Partners of sex addicts

Partners of sex addicts almost always report feeling isolated and alone when they find out their partners have a serious sexual problem.  They feel shame, hurt, angry and betrayed, often with nowhere to turn.

COSA is a fellowship of recovering men and women who are partnered with sex addicts.  They extend and share their experience, strength and hope with anyone who needs help. Sex Addiction Los Angeles

If you are seeking support for this problem, contact COSA by going to the following website:

http://www.cosa-recovery.org

Good sex lasts minutes, not hours!

How long do you think sex should last?

In a USA Today article, “A survey of sex therapists concluded the optimal amount of time for sexual intercourse was 3 to 13 minutes. The findings, to be published in the May issue of the Journal of Sexual Medicine, strike at the notion that endurance is the key to a great sex life.” Sex Therapy Los Angeles

We are bombarded by stereotypes of what film makers and magazine editors think sex should look like.  On the other side of that is porn and all it’s ideas about sex.  All of these forces can be shaming and diminishing and leave people unable to trust what is true for them.

If you worry about what “normal” is when it comes to your sex life, you might want to know that, according to Marianne Brandon, a clinical psychologist and director of Wellminds Wellbodies in Annapolis, Md., “most people’s sex lives are not as exciting as other people think they are.”

For the Science Daily article, click here:

http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2008/03/080331145115.htm

To read the USA Today article, click below:

http://www.usatoday.com/news/health/2008-04-02-sex-survey_N.htm?csp=34

Sexual Information for Women

The female life cycle shifts and changes with each passing year and no two women are the same.  There are so many choices, opinions, books, television programs, radio shows, etc. where we can get information today that it can seem overwhelming. Sex Therapy Los Angeles

Each one of us needs to listen to our own bodies and pay close attention to what the health patterns were for our grandmothers and mothers.  Never forget that your intuition is your best compass when it comes to making decisions about life cycle changes. 

It’s also important to find a health care practitioner whose value system lines up with yours so you feel like someone is on your team versus setting yourself up in a “blind obediance” situation.  Find a medical doctor who is open to alternative practices and consult with both.  This way you can make an informed decision based upon what your needs are.

Estronaut is a comprehensive site for women with clear information addressing women’s issues.  http://www.estronaut.com/n/what.htm

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Is cybersex addiction different from sex addiction?

Although this article was published in 2005, it is a strong review by Christian Perring, Ph.D., of Dr. Al Cooper’s Book, “Cybersex: The dark side of the Force.”

In this review, she lets the reader know exactly what the book has to offer and the intricicies of the research that make up the content of the book.   Sex Addiction Los Angeles

To read the review, go to the link below.

http://www.adultandchild.cor/poc/view_doc.pho?id=2493&thpe=book&cn=66