Women who want to want

30% of young and middle-aged women go through a period of little to no sexual desire.  While some women say that they’re O.K. with not having sex again, often times that’s not true.

Lori Brotto is one of the world’s leading experts on hypoactive sexual desire disorder in women.  Through her research and experience, she now instructs women on how to be mindful of the sensations in their bodies, leading them to experience themselves as highly sexual, erotic beings.  In her thinking, desire takes time…

If you are female and struggle with low sexual desire, we can help!  310-335-0997

To read the article, go to:

http://www.nytimes.com/2009/11/29/magazine/29sex-t.html?_r=1&emc=eta1

Teleclass with Joe Kort: Why Does THAT Arouse Me?

Learn the hidden meaning of what turns you on!

Wednesday, October 28 at 8:30PM EST

Fee: $15.00

To register go to

http://www.webmarketingmagic.com/SecureCart/SecureCart.aspx?mid=961EB94A-5D07-4777-9E7A-3311AD69D915&pid=34b8b6c488b342faac96019b28f3033a

You will receive your call-in number via email
Joe Kort learned the benefit of helping people explore the origins of their fantasies through years of work with men who are addicted to sex and from those who have been sexually abused. By “cracking the erotic code” and learning the narrative of what the sexual desires mean can help you feel better about your sexuality and learn more about yourself.

Sex Therapy Hotline!

If your tired of keeping your disturbing sexual issues to yourself, or need an inexpensive way to get your sex therapy questions answered you can call a hot-line.  That’s right!  Contact this sex therapy hot-line where licensed professionals will help you with your issues.

http://yourdarksecrets.com/

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The Spirituality of Sex

 

In the 10th and 11th centuries in in India, sex was  was thought to be a path to spirituality.

Today, sex has been denigrated to a fast-food item, to be consumed strictly for the high it brings without the heart and soul of exploration into the divine.

In their article “The Spirituality of Sex,” Jurriaan Kamp and Tijn Touber take you through the stages of change sex has undergone over the ages. They bring us full circle  back to sex as a meaning-making meeting of two souls for the purposes of personal growth and development.

To read their article, go to:http://www.care2.com/greenliving/the-spirituality-of-sex.html

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What is Sleep Sex?

Do you know there are a host of parasomnia’s meaning involuntary behaviors that occur during sleep? Everyone’s heard of sleep walking but sexsomnia or “sleep sex” can be a bigger problem.  That’s right!  People can masturbate during sleep, talk dirty, or worse yet, break the law by forcing sex on to another person.

To read more about this phenomenon go to:

http://health.usnews.com/articles/health/sleep/2009/05/08/how-sleep-sex-and-other-parasomnias-can-get-you-in-trouble-with-the-law.html?s_cid=related-links:TOP

Gay or Not Gay?

Do you think it’s beneficial for some people to reject their gay or lesbian attractions?  In an article entitled “A New Therapy on Faith and Sexual Identity” in the Wall Street Journal, The American Psychological Association says that it can be.  When people are tormented by their sexual orientation because it conflicts with their religious beliefs, changing their sexual compass may bring them relief. 

This is not meant to be the old “conversion therapy” that “cures” people out of their homosexuality but will certainly create controversy nonetheless.

Check out the article at http://online.wsj.com/article/SB124950491516608883.html

What do you think about this topic?  Let us know by clicking the comments button below.

Sexual Fluidity…

Is there such a thing as sexual fluidity or is our sexuality static?  This author offers both research and explanation as to why/how it’s possible that our sexuality fluctuates over time and according to who were with and where we are in our lives.

“I Kissed a Girl” Sexual Fluidity: Understanding Women’s Love and Desire by Lisa M. Diamond Cambridge, MA: Harvard University Press, 2008,  is available in  hardcover should you want to read the book.

Below you will find an excerpt of her book reviewed by Ellyn Ruthstrom:

In a culture most comfortable analyzing important issues using binary concepts—Democrat/Republican, pro/con, right/wrong—the straight/gay binary of sexual orientation is particularly well-defended. Admitting to any element of ambiguity or changeability in this most intimate part of our identities strikes fear into the hearts of many. Certainly the biphobia—prejudice against bisexuals—that is exhibited by both the straight and gay communities is a manifestation of that fear. If we understood ambiguity better, would we be able to accept that a fluid sexual orientation is as valid as any other? Would there be less distrust and apprehension of those whose sexuality doesn’t fit into a heads-or-tails reality?

To read the rest of the article, go to http://www.wcwonline.org/content/view/1945/

Or to read another article on why women leave men, go to http://www.cnn.com/2009/LIVING/personal/04/23/o.women.leave.menfor.women/index.html

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Older,Wiser, Sexually Smarter!

Finally, a book geared to adults enjoying and celebrating their sexuality!

  

The newest sex education manual, Older Wiser, Sexually Smarter:  30 Sex Ed Lessons for Adults Only  is the first sex ed manual exclusively for adults!  This book is getting rave reviews and I think you will rave too.  To find out more and to order your copy,  visit http://ppgnnj.org/jforms/flyerOWSS.pdf

 

Enjoy and let us know what you think by clicking the comments button below. 

 

Gay Men’s Sexuality Group

If you are gay and interested in exploring your questions about sex, what is healthy and what is not, then this group is for you.
Lead by Christopher Donaghue, MSW in a dynamic and non-judgmental fashion, questions around  dating, casual sex, sexual compulsivity, and long-term committed relationships with be addressed.
It’s difficult to be gay and sex positive in a culture that gives the message that anything goes when it comes to sex.  Come sort out these issues for yourself in the safety and comfort of a peer group at the Center for Healthy Sex on Monday nights from 7 - 9pm.
For more information, call Chris at 310-280-8472 or email him at chris@centerforhealthysex.com

Have fun and let us know what you think of the group!

Men’s Sexual Health

“Men’s Sexual Health,” by Barry W. Mccarthy and Michael E. Metz is a must read for men! This is a well researched book full of useful information for optimal sexual health. The author’s state, “Anything good for your physical body will be good for your sexuality, and anything that subverts your physical body will subvert your sexuality”.In that, they are saying that fitness is critical for everyone especially men over 40.

The author’s remind us that behavioral habits like sleep, exercise, eating, drinking, drug use and smoking are key.Chronic health problems like sleep apnea, sleeping less than 5 hours per night, depression and irrability have a major negative impact on sexuality. Smoking is major contributor to erectile dysfunction and medications for blood pressure control can have an impact on desire and erection.

  • We are reminded that stress is the number one killer of sexual desire in the body and the authors recommend that men take a semi annual vacation. “Take all your allotted vacation and personal time” and take “micro vacations” i.e. movie, concert, sporting event and concentrate on this as a microvacation from stress.
  • They recommend that you change your exercise program with age.Don’t do the workout at 40 that you were doing at 20.Look for activities that increase respiration, cardiac output and vascular system heal.All these will improve your sexual vitality and function! Sensuality, looking at how you treat your body, how you workout - “appreciate your maleness and your sexuality at every age of your life.
  • Make new choices for self-nurturance and fun– clothes, food, hobbies, moving bodies, celebrating YOU without shameThe good-enough sex model is not about performance but about acceptance, pleasure and positive, realistic sexual and relationship expectations”.”With the good enough sex model, intimacy and satisfaction are the ultimate purpose, with pleasure as important as function and mutual acceptance as the context”.

“Relationship and sexual satisfaction are the ultimate developmental focus.The couple is an intimate team”

“The essence of sexuality is giving and receiving pleasure-oriented touching, which is the foundation of healthy sexual function”.