.itsallaboutlove.com

The book is also available through hazelden.org, amazon.com and at bookstores.

Helen Fisher Talks About Love and the Brain

Alexandra — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 12:01:25 +0000

Anthropologist Helen Fisher talks about why we love on this video at Ted.com. She states that romantic love is a basic mating drive and can be an addiction as well.

Love addiction is comprised of focus, obsession, craving, distorting reality, and taking risks. It also shares the same features of chemical addiction such as tolerance, withdrawl, and relapse.

To watch the video, go to

http//www.ted.com/index.php/talks/helen_fisher_studies_the_brain_in_love.html

Dr. Fisher states, “love is in us, it’s deeply embeded in the brain.”

Mavis Humes Baird Talks Sex Addiction on CBS News

Alexandra — Fri, 03 Jul 2009 12:00:23 +0000

Experts continue to struggle with how to define the problem of compulsive sexual behaviors because of the lack of scientific data to support that the need for sex can feel like an addiction. Thousands of men and women describe their need for sex and inability to control their behaviors as feeling like an addiction.

Psychotherapist Mavis Humes Baird talks about sex addiction as a bona fide disorder in this interview in the Huffington Post.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/dr-jon-lapook/sex-addiction-is-it-reall_b_211473.html

In this CBS News interview, Ms. Humes Baird gives clear answers to this problem

http://www.cbsnews.com/video/watch/?id=5060423n

Let us know what you think and what you’re experiences have been by clicking the comment button below.

Affective Neuroscience and Sex Addiction

Alexandra — Fri, 26 Jun 2009 12:00:42 +0000

For those of you more interested in an academic look at Sex Addiction as a problem of early childhood attachment patterns, you can order an article I wrote from the Journal of Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity by going to the link below.

http://www.informaworld.com/smpp/title~db=all~content=g908944473

If you have any questions, feel free to contact me I’m happy to answer them!

Was David Carradine a Sex Addict?

Alexandra — Fri, 19 Jun 2009 12:00:25 +0000

It’s difficult to answer that question with certainty but given the information in the article posted below, it doesn’t look good for the fallen Kung-Fu actor.

Not everyone who dies of a sexually-related death is a sex addict. But according to his ex-wives (he had five), he engaged in potentially leathel sexual behaviors when seemed to escalate over time. Developing a tolerance is one of the ear-marks of sex addiction.

Did he ultimately kill himself due to his preference for tying himself up? It sure looks that way. Although one of his ex-wives states that he used to tie himself up, the reports of the condition he was in when found dead indicate that there was another party present.

I’m no Sherlock Holmes but my speculation is that the sex-play went awry with one or both parties pushing the envelope too far. When it was clear that Mr. Carradine was dead, his sexual partner fled the scene.

For more detailed information on the topic, go to http://http://www.nydailynews.com/news/2009/06/10/2009-06-10_thai_tabloid_david_carradine_photos_show_fishets_wig_womens_lingerie.html

The Porn Industry Kills…

Alexandra — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 12:00:49 +0000

Whether or not pornography is good for a culture or not is a complicated topic. On the one hand the right to print and view porn is a free speech issue, and on the other hand it can be a human rights issue. Many young men and women die every year due to overdose, suicide, homicide, and accidents due to the torment they are going through working in porn films.

Although I don’t have an answer about what is “right” and what is “wrong” where the availability of porn is concerned, former porn actress, Shelley Luben does. She has created a crusade to help people get out of the porn industry. Her site does anything but glamorize an industry that chews people up and spits them out.

Watching porn is not a victimless crime.

Eleven porn porn stars died from HIV, suicide, homicide and drugs in 2007.
Between 2003 and 2005, 976 performers were reported with 1,153 positive STD results.
66% of porn performers have Herpes, a non-curable disease.

To read more about porn industry stats and current legislation in the state of California, go to http://www.shelleylubben.com/index.php?truth=home

Click on the comment button below and let us know what you think about this topic.

Women Struggle with Sex Addiction Too

Alexandra — Fri, 05 Jun 2009 12:00:14 +0000

If you are female and are worried about your sexual behaviors, take a look at this video produced by faithave.com. Marnie Feree, a long-time expert on female sex addiction, talks about the facts of female sex addiction.

This is a faith-based message which I neither endorse or condem. As they say in the 12-step tradition, “take what you like and leave the rest.” To view the video go to:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bTJkfUibkIY&feature=PlayList&p=5D83675D836231D3&index=0

Gay sex addicts

Alexandra — Fri, 29 May 2009 12:00:32 +0000

If you are a gay male and interested in a conversation about whether or not sex addiction exists, is a problem for you or a loved one, or you just want to join in on a lively conversation about the topic, visit queerty.com and blog your two cents:

http://www.queerty.com/is-sex-addiction-a-myth-20090420/

Behavioral Health & Addictive Disorders Conference

Alexandra — Fri, 22 May 2009 12:00:25 +0000

Join me from May 27 - May 29 in Seattle, Washington for the U.S. Journal’s 22nd Annual Northwest Conference on Behavioral Health and Addictive Disorders.

I will be a keynote speaker at 9:00 am on Friday, May 29 talking about my new book, “Erotic Intelligence.”

In two follow-up sessions, I will be presenting a course entitled “Sex Addiction 101: Assessment, Diagnosis, and Treatment of Sexual Addiction” and “It’s Not the Orgasm, It’s the Connection: Igniting Eroticism After Recovery.”

Join me and many others for an informative weekend in Seattle!

For more information go to www.usjt.com

Sex addiction and eating disorders

Alexandra — Fri, 15 May 2009 12:00:29 +0000

The two behavioral addictions that most resemble one another, and often go hand-in-hand, are sex addiction and eating disorders. Both of these problems are difficult to change because the human race can’t survive without sex or food. However, if you are addicted to sex you can certainly live without it (at least for a while) but if you’re addicted to food, you definitely can’t live without it.

Recovery from these addictions requires clear boundary plans that are monitored by others in the person’s recovery community such as a sponsor, therapist, etc.

In his article entitled “Sex Addiction Common Alongside Eating Disorders,” author Matthew Teimeyer examines the parallel between these two behavioral addictions. To read the article, click on

http://eatingdisorders.about.com/od/cooccurringdisorders/a/eatingandsex.htm

Sexual Fluidity…

Alexandra — Fri, 08 May 2009 12:00:05 +0000

Is there such a thing as sexual fluidity or is our sexuality static? This author offers both research and explanation as to why/how it’s possible that our sexuality fluctuates over time and according to who were with and where we are in our lives.

“I Kissed a Girl” Sexual Fluidity: Understanding Women’s Love and Desire by Lisa M. Diamond Cambridge, MA: Harvard University Press, 2008, is available in hardcover should you want to read the book.

Below you will find an excerpt of her book reviewed by Ellyn Ruthstrom:

In a culture most comfortable analyzing important issues using binary concepts—Democrat/Republican, pro/con, right/wrong—the straight/gay binary of sexual orientation is particularly well-defended. Admitting to any element of ambiguity or changeability in this most intimate part of our identities strikes fear into the hearts of many. Certainly the biphobia—prejudice against bisexuals—that is exhibited by both the straight and gay communities is a manifestation of that fear. If we understood ambiguity better, would we be able to accept that a fluid sexual orientation is as valid as any other? Would there be less distrust and apprehension of those whose sexuality doesn’t fit into a heads-or-tails reality?

To read the rest of the article, go to http://www.wcwonline.org/content/view/1945/

Or to read another article on why women leave men, go to http://www.cnn.com/2009/LIVING/personal/04/23/o.women.leave.menfor.women/index.html

Click on the comments button below and let us know your thoughts.

Older,Wiser, Sexually Smarter!

Alexandra — Fri, 01 May 2009 12:00:22 +0000

Finally, a book geared to adults enjoying and celebrating their sexuality!

The newest sex education manual, Older Wiser, Sexually Smarter: 30 Sex Ed Lessons for Adults Only is the first sex ed manual exclusively for adults! This book is getting rave reviews and I think you will rave too. To find out more and to order your copy, visit http://ppgnnj.org/jforms/flyerOWSS.pdf

Enjoy and let us know what you think by clicking the comments button below.

Sexual Assault Awareness and Healthy Sex Talk

Alexandra — Fri, 24 Apr 2009 12:00:39 +0000

Kelly and Becca are sexual assault awareness experts and have been writing about sexual assault since 2003. They provide educational awareness throughout the country and have a very informative blog. http://kellyandbecca.blogspot.com/

Also, on their web site www.sexversations.comthey have created a fun and easy way to break the ice and talk about difficult sexual conversations with your partner called “Sexversations.” Below are some examples of how to get started:

Suggestions for Sexversations^®

Talk about sex and related issues with your partner or partners.
Enjoy open and honest dialogue with your friends.
Ideal for many sociology, philosophy, health, women’s studies, wellness, psychology and ethics classes.
Perfect for student organization activities or workshops.
Great for helping peer educators start conversations.
Self-sexversate to help further your own sexual awareness and embrace the more sexually empowered you.

Have FUN and let us know what you think by clicking the comment button below.

Women Turn To Sex Industry Due to Economic Downturn

Alexandra — Fri, 27 Mar 2009 12:00:28 +0000

I feared it was a matter of time before we began to see young women, and men, turning to the sex industry to make ends meet. This article on the msnbc website tells us just that. With the loss of jobs and financial struggles many are having, young women are turning to stripping.

Often young women think they can handle the work and tell themselves that it’s just a “temporary” solution until they get back on their feet financially. Unfortunately, the money can be seductive and instead of saving the money and getting out, they start to create a lifestyle with it.

This, sadly, becomes a trap that can have women turning to prostitution before they know it. If you or someone you know is thinking about selling their sexuality, now is the time to assist them in getting help before the trap-door closes.

To read more on this topic, go to

2nd Women’s Summit at Life Healing Center, Santa Fe, New Mexico

Alexandra — Sun, 22 Mar 2009 05:29:30 +0000

On March 19, 2009 Life Healing Center of Santa Fe brought together a tour de force of women to take on the task of helping female sex and love addicts!

I am writing to you from Santa Fe, New Mexico where I just spent the past 2 1/2 days with approximately 12 women from around the country who specialize in treating female sex and love addiction. It has been an exhilerating weekend of creative ideas coming together to form a standard of care for women who struggle with these painful and challenging problems.

By the end of the weekend tangible tasks and important goals were put into motion, one of which is a book that will assist mental health professionals in providing the best care for female sex and love addicts.

Stay tuned for more details of what was accomplished as these tasks, surveys, articles, and books come to fruition.

If you are a woman who struggles with these issues and are interested in participating in an anonymous, on-line survey for the purposes of collecting research information, please contact me at info@centerforhealthysex.com.

Social Networking for Recovery

Alexandra — Fri, 13 Mar 2009 12:00:59 +0000

One Recovery is a social networking system for those in recovery from most anything. If you need a way to connect to others and can’t always make a meeting, this is a place to check out. While not the best choice for getting out of isolation and reaching out, it’s better then nothing.

http://www.onerecovery.com/

Give it a try and let us know what you think!

Don’t Wait for Tomorrow to Change Your Life!

Alexandra — Fri, 06 Mar 2009 12:00:49 +0000

When does your recovery begin? Are you waiting for tomorrow, the next holiday or “someday” in the future?

Your life is on now and if you are living a double life, lying to yourself and the people you most care about, it’s time.

Time to take a stand for your own personal truth and time to reclaim your life. If you’re waiting for “someday” then make that day today because the sun is setting somewhere in the world and life is short!

Women’s Sexuality

Alexandra — Fri, 13 Feb 2009 12:00:54 +0000

“What do Women Want?” is the question posed by the New York Times author, Daniel Bergner in an article published on January 22, 2009. In this lengthy, but thorough, article Mr. Bergner, along with the experts he interviews, explores the complexities of female sexual desire.

To read this fascinating article, go to:
http://www.nytimes.com/2009/01/25/magazine/25desire-t.html?_r=1&scp=1&sq=what%20do%20women%20want?&st=cse

Let us know what you think by clicking the comment button below.

Are you a love addict?

Alexandra — Sat, 07 Feb 2009 07:17:09 +0000

Are you, or someone you know, a love addict? Are you constantly waiting for others to fill your needs in order to feel good? Do you fantasize endlessly about the “happily ever after story?” Love addict’s are always waiting for “the one” yet are never able to stick with just one.

Danish documentary film maker, Pernille Rose is researching love addiction for a new film. She has created a dedicated web site for people who struggle with this problem who would like to share their experiences in order to help others.

If you are willing to tell your story, go to www.loveaddiction.com to be a part of this project.

Gay Men’s Sexuality Group

Alexandra — Fri, 30 Jan 2009 12:00:40 +0000

If you are gay and interested in exploring your questions about sex, what is healthy and what is not, then this group is for you.
Lead by Christopher Donaghue, MSW in a dynamic and non-judgmental fashion, questions around dating, casual sex, sexual compulsivity, and long-term committed relationships with be addressed.
It’s difficult to be gay and sex positive in a culture that gives the message that anything goes when it comes to sex. Come sort out these issues for yourself in the safety and comfort of a peer group at the Center for Healthy Sex on Monday nights from 7 - 9pm.
For more information, call Chris at 310-280-8472 or email him at chris@centerforhealthysex.com

Have fun and let us know what you think of the group!

Men’s Sexual Health

Alexandra — Fri, 16 Jan 2009 12:00:00 +0000

“Men’s Sexual Health,” by Barry W. Mccarthy and Michael E. Metz is a must read for men! This is a well researched book full of useful information for optimal sexual health. The author’s state, “Anything good for your physical body will be good for your sexuality, and anything that subverts your physical body will subvert your sexuality”.In that, they are saying that fitness is critical for everyone especially men over 40.

The author’s remind us that behavioral habits like sleep, exercise, eating, drinking, drug use and smoking are key.Chronic health problems like sleep apnea, sleeping less than 5 hours per night, depression and irrability have a major negative impact on sexuality. Smoking is major contributor to erectile dysfunction and medications for blood pressure control can have an impact on desire and erection.

We are reminded that stress is the number one killer of sexual desire in the body and the authors recommend that men take a semi annual vacation. “Take all your allotted vacation and personal time” and take “micro vacations” i.e. movie, concert, sporting event and concentrate on this as a microvacation from stress.

They recommend that you change your exercise program with age.Don’t do the workout at 40 that you were doing at 20.Look for activities that increase respiration, cardiac output and vascular system heal.All these will improve your sexual vitality and function! Sensuality, looking at how you treat your body, how you workout - “appreciate your maleness and your sexuality at every age of your life.

Make new choices for self-nurturance and fun– clothes, food, hobbies, moving bodies, celebrating YOU without shameThe good-enough sex model is not about performance but about acceptance, pleasure and positive, realistic sexual and relationship expectations”.”With the good enough sex model, intimacy and satisfaction are the ultimate purpose, with pleasure as important as function and mutual acceptance as the context”.

“Relationship and sexual satisfaction are the ultimate developmental focus.The couple is an intimate team”

“The essence of sexuality is giving and receiving pleasure-oriented touching, which is the foundation of healthy sexual function”.

Sexual Amnesia

Alexandra — Fri, 09 Jan 2009 12:00:00 +0000

A few cases of sexual amnesia have been reported and studied in Spain. People who can't remember anything for a few hours after having sex. This may be linked to high blood pressure or the use of medications like Viagra.

To read the article on this, go to:

http://www.world-science.net/exclusives/080928_amnesia.htm

Is sex addiction really a disease?

Alexandra — Fri, 02 Jan 2009 12:00:00 +0000

Healthblog came out with an article at the end of September and opened it up to readers. How do you weigh in on this topic?

Is sex addiction really a problem or a sociallly constructed idea? Is it just an excuse to “behave badly,” or really a problem that creates destruction in people’s lives?

Go to this link to read more and click the comment button below and let us know what you think!

http://blogs.wsj.com/health/2008/09/30/is-sex-addiction-really-a-disease/

His and Her Sexual Health

Alexandra — Fri, 26 Dec 2008 12:00:00 +0000

Male or female, just about any question you may have about sexual dysfunction or sexual desire can be found on this web site. Questions about medication, pain, prostate health or orgasm can be answered.

Go to: http://www.hisandherhealth.com/authors/dr.-aline-zoldbrod-expert-in-sex-therapy.html

Evan Handler’s “It’s Only Temporary”

Alexandra — Fri, 19 Dec 2008 12:00:00 +0000

Evan Handler who appeared in “Sex and the City” admits to having had a cybersex addiction. He has a book coming out in spring 2009 called, “It’s Only Temporary.” You can learn more about this by clicking on this link:

http://www.theinsider.com/news/737448_Evan_Handler_s_Addiction_To_Cybersex

In an article posted at Sexualhealthconnection.com, the author states, “More and more people are putting themselves forward as sex addicts. Such is the extent of the problem that the Mayo clinic estimates up to 6 percent of adults in the United States are affected. The reason why some experts use the term ‘addiction’ or ‘compulsive sexual behavior’, is because the course and effects of the condition closely matches that of diseases such as alcoholism.”

http://www.healthcentral.com/sexual-health/c/65058/40750/addiction

If you have any comments, please click the comment button below and let us know what you think.

Porn viewing at work on the rise

Alexandra — Fri, 12 Dec 2008 12:00:00 +0000

According to this report, 25% of people on the job are looking at porn. Experts believe as people get bored at their desks, this number will increase. Take a look at this video and let us know what you think by clicking the comments button below.

http://www.the33tv.com/pages/content_landing_page/?Viewing-porn-at-work-is-at-all-time-high=1&blockID=153079&feedID=460

Nothing Sexy about Sex Addiction

Alexandra — Fri, 05 Dec 2008 12:00:00 +0000

As sex addiction gets more talked about, it gets legitimized as a bona fide problem. Courtney Kaminski writes a very smart article in the Brock Press entitled, “Nothing Sexy about Sex Addiction. Here is an excerpt from the article:

However, it is important to realize that there is a key difference between promiscuity and sexual addiction. Your roommate may be happy regaling you with stories about the casual sex she had last night, but for sex addicts the sex is not happy sex. Like any addiction the behaviour is merely the process to get to the big payoff at the end, which for sex addicts is the usually the release of chemicals in the brain that one experiences during climax.

Click here to read the entire article.

Teenage Sexuality: Unprotected sex, STD’s, pregnancy and more

Alexandra — Fri, 28 Nov 2008 12:00:00 +0000

Teenage sexual exploration is a developmental task. Hormones are surging, crushes come and go, bodies are changing, it's an exciting time. Given the natural process that all humans go through, it's shocking that we have abdicated responsabililty for stewarding our young people through this transitional time. With virtually no sex education in this country we leave kids on their own to get their sex education from one another and pornography.

Recently, the Tyra Banks show created an anonymous survey for teenagers asking about sexual behaviors. More then 10,000 teens and young women took the test. You may be shocked to learn that the average girl looses her virginity at 15, often at school. She also reports having unprotected sex, STD's, using drugs, and engaging in physical violence.

We all need to take a stand for sex education in our schools and churches now! To read the article click on the link below then click on the comment button and let us know what you think.

http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/27706917/?GT1=43001

Eliot Spitzer Slapped on the Hand!

Alexandra — Fri, 21 Nov 2008 12:00:00 +0000

According to a Newsweek article, Eliot Spitzer will not be prosecuted for breaking the law for hiring prostitutes or for transporting women across state lines for the purpose of engaging them in sex for money.

The Department of Justice has reduced prostitution, and therefore exploitation of women, to a mere scandal. Despite the fact that prostitution violates and harms women both emotionally and physically, Mr. Spitzer is being slapped on the hand. Mr. Spitzer is quoted as saying that he feels like he’s paid for his “sin” implying it’s time to move on, and Alan Dershowitz is quoted as saying that it was “no big deal.”

Based on the depth and breadth of Mr. Spitzer’s actions and sexual behaviors, the loss of his position as Governor of New York state, and the wreckage he undoubtedly caused his family, my guess is that Mr. Spitzer is most likely a sex addict. Because he simply “sinned,” he will sadly, never make it to treatment to face his problems. This ruling by the DOJ sends a message to women thoughout the country that the “good ‘ole boys” club is alive and well.

As a woman, I am personally offended and incensed by this ruling. As a citizenn, I find it irresponsible at best and unconscionable at worst. It makes me wonder who paid whom and how deep does the prostitution ring in New York state go?

To get the full impact of this ruling, you can read the entire article at:

http://www.newsweek.com/id/168395?gt1=43002

Love Addiction Documentary

Alexandra — Sat, 15 Nov 2008 00:00:00 +0000

Do you struggle with falling in love repeatedly and thinking that this time will be the last time? Do you love being in love? When your ideal fantasy wears off, do you leave tyour relationships? Have you learned to live with chronic heartbreak? If you relate to these questions, you may be struggling with love addiction. Others who don't know they have this problem would like to hear from you.

If you would like to share your story and help clairfy what love addiction is then you may want to participate in a new documentary film that is casting now. To learn more about this movie go to : http://loveaddictiondoc.blogspot.com/

Workshops for Sexually Compulsive and Addicted Men

Alexandra — Fri, 07 Nov 2008 12:00:00 +0000

Dr. Michael Johnson is pleased to announce the dates of this season’s Workshops for Sexually Compulsive and Addicted Men. These workshops are designed for men new to recovery, men struggling to maintain sexual sobriety, or men undecided as to whether they are sexually addicted. It may benefit you or others you know who struggle with out of control and destructive sexual behavior. This is the eighth year of this program.

The dates for these 3-day workshops are:

November 14-16, 2008

March 6- 8, 2009

A printable flyer is attached or you can download a flyer at www.sexual-addict.com/Flyer2008-2009a.pdf.

The workshops are held in beautiful, historic, downtown Austin, Texas. The cost is $850. Meals and accommodations are not included. To learn more about the workshops or sexual addiction go to www.sexual-addict.com.

Contact Dr. Michael Johnson directly at 512 928 4357 or doctor@sexual-addict.com.

For those in the Austin area, I am also pleased to announce that there is currently space available in the Ongoing, Process Group for Sexually Compulsive and Addicted Men.

Desire: Where Sex Meets Addiction…

Alexandra — Fri, 31 Oct 2008 12:00:00 +0000

Novelist, Susan Cheever reveals her struggles with sexual addiction in her new book, “Desire: Where Sex Meets Addiction.” She talks about how she used men and sex to manage her mood and get her through difficult situations throughout her adult life. She also sees how using sex created more difficulty and that it was the addiction under her alcoholism.

To read the review in the International Hearld Tribune, go to:

http://www.iht.com/articles/2008/09/27/arts/writer.php?page=1

Sex slaves in the suburbs

Alexandra — Fri, 17 Oct 2008 12:00:00 +0000

On Sunday, October 13, 2008, MSNBC ran a special on “Sex Slaves in the Suburbs.” They featured popular bars in Houston called cantania’s as well as massage parlors in San Francisco.

The cantania’s solicit women from El Salvador promising them factory or restaurant jobs in the U.S. where they can make better money to support their families at home. Sad to leave their families and children behind, but filled with hope for a better life, these women end up as sex slaves fighting for their lives.

In San Francisco, women are brought to the U.S. from Thailand with similar promises. If you have ever gone to a massage parlor for a “sensual massage” then you most likely have been participating in the human sex trafficking trade.

Many sex addicts who frequent strip clubs or massage parlors tell themselves that they’re not hurting anyone, that prostitutes are making a living, or that hiring a prostitute is a victimless crime.

Think again. By hiring these women, you are most likely participating in human sex trafficking and violating innocent women in the worst way possible. If you’ve ever hired a prostitute consider making amends by contributing to organizations that work to prevent the sex traffic trade. Click here to make a donation: http://www.klaaskids.org/s

If you hire prostitutes with any reqularity, consider you have a problem and get help immediately. Find a sex addiction therapist in your area: www.sash.net

For more on this story go to: http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/27098993/

Sex addiction misunderstood

Alexandra — Fri, 17 Oct 2008 12:00:00 +0000

Clearly, a lot of folks just don't get it! It's also interesting to see how uncomfortable people are talking about sex without going into uncomfortable, goofy parodies about it. In this video clip, Ali Wentworth shows us her lack of understanding about sex addiction and her general discomfort with talking about sex. She says the word "masturbation" as if it's some dirty, shameful thing that shouldn't be spoken. What are your thoughts?

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2008/10/10/ali-wentworth-talks-porn_n_133757.html

Father/daughter sex talk

Alexandra — Fri, 10 Oct 2008 09:00:00 +0000

As a father, have you had an appropriate sex talk with your teenage daughter? Many men don't due to their discomfort with the topic but it's crucial for a girl coming into her sexuality to have a sense that her father cares in an appropriate way. Although challenging, this conversation can have a lasting impact on your daughter and your relationship with her. By reaching out and initiating the conversation, you are modeling intimacy to her and you'll most likely leave the conversation with the two of you feeling closer to one another.

If you don't know where to start, try contacting Ricky Siegel, Vice President of Education, Training and Counseling for Planned Parenthood of South Palm Beach and Broward Counties. He is a licensed and certified mental health counselor, sex therapist, and addictions professional in the State of Florida.

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/TiffanieDavis/2008/09/04/Sex-Therapy-with-Ricky-Siegel

Is sex therapy for you?

Alexandra — Fri, 03 Oct 2008 09:00:00 +0000

Do you wonder about your sex life and what's "normal?" Do you talk to your friends about their sexuality and compare your sexual activity to theirs? Most of us don't know what "healthy sex" is because we've never stopped to ask ourselves questions about who we are sexually.

Struggling with low sexual desire, anxiety in the form of premature ejaculation, having painful sex or feeling like you aren't really sure of who you are sexually are all reasons to seek sex therapy. Many people avoid sex therapy because they are embarrassed to admit they have a problem. I would venture to say that most people have sexual issues throughout the lifespan due to changing ideas, bodies, values and desires.

To read more and to locate resources on where to find a sex therapist go to:

http://www.thirdage.com/sexual-health/sex-therapy-is-it-for-you-0

Tangled in the Web: Understanding Cybersex From Fantasy to Addiction

Alexandra — Fri, 26 Sep 2008 12:00:00 +0000

Dr. Kimberly Young takes a deeper look into the world of Cybersex in her book:

Tangled in the Web: Understanding Cybersex from Fantasy to Addiction. Here is an exerpt from an article about the book:

From the author of the groundbreaking book, Caught in the NET, the first to identify Internet addiction comes, Tangled in the Web: Understanding Cybersex from Fantasy to Addiction. In Tangled in the Web, Dr. Kimberly S. Young builds on her research in the area of online behavior to uncover the brave new world of the Cybersexual Revolution, and the powerful allure of cybersex fantasy. Dr. Young reveals the impact of online sexual fantasies and their potential for addiction. Dr. Young describes who is most at risk to develop Cybersexual Addiction, how the disorder progresses, what drives the compulsive behavior, and offers hope and help for cybersex addicts with a comprehensive plan to stay web sober even when relapse is just a mouse click away.

To read the rest of the article or to order the book, go to:

http://www.authorhouse.com/BookStore/ItemDetail~bookid~7053.aspx

Sex addiction crosses cultural, age and socio-economic boundaries

Alexandra — Fri, 19 Sep 2008 12:00:00 +0000

A sixty year old man from Tuscaloosa gives us a clear definition of what sex addiction is:

“You have a pleasure center in the back of your brain and when you’re masturbating those chemicals are being released in your pleasure center,” he said. “But what happens is pornography gets boring and your pleasure center wants more so you escalate from softcore porn to hardcore, from strip clubs to prostitution. It’s like starting on marijuana and then moving to crack cocaine so you can reach the same pleasure release you had the first time you got high. That’s why you get deeper and deeper into an addiction.”

To read more of this man’s story go to:

http://www.tuscaloosanews.com/article/20080823/NEWS/49009/1005

Internet Addiction

Alexandra — Fri, 12 Sep 2008 12:00:00 +0000

We think and talk a lot about cybersex addiction today but addiction the Internet is a steadily growing problem that encompasses cybersex addiction. If you are worried about yourself or a family member consider getting help for this problem.

There is a lot of good information and resources on this site: http://news.medill.northwestern.edu/washington/news.aspx?id=95681

David Duchovny’s sex addiction admission causing a stir

Alexandra — Sun, 07 Sep 2008 01:53:50 +0000

Ever since Showtime’s “Californication” star, David Duchovny announced his decision to seek help for his sex addiction, articles and opinions have popped up everywhere.

All of these articles accurately describe the problem even though some people want to challenge that it’s real. If you, or someone you love, have been touched by this problem, you know how real it is.

Here are the links to the various articles talking about this problem:

http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2008/08/29/AR2008082902754.html

http://news.aol.com/health/article/is-sex-addiction-a-disorder-or/154267

http://www.newsweek.com/id/156768

http://wcbstv.com/local/sex.addiction.treatment.2.806473.html

Let us know your opinion by clicking the comment button below

TV celebrity enters treatment for sex addiction

Alexandra — Fri, 05 Sep 2008 20:30:47 +0000

For those of you who don't already know, David Duchovny star of Showtime's "Californication," entered treatment for sexual addiction last week. I want to commend Mr. Duchovny and his wife for their courage in being honest about his problem.

It turns out that their courage in coming forward about his addiction has already inspired thousands of people to investigate whether or not they have a probelm with this issue. Sexhelp.com, the website that hosts Patrick Carnes' Sexual Addiction Screening Test, has been overrun with thousands of people trying to access the test.

You can also find this test on my website www.centerforhealthysex.com

To read the story go to the following link:

http://www.cnn.com/2008/HEALTH/09/05/sex.addiction/index.html

How do I find a sex therapist?

Alexandra — Fri, 29 Aug 2008 12:00:00 +0000

The American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) is a not-for-profit, interdisciplinary professional organization. In addition to sexuality educators, sexuality counselors and sex therapists, AASECT members include physicians, nurses, social workers, psychologists, allied health professionals, clergy members, lawyers, sociologists, marriage and family counselors and therapists, family planning specialists and researchers, as well as students in relevant professional disciplines. These individuals share an interest in promoting understanding of human sexuality and healthy sexual behavior.

If you are struggling with issues of sexual dysfunction or a desire to reach your sexual potential, contact a sex therapist in your area. You can find a directory at: www.aasect.org

Women’s sexual health

Alexandra — Fri, 22 Aug 2008 12:00:00 +0000

More and more, women are asking themselves questions about their sexual health and what sexuality means to them. Our culture portrays women in all sorts of roles and each woman’s family has perscribed roles and rules about what it means to be a woman and how that woman should behave and feel about her sexulaity.

Because there are so many choices today, women have to manage the anxiety they feel about defining their sexuality and the kind of relatinships they want to be in. Sex therapy can often be very helpful in sorting out these questions.

For more information on sex therapy for woman, click on link:

http://www.aolhealth.com/womens-sexual-health/learn-about-it/the-role-of-sex-therapy

Sex addiction bloggers…

Alexandra — Fri, 15 Aug 2008 12:00:00 +0000

A blog for sex addiction?? This may seem a little odd, but a lot of people get relief by being in community when difficulty strikes. If you need support because you’ve been cheated on by a partner who is stuck on cyberporn, check out this website:

http://wordpress.com/tag/understanding-cybersex-addiction/

Certified Sex Addiction Therapists

Alexandra — Sat, 09 Aug 2008 00:00:00 +0000

Certified Sex Addiction Therapists are fast-becoming the industry’s standard for therapists who are working with individuals who suffer from addictive and compulsive sexual behaviors. The certification is designed to provide formal knowledge and training in the task-centered approach to the treatment of sexual addiction and sexual compulsivity. The CSAT designation provides a professional with the recognition as an expert in the field of sex addiction treatment and participation in an international referral network.

To find a certified therapist in your area, go to www.iitap.comand check the directory for a local listing.

Teen sex addiction

Alexandra — Fri, 01 Aug 2008 12:00:00 +0000

With easy access to the internet, more and more teens are at risk for becoming sexually addicted. Although we have very little research on this topic, the developing brain is highly suseptable to input and therefore, structural changes.

Take a look at this article, written by a O’Connor high school student, Brianna Roberts.

http://media.www.theranger.org/media/storage/paper1010/news/2008/06/30/News/Porn-On.The.Internet.Encourages.Sex.Addiction.Experts.Say-3386289.shtml

Sex Addiction Treatment Workshops - Austin, Texas

Alexandra — Fri, 25 Jul 2008 12:30:00 +0000

Dr. Michael Johnson presents, Workshops for Sexually Compulsive and Addicted Men.

These workshops, located in beautiful downtown Austin, Texas are designed for men new to recovery, men struggling to maintain sexual sobriety, or men undecided as to whether they are sexually addicted. This is the eighth year of this program.

Dates:

November 14 -16, 2008

March 6 - 8, 2009

Cost: $850.00

Meals and accommodations are not included.

To learn more about the workshops or sexual addiction go to www.sexual-addict.com

Contact Dr. Michael Johnson directly at 512 928 4357 or

amjphd@wt.net.

For those in the Austin area, Dr. Johnson currently has space available in the Ongoing, Process Group for Sexually Compulsive and Addicted Men.

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