The question “what is healthy sex?” and “what is sexually healthy for me?” are important questions to ask yourself. Whether you are seeking to move into your sexual potential or you are recovering from sexual addiction, you owe it to yourself to answer these questions.
Below are some guideline questions I have constructed to help you get your process going. Take some time to focus and meditate on these questions. When you’re ready, sit down with a pad of paper and pen and write out your questions long-hand. You may be surprised at what you learn about yourself!
1. What were the messages you got from your family about sex and sexuality?
2. Were you taught/trained to get your needs met using your sexuality? What might some other ways look like?
4. Were you taught to deny your sexuality?
3. What do you consider to be “normal” sexuality?
4. How does the culture at large inform you about sex and sexuality?
5. How does your smaller/immediate culture inform you about sex and sexuality?
6. What is your definition of sexuality? How does it differ from the above?
Be as honest as you can with yourself and see if you can share one revelation with us by clicking the comment button below.
. May 25, 2007
Filed under: sex and daily living, sexual addiction, sexual potential
The National Organization against Male Sexual Victimization www.malesurvivor.org is a unique organization for male survivors; their family and friends who want to convey their support; as well as professionals who work with, and advocate for them.
The MaleSurvivor 2007 International Conference entitled Relief, Recovery, and Restoration: Helping Men Heal from Sexual Abuse will be held on October 25-28, 2007. The event will take place at the John Jay College of Criminal Justice in New York City www.jjay.cuny.edu . The 2007 international conference promises to be an exciting one so mark the date.
The Male Survivor International Conference is intended for male survivors and their loved ones; clinical and social service professionals; lawyers, law enforcement professionals, and legal advocates; and researchers, educators, and students.
By May, information regarding the Pre-conference Training Institutes, plenary and featured speakers, and concurrent workshops, as well as the cost for the conference and hotel accommodations will be posted on their website.
Sex Therapy Los Angeles
. May 18, 2007
Filed under: sexual abuse, sexual abuse
On June 28 - 30, 2007 in Minneapolis, Minnesota David Delmonico, Ph.D. and Elizabeth Griffin, MA, LMFT Authors, Clinicians, Researchers, and Trainers in Cybersex Related Issues will present an intensive dedicated solely to cybersex issues:
Sex Addiction Los Angeles
This intensive will provide clients with the information and tools necessary
to address problematic cybersex behavior. Through lecture, demonstration, and an intensive group setting, clients will create an Individualized Internet Health Plan to promote successful recovery. Topics incorporated throughout the three
days include:
* Comprehensive individualized assessment of your Internet behavior
* First and second levels of change and relapse prevention
* The role of intimacy formation and its relationship to the Internet
* Creative and engaging methods to address cybersex issues
* The power of the Internet and techniques for breaking the cycle
For more information, please visit: http://www.internetbehavior.com/intnsive
Internet Behavior Consulting is excited to begin offering cybersex
intensive. Please let us know if you have any questions.
David and Elizabeth
info@internetbehavior.com
952-210-5778
. May 11, 2007
Filed under: cybersex addiction, cybersex addiction, sex addiction
Dr. Patrick Carnes it currently touring the country presenting a course called “Anatomy of Arousal and Bargins with Chaos.” This course is a comprehensive look at sexual addiction and the family. Sex Addiction Los Angeles
Local experts will accompany Dr. Carnes durning this presentation and mental health professionals can receive CEU credits for attending. To learn more about the presentation and find out if it’s coming to your city, go to www.sexhelp.com
. May 04, 2007
Filed under: uncategorized, sexual addiction
Sex addiction does not discriminate. It doesn’t matter what race, color. class or creed you are, if you have sexual addiction problems you should seek help. Sex Addiction Los Angeles
Here is a tale of yet another Christian pastor and his struggles with sex addiction.
http://www.earnedmedia.org/wpp03201.htm
. Apr 27, 2007
Filed under: uncategorized, sex addiction, sexual addiction
A new study shows that HIV positive people are as much as 36 percent less likely to transmit the virus to others after attending a 90-minute psychotherapy session. These sessions addressed stress, coping, and safer behaviors—with follow-up monitoring 5, 10, 15, 20, and 25 months afterward. The investigators acknowledged that after 25 months, “the treatment effects were not maintained.” Sex Therapy Los Angeles
Although the people in the study were not able to follow through on the recommendations they recieved while in therapy, they were able to stay safe while attending. Clearly this is not the answer, but may be a partial answer in assisting people stay sexually safe.
To read the rest of the article, go to
http://www.sciam.com/article.cfm?alias=behavioral-intervention-r&chanld=sa003
. Apr 20, 2007
Filed under: sex and daily living, sex therapy
Often sexual abuse survivors have difficulty embracing sex and sexuality in healthy, loving ways because sex was used to harm them. Sexual abuse often causes people to have a shame-based sense of sex. This prohibits the survivor from reclaiming and restoring their sexuality, and can be very challenging for their partners who often feel confused about how to approach the survivor. Sex Therapy Los Angeles
On Saturday and Sunday, April 28 and 29, 2007 from 9 a.m. to 5 p.m. Stephen L. Braveman, MFT and Francesca Gentile will present a workshop called:
TANTRA FOR SEXUAL ABUSE SURVIVORS AND THEIR LOVING PARTNERS
For more information about this workshop, visit Stephen Braveman’s website at
If you attend this workshop, please let us know how it went by clicking the comments button below.
. Apr 12, 2007
Filed under: sexual abuse, sexual abuse
Are you experiencing problems with your sexuality? Whether it’s premature ejaculation, anorgasmia or low sexual desire you may want to consider seeking professional help. Because these can be delicate topics to talk about, you should talk to a qualified sex therapist. Sex Therapy Los Angeles
If you’re interested in learning more about sex therapists, what they do, and if they can help you, check out this interview by David Thomas. He talks to Ken Rosenberg, M.D. and Robert Filewich, Ph.D. in this webcast.
http://coolnurse.heathology.com/sexual-health/video2905.htm
Read the transcript and let us know what you think.
. Mar 23, 2007
Filed under: sex and daily living, sexual desire
Fortunately, we have very strict professional guidelines for therapists in this country that are meant to protect patients from harm. Sometimes therapists can overstep boundaries and cause harm due to their own unresolved issues and problems.
If your therapist EVER suggests sexual contact between the two of you, you should ALWAYS say no and immediately report the incident to the therapist’s licensing board.
The reason for this is that extensive research has led to recognition of the extensive harm that therapist-client sex can produce. Nevertheless, research suggests that perpetrators account for about 4.4% of therapists (7% of male therapists; 1.5% of female therapists) when data from national studies are pooled.
Sex Therapist Los Angeles
For more information on this topic, go to http://www.kspope.com/sexiss/sexencyc.php
. Mar 16, 2007
Filed under: sexual abuse
Kenneth Adams, Ph.D., author of “Silently Seduced” has just released his second book - “When He’s Married to Mom: How to Help Mother-Enmeshed Men Open Their Hearts to True Love and Commitment” with Alexander P. Morgan.
Excerpt from book - In his unconscious – and sometimes conscious – mind, amother-enmeshed man is representing his mother’s interests, while his own have become secondary. If he does something he thinks she wouldn’t like, he feels disloyal to her. If he “gets serious” about a woman, suddenly, without understanding why, he is overwhelmed with feelings of fear, anxiety, and guilt. Ambivalence and withdrawal inevitably follow.
To order this book and for more information, visit www.whenhesmarriedtomom.com
Click on the comment button below and let us know what you think of this book. Sex Therapy Los Angeles
. Mar 09, 2007
Filed under: sex and daily living
