13 minutes is all it takes!

How long sex should last is getting a lot of attention in the media due to the study that was done last month.  With the amount of pornography on the internet and available through other means, people increasingly think  sex should last for hours. 

But think again.  According to a study at Penn State by Eric Corty, an associate of clinical psychology,  who gave “a random sample survey to 50 members of the Society for Sex Therapy and Research, an international social group of experts in sexual research,” optimal sex lasts 7 – 13 minutes!

“The survey asked four questions about the length of sexual intercourse. It concluded that too short of a time is less than two minutes and an adequate time would be three to seven minutes. Too long is anywhere from 10-30 minutes, and two-thirds claimed that seven to 13 minutes is most desirable.” Sex Therapy Los Angeles

To read the details of this article, go to http://media.www.cardinalpointsonline.com/media/storage/paper1064/news-Therapist.Survey.Shows.The.Best.Sex.Doesnt.Last.All.Night-3348774.shtml

21st Annual Northwest Conference in Behavioral Health

21st Annual Northwest Conference in Behavioral Health

and Addictive Disorders
Seattle, Washington

Sex Addiction Los Angeles

Alex Katehakis, MFT, CST, CSAT will present this topic:

May 29th, 2008

Early Childhood Attachment Patterns on the Neuropsychobiology

of Addicts: The Sexual Addiction Paradigm

To register CALL 800-441-5569 or visit www.usjt.com



Free teleclass for gay and bisexual men on healthy sexuality

Joe Kort, author of “10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do To Find Real Love” is offering a free teleclass for gay and bisexual men on healthy sexuality and will also address sexual addiction and compulsivity.  Sex Addiction Los Angeles

Please join him on Tuesday, May 20, 2008 from 8:00 – 9:00 PM EST.

The topic will be on sex, love and intimacy which is the theme of his upcoming workshop “Reclaiming The Man in the Mirror” for gay and bisexual men on June 21-22, 2008.

For information on how to join the class or sign up for the workshop go to:


Circumscision and sexual compulsivity: Are they related?

At the Center for Healthy Sex, women often ask if male circumcision can lead to sexual compulsivity.  The thinking is that an uncircumcised penis is more sensitive while the circumcised one is less sensitive, therefore needing more stimulation in order to experience pleasure.  As far as I know, there is no scientific data to bare this out and therefore, this is only speculation

Many factors can contribute to sexually compulsive behaviors.  If a person is masturbating compulsively, it may be that he/she has an obsessive compulsive disorder that manifested in this way due to some form of early childhood experience that was traumatizing. 

Each person who suffers from sexually compulsivity has a unique story, which is often based in pain as a result of suffering emotional, physical or sexual abuse in their childhood.

For more information and resources, visit our website at http://www.centerforhealthysex.com Sex Addiction Los Angeles

Assessment, Diagnosis and Treatment of Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity

On Friday, May 16 2008 from 9:00 am – 4:00 pm I will be teaching a continuing education course for mental health professionals on the above topic at the Skirball Center in Los Angeles, California. Sex Addiction Los Angeles

To sign up and for more information and details about this workshop, please visit my website at www.centerforhealthysex.com.  Click on the “Events” tab.