Center For Healthy Sex Presents: Sex Addiction Los Angeles

Love addicts often talk about finding "the one."  They talk about love in cosmic terms, obsess about the person they are involved with and fall in love instantly.  There’s always a fantasy component to love addiction.  This can have the addict overlooking problematic behaviors in their object of desire or feeling disappointed when their beloved turns out to be imperfect.

If you worry about your behaviors and wonder if they’re addictive, take a look at these symptoms then read the article on the link below for more information.  Love addiction: 

• Is all consuming and obsessive
• Is inhibited
• Avoids risk or change
• Lacks true intimacy
• Is manipulative, strikes deals
• Is dependent and parasitic
• Demands the loved one’s devotion

http://psychologytoday.com/conditins/sexandlove.html

Post a comment . Oct 12, 2007
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The California Board of Consumer Affairs has published a pamphlet called "Professional Therapy Never Includes Sex."

If you’ve never been in therapy and have questions about this topic, or if you have been in therapy and feel you have been violated sexually, take a look at this clear and simple pamphlet for specific information and answers to your questions. 

http://www.psychboard.ca.gov/pubs/prof.pdf

2 Comments . Oct 05, 2007
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Announcing the 2007-2008 season of the Sexual Compulsivity Workshop for Men. These workshops are designed for men new to recovery, struggling to maintain sobriety, or undecided as to whether they are sexually addicted.  This season is the lucky seventh year for this workshop.

The four fundamental goals of the workshop are:

To understand the origin, function, and consequences of their addiction

To reduce the shame underlying and caused by the addiction

To develop a robust recovery plan and understand tools needed to maintain sobriety

To share the healing experience of healthy community

The dates for these 3-day workshops are:

October 12-14, 2007

February 9-10, 2008

April 11-13, 2008

The workshops are held in beautiful, eclectic Austin, Texas.

The cost is $850.  Meals and accommodations are not included.
Learn more about the workshops at

www.sexual-addict.com/workshops-men.htm

Contact Dr. Michael Johnson directly at 512-928-4357 or Doctor@Sexual-addict.com.

(Workshop Presented by Insight Coaching, LLC)

Post a comment . Sep 28, 2007
Filed under: sexual addiction, sex addiction help, sex addiction therapy, sexual compulsivity

.com: Cybersex Addiction is the story of real people whose virtual worlds become more compelling, more “real” than the outside world. Two Canadian professionals—a computer tech-support worker and a lawyer so affected that he entered a treatment program—share their stories of battling what psychologists refer to as one of the most rapidly growing addictions.

To see the full article and video, go to the o.com site:

http://www.movingimages.ca/Catalogue/Individual/ocom.html

Post a comment . Sep 21, 2007
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Did you know that prostitution is accessable on Craig’s list these days? 

“Craigslist has become the high-tech 42nd Street, where much of the solicitation takes place now,” said Richard McGuire, Nassau’s assistant chief of detectives. “Technology has worked its way into every profession, including the oldest.”

To read the entire article, go to:

http://www.nytimes.com/2007/09/05/nyregion/05craigslist.html?r=1&em&ex=118913760&oref=slogin

Post a comment . Sep 14, 2007
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Cybersex is one of the fastest growing addictions in the US today.  It can capture anyone at anytime.  Here is a brief video clip that exemplifies how anyone can be snagged by the net.

Notice how the man in the clip talks about having a video monitor in his office that faces away from the door.

If you think you have a problem with cybersex, one easy thing you can do to assist yourself in stopping is to turn your video monitor so that it faces your office door.  If your monitor is at home put it in a common space that your entire family uses so that you are visable when on the computer. 

You can also download or buy content monitors that are easy to install.  Have a friend install it so you don’t have access to the password.  These small tips can be the beginning of your recovery from cybersex addiction.

To view the video clip go to and let us know what you think:

http://www.ipextv.tv/ipextv/search-listing-detail.do?fct=ctg&ctg=101&ctgs=348

Post a comment . Sep 07, 2007
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Aaron Alan, M.A., Sex Addiciton Specialist at the CENTER FOR HEALTHY SEX writes:

It has recently come to light that uber-conservative U.S. Senator Larry Craig (R-ID) pleaded guilty to a misdemeanor disorderly conduct charge stemming from a Jun 11th arrest in a men’s restroom at the Minneapolis-St. Paul International Airport for engaging in lewd conduct with an undercover police officer. The officer stated in his report that Craig appeared versed in the subtle signs used to identify willing sex partners in public places. As part of his plea agreement, Craig was fined $1000 and sentenced to ten days in jail, which was deferred to one year’s probation.

Craig now declares he did nothing wrong, that his actions in the airport men’s restroom were misconstrued and he was set up by the police. He’s even gone so far as to bash the “liberal gay agenda” for smearing him. Interestingly, though, the Senator has asked the people of Idaho, his constituency, to forgive him. This is a curious tack as he maintains he is innocent and did nothing wrong or untoward. Why ask for forgiveness if no crime or misstep occurred? This is perplexing and seems contradictory.

If Senator Craig’s behavior is applied to a sexual addiction framework, then contradictions become much clearer and even understandable. I am not diagnosing Craig as a sexual addict, but his actions and subsequent claims about his actions align quite well with what is known about sexual addiction and sexual compulsivity. Whatever his actual clinical diagnosis, his actions point to, at the very least, problematic sexual behavior.

In all likelihood, covert sexual activity in some form has been present for quite some time in Craig’s life. While the actual behavior may have evolved over the years, the function it serves in his life has probably remained constant, which is to tolerate his mood, feelings and emotions as well as to feel connected to another person without risking emotional abandonment. These are the functions served by sexual addiction.

Read more…

Post a comment . Aug 30, 2007
Filed under: sexual addiction, sex addiction help, sex addiction therapy, sexual addiction, sexual compulsivity

Here’s a new web site worth taking a look at.  It’s called "Sex and Relationships" and it’s full of useful information and resources on sex and sexuality.  As people grow into adulthood, It’s important to create a healthy attitude towards sex and understand the realities of a good sex life.  You have to ask yourself important questions like "What does healthy sex mean to me?"  "What are the components of good sex for me?"  "Do I compare myself to what I imagine others are doing?"  In other words, "Who am I sexually?"

Often we are influenced and mislead by what we read in books and see in movies without understanding that each person has their own unique sexual style and what they like and dislike based on family of origin influences, cultural overlays and sexual history. 

Take time to explore what’s true for you and create intimacy with your own self and body.  When you feel confident with what’s true for you regarding your sexuality, then you can communicate these things to your partner. 

For more information go to http://www.sex-and-relationships.com/information.html

Post a comment . Aug 24, 2007
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There is a lot of controversy as to whether abstinence programs work and if they do, what areas they most impact.

Abstinence is the primary directive for sex education in the United States today and has supporters in the UK.  The British Medical Journal stated that an Oxford University team "found abstinence programmes had no negative or positive impact on the rates of sex infections or unprotected sex."

For the complete story go to the BBC news at http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/health/6927733.stm

Post a comment . Aug 17, 2007
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Heba Kotb, a Muslim sex therapist was interviewed by the LA Times about sex.  She gives her opinions on "vibrators, foreplay, premature you-know-what and why more men can’t seem to locate the G-spot."

Based in Cario, she is a public figure with a TV show called "Big Talk" which is popular across the Arab world. She believes in talking about sex explicitly as it relates to the Koran and the muslim world. 

For the complete article, go to: http://www.latimes.com/news/printedition/asection/la-fg-sextalk29jul29.1.4308509.story?ctrack=1&cset=true

Post a comment . Aug 10, 2007
Filed under: sex and daily living