Are you uncomfortable with sex?

Some people have an aversion to sex but really want to learn to engage with others.  Others feel starved for physical comfort but don’t know how to connect.  Here are six points that The World Health Organization uses to define sexual health:

1. The ability to talk about sex and sexuality

2. .Sexual anatomy functioning

3.  Sexual health care

4. Awareness of healthy sexual behaviors

5. Self acceptance

6. Positive sexuality

Here’s an interesting article on sex therapy and the use of sexual surrogacy for more on this topic:

http://www.mindhacks.com/blog/2007/07/the_controversial_st.html

Self-Help Tips for Pornography Addiction

If you think you might be spending too much time on-line looking at pornography, this site offers some simple tips for changing some of your habits.

If you think you have a cybersex addiction, you should seek 12-step and professional help.  Visit www.sash.net to find a therapist in your area.

http://www.utdallas.edu/counseling/selfhelp/porn-addiction.html

Women’s Sexual Health

Women can get help for issues surrounding their sexuality from a variety of sources today.  Once source is to seek a physical therapist who specializes in women’s issues. 

Some of these issues include dysmenorrhea, fibromyalgia, incontinence, lymphedema, obstetrical dysfunction and osteoporosis and pelvic floor tension and/or pain.

For more detailed information on this topic, go to

http://www.womenshealthapta.org/plp/index.cfm

Let us know what you think about this by clicking the comment button below.  Thanks!

When He’s Married to Mom:Untangling the Web of Mother-Son Enmeshment

Join Ken Adams in this upcoming all-day professional seminar on his new book "When He’s Married to Mom: How to Help Mother-Enmeshed Men Open Their Hearts to True Love and Committment".

July 27, 2007 at The Whitehall Hotel, 105 East Delaware Place, Chicago, ILL. 60611 www.thewhitehallhotel.com

Register by July 20, 2007 by calling 800-624-5858 ext. 2132 or go to www.sierratucson.com

Dr. Adams will be discussing how enmeshment:
  • impacts early attachment
  • creates sexual and identity problems
  • leads to sex and food addictions
  • impacts relationships and interferes with intimacy
He will also be outlining:
  • therapeutic strategies for both individuals and couples work 
  • how to help therapists avoid enmeshment issues with their clients
  • transference and counter transference issues 
  • plus much More!
See what others are saying about the workshop:
  • "Outstanding!  Dr. Adams is an engaging, stimulating presenter. His material was thorough, substantive, sophisticated, and totally accessible. I’ve already applied many of his concepts to my work and look forward to hearing more." - Rennee S. Katz, Ph.D.
  • "Dr. Adams’ workshop was thoroughly engrossing. It touched on subject matter that has been greatly neglected for too long yet is central in the lives of many people. His approach to this issue was thorough, clear, challenging, and, at times, moving. Don’t miss it! - Ted Wolgamot, Psy.D.
Hope to see you in Chicago!

Men Who Have Sex With Men

Joe Kort, MA, MSW has created a blog called “straightguise” in service to men who have sex with men who are not necessarily gay or bi-sexual.  There is a lot of jugdment and confusion about this issue and many uninformed people make the assumption that if a man has sex with another man, he must be gay. Sex Therapy Los Angeles

It turns out that men who are not gay have sex with other men for a variety of reasons.  To find out more about what these reasons are in a non-judgmental, clear way, go to http://www.straightguise.blogspot.com

Let us know what you think by clicking the comment button below.

Erectile Dysfunction as a result of Psychological Issues

Erectile can happen to anyone at any time depending on the stressors they are encountering in their lives.  Often anxiety about one thing in life can lead to anxiety about sexual performance.  Here’s a useful article from US News. Sex Therapy Los Angeles. Here’s what they say:

A patient whose erectile failure has a clear psychological cause should undergo sex counseling before he pursues any invasive treatments. Sex therapy works best to treat erectile dysfunction if a man is generally healthy and has normal erections during sleep, normal blood tests, and a normal physical exam. Therapy can also help when ED is caused by stress from work, finances, relationship problems, or poor sexual communication.

To read the rest of this article, go to:

mailto:http://health.usnews.com/usnews/health/sex/erectile_dysfunction/ed.treat.therap

Sex Addiction as a Cultural Phenomenon

This article looks at sex addiction as a cultural phenomenon.  It argues that a person having “excessive” sex in a country like the US is considered problematic due to  morals about sex and sexuality.   If that same person is having the same amount of sex in another culture where it’s more tolerated, like the UK, is it still problematic? Sex Addiction Los Angeles

What do you think?  Take a look at the article below then let us know by clicking the comment button below.

http://www.news.softpedia.com/news/Sexual-Addiction-Cultural-or-Psychological-55683.shtml

Help for Low Sexual Desire

The article in the link below highlights the usefulness and importance of sex therapy for couples who lack desire for sex.  Lack of sexual desire can come as a result of emotional or physical problems between two people in a relationship.  Low sexual desire is often a natural part of being in a long-term relationship and a problem that can be fixed with the right help. Sex Therapy Los Angeles

Whatever the reason, it’s important to get beyond the embarassment of talking about sex and get the help you need.  Couples can suffer in silence due to years of sexual dissatisfaction which can cause unnecessary unhappiness and depression.

Don’t despair, there are many trained sex therapist who can help you.  To find a therapist in your area go to www.aasect.org

Read this article for more information: http://www.thirdage.com/healthgate/files/14499.html

Can women be sexually addicted?

People can have the misperception that the probelm of sex addiction is only a male problem.  The truth is that sex addiction crosses gender, class and race lines. Sex Addiction Los Angeles

This news story is a brief telling of one woman’s pain and her willingness to get help.  http://abclocal.go.com/ktrk/story?section=local&id=5316157

If you are female and think you might have this problem, you can get immediate help.  To find a qualified sex addiction therapist in your town, go to www.sash.net and check the directory.

What is “Healthy Sex?” Part 2

Did you answer questions 1-6?  Were you able to honestly confront yourself in detail?  If so, answer 7-11 for a deeper understanding of who you are in relation to your sexuality. Sex Addiction Los Angeles

7. What is your definition of sexuality? How does it differ from the what you’ve been told by others?

8. What scares you about sex or your own sexuality?

9. What excites you about sex or your own sexuality?

10. What would you have to give up in order to have what you want sexually?

11. What would your ideal sexual relationship look like in terms of perfect mate and amount, style, type of sex, etc? Dream about this!

Please feel free to comment below and share you thoughts, experiences and revelations.  Part of being sexually healthy is being able to talk about sex.  If you can’t talk about it, you’re going to have a difficult time doing it!