Comments for Sex Addiction Los Angeles http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com Sex Addiction Los Angeles Tue, 07 Feb 2012 07:31:18 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.5 Comment on TIME Magazine questions sex addiction as a bona fide problem by Jason Ward http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2011/02/time-magazine-questions-sex-addiction-as-a-bona-fide-problem/#comment-145 Jason Ward Fri, 22 Apr 2011 17:54:05 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=864#comment-145 Yes but its the context for the acting out that is so important.......patients suffering from sex addiction need to re-sacralise the context for physical intimacy...this is the redeeming quality that needs to be evoked within the psyche..... Yes but its the context for the acting out that is so important…….patients suffering from sex addiction need to re-sacralise the context for physical intimacy…this is the redeeming quality that needs to be evoked within the psyche…..

]]> Comment on Craigslist shuts down adult services listing by Becca Schwilling http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2010/09/craigslist-shuts-down-adult-services-listing/#comment-143 Becca Schwilling Sun, 14 Nov 2010 20:38:37 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=815#comment-143 I've been enjoying reading the articles on the CHS website today, and wanted to let you know that the link for this was doesn't work, whether clicked on or pasted into browser. From info provided by the NY Times website, I think it might have expired. Thought you'd want to know so you can check it out and remove it if it is no linger valid. Thanks! I’ve been enjoying reading the articles on the CHS website today, and wanted to let you know that the link for this was doesn’t work, whether clicked on or pasted into browser. From info provided by the NY Times website, I think it might have expired. Thought you’d want to know so you can check it out and remove it if it is no linger valid. Thanks!

]]> Comment on MP3 Recovery Downloads by Marcia Berg http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2008/01/mp3-recovery-downloads/#comment-142 Marcia Berg Wed, 29 Sep 2010 21:38:50 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=64#comment-142 I need to express my concern over the potential risk that Dr. Magness 'program creates by using the lie detector test on sex addicts (who rely on lies to enable their habits). The uncertainty and potential inaccuracy of the system, coupled with the deceiving nature of sex addicts, creates a significant risk to families who put their faith in this process. Based on our family’s experience - had my husband wanted to take advantage of the opportunities offered to him, this program would have given him the impression that his actions and behaviors were good. Likewise, had I bought into the results, I could have believed the same. Should a serious offender have the same experience in this program, the results could be disastrous and potentially dangerous to women and children. The addict gets a stamp for a “clean bill of health” and the family is blissfully unaware of the careful orchestration behind the scenes. My husband was instructed on his answers on the associated paperwork, and the questions were not targeted to the real issues. Anyone can pass a question that doesn’t target their specific issues. Couples need to be given a great deal more education on the accuracy of lie detector testing so that they further evaluate the validity of it and consequently make an informed decision. As it is, your program offers a great deal of concern! I need to express my concern over the potential risk that Dr. Magness ‘program creates by using the lie detector test on sex addicts (who rely on lies to enable their habits). The uncertainty and potential inaccuracy of the system, coupled with the deceiving nature of sex addicts, creates a significant risk to families who put their faith in this process. Based on our family’s experience - had my husband wanted to take advantage of the opportunities offered to him, this program would have given him the impression that his actions and behaviors were good. Likewise, had I bought into the results, I could have believed the same. Should a serious offender have the same experience in this program, the results could be disastrous and potentially dangerous to women and children. The addict gets a stamp for a “clean bill of health” and the family is blissfully unaware of the careful orchestration behind the scenes. My husband was instructed on his answers on the associated paperwork, and the questions were not targeted to the real issues. Anyone can pass a question that doesn’t target their specific issues.

Couples need to be given a great deal more education on the accuracy of lie detector testing so that they further evaluate the validity of it and consequently make an informed decision. As it is, your program offers a great deal of concern!

]]> Comment on Masturbation makes you go blind! by Laura Church http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2010/05/masturbation-makes-you-go-blind/#comment-141 Laura Church Tue, 22 Jun 2010 17:46:55 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=731#comment-141 Wow. This is mind-numbing information. If everyday life on this planet is causing this much anxiety, this much inability to express ourselves, we need to find a way to learn to live a more connected way of being and doing. Wow. This is mind-numbing information. If everyday life on this planet is causing this much anxiety, this much inability to express ourselves, we need to find a way to learn to live a more connected way of being and doing.

]]> Comment on Masturbation makes you go blind! by woman.anonymous7 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2010/05/masturbation-makes-you-go-blind/#comment-140 woman.anonymous7 Mon, 14 Jun 2010 00:24:01 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=731#comment-140 Great post. If we could only take morality out of the issue more often, perhaps we could make some headway with getting our society to take a deeper look at the cost of obsession and obsessive behaviors, and the cost of the unhealthy attitudes toward sexuality that are acceptable and even promoted in mainstream culture. Great post. If we could only take morality out of the issue more often, perhaps we could make some headway with getting our society to take a deeper look at the cost of obsession and obsessive behaviors, and the cost of the unhealthy attitudes toward sexuality that are acceptable and even promoted in mainstream culture.

]]> Comment on Erotic Intelligence now available! by Kelly http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2010/05/erotic-intelligence-now-available/#comment-139 Kelly Thu, 10 Jun 2010 08:32:04 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=742#comment-139 Thanks for sharing this! I really enjoyed reading about all this, sounds interesting. Thanks for sharing this! I really enjoyed reading about all this, sounds interesting.

]]> Comment on Ways women orgasm by Katie http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2010/06/ways-women-orgasm/#comment-132 Katie Fri, 04 Jun 2010 17:04:40 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=767#comment-132 Dealing with <a href="http://www.eroticintelligencebook.com/" rel="nofollow"> sexual problems </a> is never easy. Partially because it is hard to talk about and partially because the problems can often be a mind over matter issue. Dealing with sexual problems is never easy. Partially because it is hard to talk about and partially because the problems can often be a mind over matter issue.

]]> Comment on Intensive Out-Patient Treatment for Sex Addiction by Katie http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2010/07/intensive-out-patient-treatment-for-sex-addiction/#comment-131 Katie Mon, 31 May 2010 15:58:27 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=751#comment-131 Getting treated for <a href="http://www.eroticintelligencebook.com/" rel="nofollow"> Sex addiction</a> can be really hard. With any addiction there is temptation, but with sex its just everywhere. Getting treated for Sex addiction can be really hard. With any addiction there is temptation, but with sex its just everywhere.

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]]> Comment on Eliot Spitzer Slapped on the Hand! by alessandro http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2008/11/eliot-spitzer-slapped-on-the-hand/#comment-98 alessandro Tue, 16 Feb 2010 03:30:27 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=14#comment-98 Dear Doctor The reason I believe prostitution should be legal is not because "it forces the people participating in it to face terrible consequences because they are often not protected by the law.", as you said, but, on the contrary, because where it's legal, like in Brazil, it provides an incalculable benefit in terms of learning about women's sexuality for many men. Myself, I had hundreds of encounters with prostitutes, not in the USA where prostitution and illegal in almost every state, but in Brazil and Europe, and I assure you that the knowledge gained was very useful for my relations with "regular" women . I never had a problem with prostitutes (neither I know somebody who had). The risk increases when the illegality pushes the activity of prostitution in the hands of organized crime, as often happens in the USA. In the USA, unfortunately, feminism and the ideology of "political correctness" continue to prevent millions of people to enjoy a freer and healthy sexuality. The results are known: widespread neuroses, homosexuality and deranged gunmen who seek revenge for their sexual frustration ... best, Alessandro Dear Doctor

The reason I believe prostitution should be legal is not because “it forces the people participating in it to face terrible consequences because they are often not protected by the law.”, as you said, but, on the contrary, because where it’s legal, like in Brazil, it provides an incalculable benefit in terms of learning about women’s sexuality for many men. Myself, I had hundreds of encounters with prostitutes, not in the USA where prostitution and illegal in almost every state, but in Brazil and Europe, and I assure you that the knowledge gained was very useful for my relations with “regular” women . I never had a problem with prostitutes (neither I know somebody who had). The risk increases when the illegality pushes the activity of prostitution in the hands of organized crime, as often happens in the USA. In the USA, unfortunately, feminism and the ideology of “political correctness” continue to prevent millions of people to enjoy a freer and healthy sexuality. The results are known: widespread neuroses, homosexuality and deranged gunmen who seek revenge for their sexual frustration …

best,

Alessandro

]]> Comment on Eliot Spitzer Slapped on the Hand! by alessandro http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2008/11/eliot-spitzer-slapped-on-the-hand/#comment-97 alessandro Mon, 15 Feb 2010 14:25:39 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=14#comment-97 Dear Doctor I cannot this obsession with prostitution, that is an activity that harms nobody. Don't you think that is incoherent to engage in treating people on sexual problems and having such a strictly puritan view about sexuality? Why sexuality should be addressed mainly from the point of view of "addiction"?? Aren't you guys covert moralists?? P.S. the last time my post hasn't been published...(censorship?) regards, Alessandro Dear Doctor

I cannot this obsession with prostitution, that is an activity that harms nobody. Don’t you think that is incoherent to engage in treating people on sexual problems and having such a strictly puritan view about sexuality? Why sexuality should be addressed mainly from the point of view of “addiction”?? Aren’t you guys covert moralists??

P.S. the last time my post hasn’t been published…(censorship?)

regards,

Alessandro

]]> Comment on Eliot Spitzer Slapped on the Hand! by alessandro chiarottino http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2008/11/eliot-spitzer-slapped-on-the-hand/#comment-96 alessandro chiarottino Sat, 13 Feb 2010 14:48:46 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=14#comment-96 I disagree from your stance on prostitution. I truly believe that prostitution is a necessity for men's healthy sexual life. The problem arises when we have human traffic and sexual slavery, but the Spitzer case has nothing to do with that. in this case, criticism arose from moralism and bigotry. I disagree from your stance on prostitution. I truly believe that prostitution is a necessity for men’s healthy sexual life. The problem arises when we have human traffic and sexual slavery, but the Spitzer case has nothing to do with that. in this case, criticism arose from moralism and bigotry.

]]> Comment on Professional Therapy Never Includes Sex by Nancy http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2007/10/professional-therapy-never-includes-sex/#comment-93 Nancy Sat, 21 Nov 2009 09:33:07 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=78#comment-93 Thanks for the attached pamphlet. I was looking for info on sex therapy and I landed on your page. Btw, the link no longer works. Any idea where else can I find the pdf? Nancy Thanks for the attached pamphlet. I was looking for info on sex therapy and I landed on your page.
Btw, the link no longer works. Any idea where else can I find the pdf?
Nancy

]]> Comment on The Female Brain by Zach H. http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2009/08/the-female-brain/#comment-92 Zach H. Tue, 29 Sep 2009 01:12:42 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=572#comment-92 My wife and I have read this book, and we both got a LOT out of it. Definitely changed our perspective on a lot of things. It should be required reading for . . . well, everyone, really! Zach H. My wife and I have read this book, and we both got a LOT out of it. Definitely changed our perspective on a lot of things. It should be required reading for . . . well, everyone, really!

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]]> Comment on Affective Neuroscience and Sex Addiction by jayne johnson http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2009/06/affective-neuroscience-and-sex-addiction/#comment-91 jayne johnson Sun, 02 Aug 2009 17:56:20 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=548#comment-91 Your article in JSAC has been extremely helpful for me in working with clients. It is one of the best, most informtive articles I have read in my 25 year career. Thanks. jj Your article in JSAC has been extremely helpful for me in working with clients. It is one of the best, most informtive articles I have read in my 25 year career. Thanks. jj

]]> Comment on The Porn Industry Kills… by Megan http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2009/06/the-porn-industry-kills/#comment-90 Megan Fri, 17 Jul 2009 22:29:27 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=507#comment-90 Yves....yeah....they choose the profession just like they chose to be abused and molested in their childhood. People often make "choices" which any real understanding of what drives them. If the people participating in the porn industry where offered the help they needed before they entered the industry, I bet their "choice" would be different. Yes, many industries chew people up and spit them out, but most people don't have to risk being raped, exposed to disease, and abused. Don't get me wrong, I feel those in the porn industry need to take responsibility for themselves, but to indicate that they chose this and the ramifications are perfectly acceptable is insane. Yves….yeah….they choose the profession just like they chose to be abused and molested in their childhood. People often make “choices” which any real understanding of what drives them. If the people participating in the porn industry where offered the help they needed before they entered the industry, I bet their “choice” would be different. Yes, many industries chew people up and spit them out, but most people don’t have to risk being raped, exposed to disease, and abused. Don’t get me wrong, I feel those in the porn industry need to take responsibility for themselves, but to indicate that they chose this and the ramifications are perfectly acceptable is insane.

]]> Comment on Women Turn To Sex Industry Due to Economic Downturn by Megan http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2009/03/women-turn-to-sex-industry-due-to-economic-downturn/#comment-89 Megan Fri, 17 Jul 2009 22:23:26 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=398#comment-89 I don't think this is judgemental at all. People who sell themselves sexually end up broken and demoralized. I can see how someone starts out innocently enough thinking they will just do it temporarily until they get back on their feet, but having sex with strangers is a little different than taking a second job waiting tables. You don't come out of it the same as you were going in. Quite frankly, anyone who actually goes through with it probably wasn't healthy to begin with. I feel sorry for these people, but it's their choice at the end of the day and they will pay the price emotionally. I don’t think this is judgemental at all. People who sell themselves sexually end up broken and demoralized. I can see how someone starts out innocently enough thinking they will just do it temporarily until they get back on their feet, but having sex with strangers is a little different than taking a second job waiting tables. You don’t come out of it the same as you were going in. Quite frankly, anyone who actually goes through with it probably wasn’t healthy to begin with. I feel sorry for these people, but it’s their choice at the end of the day and they will pay the price emotionally.

]]> Comment on The Porn Industry Kills… by Yves VonWolf http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2009/06/the-porn-industry-kills/#comment-88 Yves VonWolf Sun, 14 Jun 2009 02:58:57 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=507#comment-88 There are many industries that are well known to "chew people up and spit them out". Entertainment is and has been well noted to be ruthless. Ask the thousand of has-been stars and wannabe's how difficult this is. The movie Swimming with sharks is a good example. Remember that these people chose this profession. That is a vast difference from a slave sold and used. There are many industries that are well known to “chew people up and spit them out”. Entertainment is and has been well noted to be ruthless. Ask the thousand of has-been stars and wannabe’s how difficult this is. The movie Swimming with sharks is a good example.
Remember that these people chose this profession. That is a vast difference from a slave sold and used.

]]> Comment on Women Turn To Sex Industry Due to Economic Downturn by Amy http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2009/03/women-turn-to-sex-industry-due-to-economic-downturn/#comment-87 Amy Wed, 10 Jun 2009 06:25:56 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=398#comment-87 Are you serious posting such a short, superficial and judgemental blog?! Are you serious posting such a short, superficial and judgemental blog?!

]]> Comment on 2nd Women’s Summit at Life Healing Center, Santa Fe, New Mexico by Josh Spurlock http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2009/03/2nd-womens-summit-at-life-healing-center-santa-fe-new-mexico/#comment-86 Josh Spurlock Wed, 08 Apr 2009 15:12:27 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=393#comment-86 I appreciate your efforts to raise awareness concerning female sexual addiction. So many believe that it's only a male struggle. I appreciate your efforts to raise awareness concerning female sexual addiction. So many believe that it’s only a male struggle.

]]> Comment on Men’s Sexual Health by Mike W. http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2009/01/mens-sexual-health/#comment-84 Mike W. Thu, 22 Jan 2009 04:25:38 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=6#comment-84 Great post about the need for exercise to keep sexuality alive. As a trainer, I know this to be true for myself and my clients. Thanks Great post about the need for exercise to keep sexuality alive. As a trainer, I know this to be true for myself and my clients. Thanks

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]]> Comment on Cybersex Addiction Treatment by frau simo http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2006/03/cybersex-addiction-treatment/#comment-55 frau simo Mon, 15 Dec 2008 06:52:21 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=158#comment-55 Soma acts directly on the central nervous system (CNS) by blocking pain sensations between the nerves and the brain. People who have sustained physical injury or trauma may have initially been prescribed Soma and then become dependent on its pain-killing effects even after the injury has healed. Soma is often combined with other drugs or alcohol to enhance the effect. Because it can be habit-forming, it should only be used as prescribed and never transferred to another person. The effective treatment solution of soma is available in various rehab centers and residential school at reasonable prices. http://www.addiction-treatments.com/ Soma acts directly on the central nervous system (CNS) by blocking pain sensations between the nerves and the brain. People who have sustained physical injury or trauma may have initially been prescribed Soma and then become dependent on its pain-killing effects even after the injury has healed. Soma is often combined with other drugs or alcohol to enhance the effect. Because it can be habit-forming, it should only be used as prescribed and never transferred to another person. The effective treatment solution of soma is available in various rehab centers and residential school at reasonable prices.
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]]> Comment on Premature ejaculation by michael http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2006/04/premature-ejaculation/#comment-54 michael Tue, 25 Nov 2008 23:36:30 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=155#comment-54 This short book has changed my life, increased my staying power by 90%. After just two days www.secretstomoreprematuresolutions.com have looked at links to web blogs and found this to be most help full. This short book has changed my life, increased my staying power by 90%. After just two days

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]]> Comment on For Partners of Sex Addicts by betrayed by photos http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2005/09/for-partners-of-sex-addicts/#comment-78 betrayed by photos Wed, 19 Nov 2008 23:23:19 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=199#comment-78 I recently discovered my boyfriends dark secret which he’s kept from me the entire time we’ve been together. We’ve always been open and had a good relationship, but I felt there was something he kept from me. A few weeks ago- that “something” smacked me in the face. I found a hidden file on our computer with nude pictures of women- all shapes, sizes and ages- but not just adult film women- like real every day women, taking pictures of themselves naked. Then I found a folder with images of my boyfriend. Some of these images were from before we were together and other were taken the whole time we’ve been together. I could see the date the photos were taken. There were some where in the mirror you could see where I wrote ” i love you” and him standing there masterbating and taking the pic. Others were taken in our new home we just built this summer. I then found images of a “friend” of his that I never really trusted. He swore to me so many times they were just friends from when they were teenagers. Obviously I was mad and hurt. I broke into his myspace account and wrote this so called “friend”. I sent her a message saying that I knew what was going on and called her all kinds of names. Im not saying it was right, but I wasnt thinking clearly at the time. I also messaged her boyfriend and let him know what her actions had been. Later that night my boyfriend came home. I yelled at him for a while, then insisted he call this girl and end their “friendship”. we talked all night and cried. Somehow we went to work the next day. In the last few weeks we’ve gone to therapy 3 times and he’s joined a local 12 step program. we are able to talk about things and have progressed in some small areas. I still dont trust him. His computer access has been limited and he must have my supervison, per the therapist. i also have access to his email and his myspace/facebook accounts have been deleted. he’s cried and told me several times that he knows this wasnt right and he wants to make our relationship stronger. He swears to me this never went further than text images and the web. Somehow am I suppose to trust that? The therapist believes he used this “act” to cover pain and grief from losing his mother and an ending relationship prior to ours, since thats when he began this act. every day i think about what we are going thru, the images of those women and him pop in my head all the time. I cry, get mad, get scared, and feel numb out of no where. we are able to talk when we both have feelings. i want to have the confiedence this issue will be something we can work pass, something that will be hard but somehow make us a stronger couple. its hard to have that confidence when i never thought this person would ever hurt me like this, and now that all my trust with him is lost, i have to learn to trust him again. in no way do i believe i deserved this, caused this or should have to live with this. he knows the ball is in his court. i will support him, go to therapy and talk as much as needed, but he is the one who brought this into our relationship and he will be the one to prove he can overcome his addiction and be a better partner. Its been made very aware to him, not as a threat, that this will not occur again. I will not stick around and allow him to treat me in this way. It may hurt to leave, but it would hurt even more to repeat this. A friend of mine had this issue several years ago with her now husband, only it began shortly after their engagement. She swears by therapy and the 12 step program. She said that it takes time and rebuilding trust, but it is something that can be worked thru. I really hope she's right. I recently discovered my boyfriends dark secret which he’s kept from me the entire time we’ve been together. We’ve always been open and had a good relationship, but I felt there was something he kept from me.

A few weeks ago- that “something” smacked me in the face. I found a hidden file on our computer with nude pictures of women- all shapes, sizes and ages- but not just adult film women- like real every day women, taking pictures of themselves naked. Then I found a folder with images of my boyfriend. Some of these images were from before we were together and other were taken the whole time we’ve been together. I could see the date the photos were taken. There were some where in the mirror you could see where I wrote ” i love you” and him standing there masterbating and taking the pic. Others were taken in our new home we just built this summer. I then found images of a “friend” of his that I never really trusted. He swore to me so many times they were just friends from when they were teenagers.

Obviously I was mad and hurt. I broke into his myspace account and wrote this so called “friend”. I sent her a message saying that I knew what was going on and called her all kinds of names. Im not saying it was right, but I wasnt thinking clearly at the time. I also messaged her boyfriend and let him know what her actions had been. Later that night my boyfriend came home. I yelled at him for a while, then insisted he call this girl and end their “friendship”. we talked all night and cried. Somehow we went to work the next day.

In the last few weeks we’ve gone to therapy 3 times and he’s joined a local 12 step program. we are able to talk about things and have progressed in some small areas. I still dont trust him. His computer access has been limited and he must have my supervison, per the therapist. i also have access to his email and his myspace/facebook accounts have been deleted.

he’s cried and told me several times that he knows this wasnt right and he wants to make our relationship stronger. He swears to me this never went further than text images and the web. Somehow am I suppose to trust that?

The therapist believes he used this “act” to cover pain and grief from losing his mother and an ending relationship prior to ours, since thats when he began this act.

every day i think about what we are going thru, the images of those women and him pop in my head all the time. I cry, get mad, get scared, and feel numb out of no where.

we are able to talk when we both have feelings. i want to have the confiedence this issue will be something we can work pass, something that will be hard but somehow make us a stronger couple.

its hard to have that confidence when i never thought this person would ever hurt me like this, and now that all my trust with him is lost, i have to learn to trust him again. in no way do i believe i deserved this, caused this or should have to live with this.

he knows the ball is in his court. i will support him, go to therapy and talk as much as needed, but he is the one who brought this into our relationship and he will be the one to prove he can overcome his addiction and be a better partner.

Its been made very aware to him, not as a threat, that this will not occur again. I will not stick around and allow him to treat me in this way. It may hurt to leave, but it would hurt even more to repeat this.

A friend of mine had this issue several years ago with her now husband, only it began shortly after their engagement. She swears by therapy and the 12 step program. She said that it takes time and rebuilding trust, but it is something that can be worked thru. I really hope she’s right.

]]> Comment on Partners of sex addicts by Lovie http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2008/04/partners-of-sex-addicts/#comment-7 Lovie Mon, 27 Oct 2008 15:45:55 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=47#comment-7 This is great info to know. This is great info to know.

]]> Comment on Is sexual surrogacy for you? by Kate Preston http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2006/12/is-sexual-surrogacy-for-you/#comment-37 Kate Preston Sun, 26 Oct 2008 23:46:19 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=120#comment-37 Ilive in upstate NY and was wondering if there were any training programs, degrees or accredidation needed to become a surraget. If it makes a difference, I am most interested in working with the phisicly disabled as I have experiance with the Disabled Community. I appreciate any help. Thank you. Ilive in upstate NY and was wondering if there were any training programs, degrees or accredidation needed to become a surraget. If it makes a difference, I am most interested in working with the phisicly disabled as I have experiance with the Disabled Community. I appreciate any help. Thank you.

]]> Comment on Cybersex Addiction Treatment by Alcohol Rehabs http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2006/03/cybersex-addiction-treatment/#comment-58 Alcohol Rehabs Fri, 29 Aug 2008 12:08:56 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=158#comment-58 There are many Addiction Treatments Centers; they have designed their programs to care for those people who are greatly affected by alcohol Addiction and other addiction. In their programs they also provide Alcohol Outpatients Program which is the main program in addiction treatments. http://www.addiction-treatments.com/ There are many Addiction Treatments Centers; they have designed their programs to care for those people who are greatly affected by alcohol Addiction and other addiction. In their programs they also provide Alcohol Outpatients Program which is the main program in addiction treatments.

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]]> Comment on Cybersex Addiction Treatment by addiction withdrawal http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2006/03/cybersex-addiction-treatment/#comment-59 addiction withdrawal Fri, 29 Aug 2008 07:32:49 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=158#comment-59 Drugs and alcohol abuse Create many problems for their own life. They use illegal substance for artificial enjoyment and to reduce tension for few moments. People who are interested to withdrawal addiction can take help of any nearest rehabilitation center. http://www.drugrehabscenters.com/ Drugs and alcohol abuse
Create many problems for their own life. They use illegal substance for artificial enjoyment and to reduce tension for few moments. People who are interested to withdrawal addiction can take help of any nearest rehabilitation center.

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]]> Comment on The Porn Trap by mimmy http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2008/06/the-porn-trap/#comment-5 mimmy Fri, 22 Aug 2008 06:52:43 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=39#comment-5 a specific behavior whether good or bad, becomes increasingly strengthened through repetition. physically altering the brain tissue to create new and better pathway is a difficult task and takes persistent repetitious new behavior. ================================== Addiction Therapy a specific behavior whether good or bad, becomes increasingly strengthened through repetition. physically altering the brain tissue to create new and better pathway is a difficult task and takes persistent repetitious new behavior.
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]]> Comment on The Porn Trap by jaj http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2008/06/the-porn-trap/#comment-6 jaj Wed, 06 Aug 2008 16:04:02 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=39#comment-6 I read the book. I am now addicted to reading about addiction to porn. I read the book. I am now addicted to reading about addiction to porn.

]]> Comment on Cybersex Addiction Treatment by Jackwatsan http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2006/03/cybersex-addiction-treatment/#comment-63 Jackwatsan Sat, 07 Jun 2008 05:51:36 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=158#comment-63 My friend john suffering from an adiction with drugs, so kindly give me a suggestin to prohibit the drugs... wiat for your reply... ============ jackwatsan http://www.drugrehabcenter.com My friend john suffering from an adiction with drugs, so kindly give me a suggestin to prohibit the drugs… wiat for your reply…
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]]> Comment on Cybersex Addiction Treatment by johnbosco http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2006/03/cybersex-addiction-treatment/#comment-64 johnbosco Fri, 06 Jun 2008 09:21:26 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=158#comment-64 this one is very useful for everyone , it very fasinating. --------- John bosco Problem With Drugs or Alcohol? This Drug Rehab has Helped Thousands of Individuals to Recover. [URL= http://www.drugrehabcenter.com] Drug Rehab [/URL] this one is very useful for everyone , it very fasinating.

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]]> Comment on Does Sexual Addiction Exist? by Alex Hitchens http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2006/08/does-sexual-addiction-exist/#comment-47 Alex Hitchens Fri, 30 May 2008 14:25:35 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=136#comment-47 Your article looks great.... Alex Hitchens ================================ Comprehensive resources for those looking for recovery from addiction. http://www.addictionrecovery.net ================================= Your article looks great….
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]]> Comment on Is Porn Right or Wrong? by nehemiah http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2007/10/is-porn-right-or-wrong/#comment-24 nehemiah Thu, 29 May 2008 19:42:49 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=76#comment-24 Pornography always features perverted sex acts, it treats women as objects to be abused, it is odious filth. Pornography always features perverted sex acts, it treats women as objects to be abused, it is odious filth.

]]> Comment on Cybersex Addiction Treatment by sai http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2006/03/cybersex-addiction-treatment/#comment-65 sai Thu, 29 May 2008 08:43:11 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=158#comment-65 Hi Friends Addiction treatment and recovery resources for the addict and their families. http://www.addictiontreatment.net Hi Friends
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]]> Comment on Cybersex Addiction Treatment by delta_1981 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2006/03/cybersex-addiction-treatment/#comment-66 delta_1981 Thu, 22 May 2008 13:04:12 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=158#comment-66 This article is very useful for me. I like your article. Thanx. ======Take care====== delta Comprehensive resources for those looking for recovery from addiction. http://www.addictionrecovery.net This article is very useful for me. I like your article. Thanx.

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]]> Comment on From “stud” to addict status by Coernograni http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2008/02/from-stud-to-addict-status/#comment-16 Coernograni Thu, 15 May 2008 09:38:47 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=61#comment-16 One of your most ancient writers, a historian named Herodotus, tells of a thief who was to be executed. As he was taken away he made a bargain with the king: in one year he would teach the king's favorite horse to sing hymns. The other prisoners watched the thief singing to the horse and laughed. "You will not succeed," they told him. "No one can." To which the thief replied, "I have a year, and who knows what might happen in that time. The king might die. The horse might die. I might die. And perhaps the horse will learn to sing. -- "The Mote in God's Eye", Niven and Pournelle ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- http://blurty.com/users/waynewyattrr One of your most ancient writers, a historian named Herodotus, tells of a
thief who was to be executed. As he was taken away he made a bargain with
the king: in one year he would teach the king’s favorite horse to sing
hymns. The other prisoners watched the thief singing to the horse and
laughed. “You will not succeed,” they told him. “No one can.”
To which the thief replied, “I have a year, and who knows what might
happen in that time. The king might die. The horse might die. I might die.
And perhaps the horse will learn to sing.
– “The Mote in God’s Eye”, Niven and Pournelle

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]]> Comment on Sexual Anorexia by Montana Girl http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2005/08/sexual-anorexia/#comment-81 Montana Girl Sat, 26 Apr 2008 15:28:56 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=217#comment-81 I have been told by experts in the area of sexually addiction that I do have this problem of sexual anorexia. However, it has also been determined that my spouse is an acute sex addict. Over the years I developed a repulsive feeling for him and if he would try to initiate sexual activity I could not respond. His attempts only made me ill to the point where I wanted to throw up. I have been told by experts in the area of sexually addiction that I do have this problem of sexual anorexia. However, it has also been determined that my spouse is an acute sex addict. Over the years I developed a repulsive feeling for him and if he would try to initiate sexual activity I could not respond. His attempts only made me ill to the point where I wanted to throw up.

]]> Comment on Is America addicted to porn? by Aurayp http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2008/02/is-american-addicted-to-porn/#comment-15 Aurayp Thu, 20 Mar 2008 02:41:06 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=60#comment-15 favorited this one, man favorited this one, man

]]> Comment on Unmanagability by David C http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2008/01/unmanagability/#comment-17 David C Thu, 13 Mar 2008 20:39:10 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=63#comment-17 I prefer messes to unmanageability. I realized that I have given up every hobby I ever had - I was a great cook, I went to dance and concerts, I collected music, etc. All gone or greatly diminished. Got to the point after my wife left where I was holding onto a job by the barest of threads and then acting out or recovering from acting out all the rest ofthe time I prefer messes to unmanageability. I realized that I have given up every hobby I ever had - I was a great cook, I went to dance and concerts, I collected music, etc. All gone or greatly diminished. Got to the point after my wife left where I was holding onto a job by the barest of threads and then acting out or recovering from acting out all the rest ofthe time

]]> Comment on Sex addiction and its related behaviors by Kay Sieverding http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2008/03/sex-addiction-and-its-related-behaviors/#comment-10 Kay Sieverding Mon, 10 Mar 2008 16:01:49 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=56#comment-10 I think Judge Edward Nottingham deprived me of my rights because he was blackmailed for being a sex addict. He put me in jail for representing myself in court, which is a right by statute. I was told I was not allowed a lawyer or an evidentiary hearing. After 5 months of jail he said :"whoops". I think he was blackmailed because of sex addition. See Home » News Chief federal judge investigated for alleged involvement with prostitutes http://www.9news.com/news/article.aspx?storyid=87702 http://www.denverpost.com/ci_6593145?source=bb I think Judge Edward Nottingham deprived me of my rights because he was blackmailed for being a sex addict. He put me in jail for representing myself in court, which is a right by statute. I was told I was not allowed a lawyer or an evidentiary hearing. After 5 months of jail he said :”whoops”. I think he was blackmailed because of sex addition. See
Home » News
Chief federal judge investigated for alleged involvement with prostitutes
http://www.9news.com/news/article.aspx?storyid=87702
http://www.denverpost.com/ci_6593145?source=bb

]]> Comment on The brain and sex addiction by Dr. Charles Parker http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2008/03/the-brain-and-sex-addiction/#comment-11 Dr. Charles Parker Sat, 08 Mar 2008 13:41:51 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=57#comment-11 Alexandra, Great meeting you out there, and look forward to our ongoing conversations. Appreciate your insights - so interesting to find how you and your colleagues there have connected with every aspect of the complexity of the recovery process. Many remain in the dark ages regarding compulsive, impulsive and addictive behaviors thinking these presenting symptoms are *only psychologically based*... leaving treatment almost completely one dimensional, and missing the reality of biologically based brain dysregulation. And, as I mentioned in my post about the meeting, many of you have been looking more deeply for years. Deep and comprehensive thinking is more likley to bring consistent recovery practice. Look forward to working together, and will link to your blog over at CorePsych- Thanks Chuck Alexandra,
Great meeting you out there, and look forward to our ongoing conversations. Appreciate your insights - so interesting to find how you and your colleagues there have connected with every aspect of the complexity of the recovery process.

Many remain in the dark ages regarding compulsive, impulsive and addictive behaviors thinking these presenting symptoms are *only psychologically based*… leaving treatment almost completely one dimensional, and missing the reality of biologically based brain dysregulation.

And, as I mentioned in my post about the meeting, many of you have been looking more deeply for years. Deep and comprehensive thinking is more likley to bring consistent recovery practice.

Look forward to working together, and will link to your blog over at CorePsych-
Thanks
Chuck

]]> Comment on Unmanagability by Mark Brouwer http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2008/01/unmanagability/#comment-18 Mark Brouwer Tue, 19 Feb 2008 05:14:27 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=63#comment-18 Great article again Alexandra! I refer to it in this post. Hope you're doing well. Great article again Alexandra! I refer to it in this post. Hope you’re doing well.

]]> Comment on Is sex therapy for you? by honda-radio http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2005/12/is-sex-therapy-for-you-2/#comment-72 honda-radio Sun, 17 Feb 2008 02:30:04 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=183#comment-72 Thx! :) Thx! :)

]]> Comment on Is Porn Right or Wrong? by Press http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2007/10/is-porn-right-or-wrong/#comment-25 Press Tue, 15 Jan 2008 05:09:54 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=76#comment-25 Press Release – HIV HAS BEEN IMMOBILIZED!!! A medical device to immobilize HIV (THAT HAS A UNITED STATES PATENT) has been invented and is discussed in a new book! If you would like to know more, just send an email request to – apressrelease@yahoo.com and we will be happy to send you the press release! (Press Release in the PDF format) Please feel free to share this important information with as many people as you wish! Press Release – HIV HAS BEEN IMMOBILIZED!!!

A medical device to immobilize HIV (THAT HAS A UNITED STATES PATENT) has been invented and is discussed in a new book! If you would like to know more, just send an email request to – apressrelease@yahoo.com and we will be happy to send you the press release! (Press Release in the PDF format)

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]]> Comment on “How to Cure a Sex Addict…” by anna stanley http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2007/02/how-to-cure-a-sex-addict/#comment-34 anna stanley Tue, 15 Jan 2008 00:44:46 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=108#comment-34 My husband refuses to talk about his addiction. After telling me he was addicted, he refuses to go to meetings. what should I do? My husband refuses to talk about his addiction. After telling me he was addicted, he refuses to go to meetings. what should I do?

]]> Comment on Young adults and Pornography by j http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2007/12/young-adults-and-pornography/#comment-19 j Thu, 10 Jan 2008 07:32:19 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=68#comment-19 Pornography's ubiquitousness in 2008 is frightening. While I don't believe in government censorship, necessarily, I do hope there is some way to keep this away from young people. Pornography’s ubiquitousness in 2008 is frightening. While I don’t believe in government censorship, necessarily, I do hope there is some way to keep this away from young people.

]]> Comment on When do you know if sex is a problem? by james http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2007/11/when-do-you-know-if-sex-is-a-problem/#comment-21 james Fri, 30 Nov 2007 18:53:47 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=73#comment-21 As an addict, it is hard not to view pornography, etc as the devil, as for us..well, it is. But, at the same time I realize some people can use adult material responsibly, just like I can drink and not be an alcoholic. As an addict, it is hard not to view pornography, etc as the devil, as for us..well, it is. But, at the same time I realize some people can use adult material responsibly, just like I can drink and not be an alcoholic.

]]> Comment on When do you know if sex is a problem? by Mark http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2007/11/when-do-you-know-if-sex-is-a-problem/#comment-22 Mark Mon, 26 Nov 2007 01:47:59 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=73#comment-22 I understand this dilemma. As someone who works with people dealing with compulsive sexual behavior, I suppose it's obvious which side of the equation I would fall on. That said, I am not going to become an anti-porn crusader. I think it's helpful to view this like the alcohol and prohibition debates in the last century. In retrospect it seems obvious that prohibition was never going to be the right solution, because some people are able to use alcohol without abusing and/or becoming addicted to it. We've decided as a society to let people drink if they want to, and focus our interventions on people who are getting into trouble. The same is true with sexual behaviors of various kinds. Why argue with people about sexual behaviors they don't feel are problematic? Let's just focus on people who are trying to change or stop behaviors, and realizing that they can't. I understand this dilemma. As someone who works with people dealing with compulsive sexual behavior, I suppose it’s obvious which side of the equation I would fall on. That said, I am not going to become an anti-porn crusader. I think it’s helpful to view this like the alcohol and prohibition debates in the last century. In retrospect it seems obvious that prohibition was never going to be the right solution, because some people are able to use alcohol without abusing and/or becoming addicted to it. We’ve decided as a society to let people drink if they want to, and focus our interventions on people who are getting into trouble. The same is true with sexual behaviors of various kinds. Why argue with people about sexual behaviors they don’t feel are problematic? Let’s just focus on people who are trying to change or stop behaviors, and realizing that they can’t.

]]> Comment on Help for Low Sexual Desire by Desperado http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2007/06/help-for-low-sexual-desire/#comment-32 Desperado Sun, 25 Nov 2007 19:08:04 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=94#comment-32 hi i am 21 years old and i have always been easily aroused... my penis was about 5 1/2 in. and i started doing the excersises kegel i think.. to increase the size... i got up to 6 in. but now im having a real problem getting it up... i feel like its because my penis has a set blood intake that now it cannot fill... is my assumption correct? and if so what can i do? im still able to get an erection though sometimes very quickly so i don't know.... what can i do? im looking for some type of answer... hi i am 21 years old and i have always been easily aroused… my penis was about 5 1/2 in. and i started doing the excersises kegel i think.. to increase the size… i got up to 6 in. but now im having a real problem getting it up… i feel like its because my penis has a set blood intake that now it cannot fill… is my assumption correct? and if so what can i do? im still able to get an erection though sometimes very quickly so i don’t know…. what can i do? im looking for some type of answer…

]]> Comment on When do you know if sex is a problem? by Akis http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2007/11/when-do-you-know-if-sex-is-a-problem/#comment-23 Akis Thu, 22 Nov 2007 11:23:00 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=73#comment-23 Sex addiction certainly does exist! And it is an addiction just like gambling, alcohol, or drugs. And I know because I am trying to recover from this problem. You can read my blog to learn more about me. I am however against the closing down of sex-related establishments. Its better to have the activity legal ,and in a controlled environment rather than have the whole sex industry go undergound. People should be free to choose, but they should also have unlimited access to information regarding the risks of sex addiction. Sex addiction certainly does exist! And it is an addiction just like gambling, alcohol, or drugs. And I know because I am trying to recover from this problem. You can read my blog to learn more about me.
I am however against the closing down of sex-related establishments. Its better to have the activity legal ,and in a controlled environment rather than have the whole sex industry go undergound. People should be free to choose, but they should also have unlimited access to information regarding the risks of sex addiction.

]]> Comment on Sexual Abuse by nance http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2006/12/sexual-abuse/#comment-35 nance Sun, 11 Nov 2007 23:38:27 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=117#comment-35 Mark Samuel, Nurse Sex Offender Convicted On Sept 8,2005 RN:Mark Samuel was sentenced to five years in Jail with all but two years suspended,having been convicted in January 2004 of unlawful sexual contact with a 6 year-old girl . Mark Samuel counseled the girls mother. when the counseling ended , the three became friends attending family fuctions together. The violations occurred during sleepovers at the Nurses residence during the summer of 2003. Mark Samuel has been released from prison and is now at risk to the community of North Bay Ontario Mark Samuel emyployed 2007 for Assertive community treatment Team North Bay, ON Northeast Mental Health Center P.O. Box 3010 4700 Highway 11 N North Bay, ON,CA Mark Samuel, Nurse Sex Offender Convicted
On Sept 8,2005 RN:Mark Samuel was sentenced to five years in Jail with all but two years suspended,having been convicted in January 2004 of unlawful sexual contact with a 6 year-old girl . Mark Samuel counseled the girls mother. when the counseling ended , the three became friends attending family fuctions together. The violations occurred during sleepovers at the Nurses residence during the summer of 2003. Mark Samuel has been released from prison and is now at risk to the community of North Bay Ontario Mark Samuel emyployed 2007 for Assertive community treatment Team North Bay, ON
Northeast Mental Health Center
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]]> Comment on Professional Therapy Never Includes Sex by sophia http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2007/10/professional-therapy-never-includes-sex/#comment-26 sophia Sun, 07 Oct 2007 05:46:39 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=78#comment-26 Hi This is a great post with relevant topics dealt in detail. Carry on with the good work. Sophia www.welcomeindia.org www.goodhotelsonline.com www.hotelnaukri.com Sophia Hi This is a great post with relevant topics dealt in detail. Carry on with the good work. Sophia http://www.welcomeindia.org http://www.goodhotelsonline.com http://www.hotelnaukri.com Sophia

]]> Comment on Porn Addiction on CNN by river http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2006/10/porn-addiction-on-cnn/#comment-43 river Tue, 25 Sep 2007 11:12:47 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=127#comment-43 We are better off today than we were eight years ago We are better off today than we were eight years ago

]]> Comment on Can Love Be An Addiction? by idea http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2006/10/can-love-be-an-addiction/#comment-41 idea Tue, 25 Sep 2007 11:12:40 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=126#comment-41 Women are not, are fairly portrayed in the media Women are not, are fairly portrayed in the media

]]> Comment on Self-Help Tips for Pornography Addiction by Teri http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2007/07/self-help-tips-for-pornography-addiction/#comment-29 Teri Thu, 20 Sep 2007 20:26:07 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=88#comment-29 I wonder why, when the research proves 12 Step programs to have at least a 70 percent long term failure rate, professionals continue to expouse this? Every single person I know who attended 12 Step failed and failed and failed. Yet there are alternatives that have more stickiness than the cult of 12 Step. It's very curious. I wonder why, when the research proves 12 Step programs to have at least a 70 percent long term failure rate, professionals continue to expouse this?

Every single person I know who attended 12 Step failed and failed and failed. Yet there are alternatives that have more stickiness than the cult of 12 Step.

It’s very curious.

]]> Comment on Is sexual surrogacy for you? by candylover http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2006/12/is-sexual-surrogacy-for-you/#comment-38 candylover Sun, 16 Sep 2007 18:58:19 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=120#comment-38 Hello, great site. I found here many interesting information. Thank u very mutch! Hello, great site. I found here many interesting information. Thank u very mutch!

]]> Comment on Are you uncomfortable with sex? by Andrew Romar http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2007/08/are-you-uncomfortable-with-sex/#comment-28 Andrew Romar Tue, 14 Aug 2007 23:39:39 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=87#comment-28 Do you have workshops for gay men? Do you have workshops for gay men?

]]> Comment on Women’s Sexual Health by Sheldon http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2007/07/womens-sexual-health-2/#comment-30 Sheldon Mon, 23 Jul 2007 00:26:26 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=89#comment-30 Another source for women about their sexuality are books that deal honestly in a positive way with the subject of the female body and eroticism. Another source for women about their sexuality are books that deal honestly in a positive way with the subject of the female body and eroticism.

]]> Comment on Male Survivor International Conference by Self Help Zone http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2007/05/male-survivor-international-conference/#comment-33 Self Help Zone Wed, 23 May 2007 13:21:12 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=98#comment-33 Well these days sexual abuses are on the top of all the issues...these are sensitive issues which can create big problems...I just want to give you a large applause for what you are doing...keep the good work going on.... Self Help Zone. http://www.selfhelpzone.com/category/addiction/ Well these days sexual abuses are on the top of all the issues…these are sensitive issues which can create big problems…I just want to give you a large applause for what you are doing…keep the good work going on….

Self Help Zone.
http://www.selfhelpzone.com/category/addiction/

]]> Comment on Some facts about Cybersex Addiction by Our Cheating Ways http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2005/08/some-facts-about-cybersex-addiction/#comment-80 Our Cheating Ways Sun, 25 Feb 2007 18:28:57 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=211#comment-80 <strong>Are You Addicted To Cyber Sex?</strong> Cyber sex, or Internet infidelity is not something to be taken lightly. The Internet is a virtual playground for those tempted to cheat. Email, instant messaging, web cams, and porn/dating sites are dangerous tools in the hands of a lonely or dis... Are You Addicted To Cyber Sex?

Cyber sex, or Internet infidelity is not something to be taken lightly.
The Internet is a virtual playground for those tempted to cheat.
Email, instant messaging, web cams, and porn/dating sites are dangerous tools in the hands of a lonely or dis…

]]> Comment on Can Love Be An Addiction? by Ann http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2006/10/can-love-be-an-addiction/#comment-42 Ann Tue, 30 Jan 2007 04:21:57 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=126#comment-42 This article in enpointe. I felt the reality and lived it also. This article in enpointe. I felt the reality and lived it also.

]]> Comment on Women and Sex Addiction by Rory Eldridge http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2006/09/women-and-sex-addiction-2/#comment-45 Rory Eldridge Thu, 30 Nov 2006 15:54:48 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=132#comment-45 I think what you are offering here is great information for those who are suffering from the often unnoticed problem of sexual addiction. I also think your readers would be interested in hearing about my place of employment, Healing for the Soul Counseling which specializes in treating those with sexual addictions. Furthermore we offer a weekly radio broadcast, The Blazing Grace Show, as an awareness and encouragement resource for those trying to overcome their addiction. You can find more information about our counseling and radio program at: www.healingforthesoul.org I think what you are offering here is great information for those who are suffering from the often unnoticed problem of sexual addiction.

I also think your readers would be interested in hearing about my place of employment, Healing for the Soul Counseling which specializes in treating those with sexual addictions.

Furthermore we offer a weekly radio broadcast, The Blazing Grace Show, as an awareness and encouragement resource for those trying to overcome their addiction.

You can find more information about our counseling and radio program at:

http://www.healingforthesoul.org

]]> Comment on Ted Haggard by Break_n_Free http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2006/11/ted-haggard/#comment-40 Break_n_Free Mon, 06 Nov 2006 15:18:39 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=124#comment-40 I'm not surprise at Ted Haggard admitting to his sexual addiction. In fact I am more surprised that more clergy are not exposed. Church leadership and the church in general are filled with those struggling with sex addiction. Many who suffer for sex addiction baptize themselve in the Bible and church service in an effort to rid themselves of their addiction. Consequently their perceived devotion to God elevates them to church leadership. Eventually the pressure of leadership and the guilt of living a double life takes its toll. Often those who promoted them in the beggining are the very one's who throw rocks once they fall. I’m not surprise at Ted Haggard admitting to his sexual addiction. In fact I am more surprised that more clergy are not exposed.

Church leadership and the church in general are filled with those struggling with sex addiction.

Many who suffer for sex addiction baptize themselve in the Bible and church service in an effort to rid themselves of their addiction.

Consequently their perceived devotion to God elevates them to church leadership.

Eventually the pressure of leadership and the guilt of living a double life takes its toll.

Often those who promoted them in the beggining are the very one’s who throw rocks once they fall.

]]> Comment on Web Filtering Options by Pablo http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2006/09/web-filtering-options/#comment-44 Pablo Fri, 06 Oct 2006 13:14:08 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=130#comment-44 Highly in favor of filter and web site protective device to safeguard children against pornography but for an adult who sees surfing pornography as a way to unwind after a hard day's work it's entirely another matter. Adults should be responsible for their actions lest they be supervised as children. Highly in favor of filter and web site protective device to safeguard children against pornography but for an adult who sees surfing pornography as a way to unwind after a hard day’s work it’s entirely another matter. Adults should be responsible for their actions lest they be supervised as children.

]]> Comment on Sex Addiction Can Equal Jail Time by Break_ N_Free http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2006/09/sex-addiction-can-equal-jail-time/#comment-46 Break_ N_Free Mon, 18 Sep 2006 23:25:20 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=133#comment-46 I was wondering if you would mind exchanging links...Also if you have any short writings regarding sexual addiction I would love to feature you and your practice as one of our outercircle guest therapists. Please tell your collegues about our blog Shannon Munford I was wondering if you would mind exchanging links…Also if you have any short writings regarding sexual addiction I would love to feature you and your practice as one of our outercircle guest therapists.

Please tell your collegues about our blog

Shannon Munford

]]> Comment on Recovery Resources by name witheld http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2006/07/recovery-resources/#comment-49 name witheld Mon, 07 Aug 2006 00:38:15 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=142#comment-49 i checked out SARR to see what it said about Joe Zychik, (whom i was looking for information about and how i found your site, then SARR)... anyway, seems like, if nothing else, there's ALOT of resources available and fairly well organized into categories such as "for addicts", "for partners", and "for couples", etc. i checked out SARR to see what it said about Joe Zychik, (whom i was looking for information about and how i found your site, then SARR)… anyway, seems like, if nothing else, there’s ALOT of resources available and fairly well organized into categories such as “for addicts”, “for partners”, and “for couples”, etc.

]]> Comment on One Man’s Story… by Alexa http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2006/06/one-mans-story/#comment-52 Alexa Sat, 08 Jul 2006 02:09:57 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=145#comment-52 I loved reading your post on the 30 year old who suffered from a sex addiction. I related to it so much. I too suffer from a sex addiction as well as a love addiction. Just like Russell, the 30 year old in your post, I start getting excited while I prepare to go out to meet men. I am married, but I am out of control when it comes to NEEDING other men to be attracted to me and want me. Anyway, I have a love and sex addiction blog as well. It is http://www.addictiontolove.com/ . This blog lets the viewers follow me through discovery of my addiction throughout my recovery... such as Therapy, SLAA meetings and Recovery Assignments. I am just so thrilled to have read your amazing story. Thanks for sharing with us and helping people overcome this debilitating addiction. I loved reading your post on the 30 year old who suffered from a sex addiction. I related to it so much. I too suffer from a sex addiction as well as a love addiction. Just like Russell, the 30 year old in your post, I start getting excited while I prepare to go out to meet men. I am married, but I am out of control when it comes to NEEDING other men to be attracted to me and want me. Anyway, I have a love and sex addiction blog as well. It is http://www.addictiontolove.com/ . This blog lets the viewers follow me through discovery of my addiction throughout my recovery… such as Therapy, SLAA meetings and Recovery Assignments. I am just so thrilled to have read your amazing story. Thanks for sharing with us and helping people overcome this debilitating addiction.

]]> Comment on The Brain and Pornography by Patsi Krakoff http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2006/05/the-brain-and-pornography/#comment-53 Patsi Krakoff Sat, 20 May 2006 15:05:02 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=149#comment-53 Alexandria, thanks for this great post. I've only recently become aware of mirror neurons and the studies that have been accomplished. This is great stuff, and I really understood and appreciated the transference/countertranference example. There are many implications for this information, it explains a lot. I've noticed how excited i get when watching tennis on tv, but don't get interested in football or other sports because I can't relate, my neurons aren't activated. The obvious implication for pornography, is one of those "of course" moments of understanding. I'll be posting about parts of this on my Brain-FX blog, as soon as i can. Alexandria, thanks for this great post. I’ve only recently become aware of mirror neurons and the studies that have been accomplished. This is great stuff, and I really understood and appreciated the transference/countertranference example. There are many implications for this information, it explains a lot. I’ve noticed how excited i get when watching tennis on tv, but don’t get interested in football or other sports because I can’t relate, my neurons aren’t activated. The obvious implication for pornography, is one of those “of course” moments of understanding. I’ll be posting about parts of this on my Brain-FX blog, as soon as i can.

]]> Comment on I’m not the one with the problem… by Lisa Merlo-Booth http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2005/10/i%c2%b4m-not-the-one-with-the-problem/#comment-77 Lisa Merlo-Booth Tue, 11 Apr 2006 21:32:01 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=192#comment-77 When you say we need to stay on our side of the fence, I couldn't agree more. I have a saying that I tell clients to help stress this point: "Changing me, changes we." We are so skilled at looking at others we forget to look at ourselves. I'm glad to hear you are sending such a great message that so many of us don't want to hear yet need to hear. When you say we need to stay on our side of the fence, I couldn’t agree more. I have a saying that I tell clients to help stress this point: “Changing me, changes we.”
We are so skilled at looking at others we forget to look at ourselves. I’m glad to hear you are sending such a great message that so many of us don’t want to hear yet need to hear.

]]> Comment on 6 Steps to Orgasm by simon http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2006/03/6-steps-to-orgasm/#comment-69 simon Sat, 11 Mar 2006 10:01:30 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=159#comment-69 Hello Alex I love your weblog and I will follow your suggestions. That's why I wrote about them on my italian blog S! Hello Alex
I love your weblog and I will follow your suggestions. That’s why I wrote about them on my italian blog
S!

]]> Comment on Symptoms of Love Addiction by Teresa http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2005/12/symptoms-of-love-addiction/#comment-73 Teresa Wed, 01 Mar 2006 20:23:01 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=186#comment-73 This is so interesting and informative. The description of love addiction on your main website is also really fascinating. I'd never heard of "love" addiction, only "sex" addiction. I will be passing on this info and your site address! This is so interesting and informative. The description of love addiction on your main website is also really fascinating. I’d never heard of “love” addiction, only “sex” addiction. I will be passing on this info and your site address!

]]> Comment on Some facts about Cybersex Addiction by Jerry http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/2005/08/some-facts-about-cybersex-addiction/#comment-79 Jerry Thu, 23 Feb 2006 22:49:31 +0000 http://www.sexaddictionlosangeles.com/?p=211#comment-79 Very interesting information, thank you, Alexandra! Very interesting information, thank you, Alexandra!

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