Finding the Love You Want

Discover Your Erotic Intelligence in Chicago, IL on June 11, 2006

A workshop for gay, straight or bisexual initiated men,
women and their significant others.

By special invitation, the Rainbow Warrior Circle and ManKind Project Chicago warmly welcome Joe Kort, noted psychotherapist, author, workshop leader, and New Warrior Brother. Joe is returning to lead us in what promises to be a fascinating journey through the sexual subconscious.

What is the difference between lust, romantic love and attachment? How does each one help us find and get the love we want? This workshop will help unlock the mystery of why you desire the things you do. What sexual desires and fantasies do you most admire or dislike? Your peak erotic experiences and fantasies have coded information about you that can help you understand yourself better.

Joe Kort, MA, MSW, ACSW, is a nationally certified IMAGO Relationship Therapist, a member of the Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health, and a Group Psychotherapist with his own private practice in Royal Oak, Michigan. He is the author of “10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do to Find Real Love” and “10 Smart Things¬†Gay Men Can Do to Improve Their Lives,” (both from Alyson Publications, January 2006 and August 2003 respectively). Joe has been a member of MKP since 1999, initiated at Guest Wood in Windsor, and his animal-spirit name is Powerful Bull.

Further information about Joe and his work may be found on his own website:

Sunday June 11th, 2006
Kuempel Men’s Center
1900 W. Fulton
10am — 3pm
The advanced registration fee is $20
or $25 at the door. Lunch is included.

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The Brain and Pornography

January 10, 2006
Cells That Read Minds

On a hot summer day 15 years ago in Parma, Italy, a monkey sat in a special laboratory chair waiting for researchers to return from lunch. Thin wires had been implanted in the region of its brain involved in planning and carrying out movements.

Every time the monkey grasped and moved an object, some cells in that brain region would fire, and a monitor would register a sound: brrrrrip, brrrrrip, brrrrrip.

A graduate student entered the lab with an ice cream cone in his hand. The monkey stared at him. Then, something amazing happened: when the student raised the cone to his lips, the monitor sounded – brrrrrip, brrrrrip, brrrrrip – even though the monkey had not moved but had simply observed the student grasping the cone and moving it to his mouth.

The researchers, led by Giacomo Rizzolatti, a neuroscientist at the University of Parma, had earlier noticed the same strange phenomenon with peanuts. The same brain cells fired when the monkey watched humans or other monkeys bring peanuts to their mouths as when the monkey itself brought a peanut to its mouth.

Later, the scientists found cells that fired when the monkey broke open a peanut or heard someone break a peanut. The same thing happened with bananas, raisins and all kinds of other objects.

“It took us several years to believe what we were seeing,” Dr. Rizzolatti said in a recent interview. The monkey brain contains a special class of cells, called mirror neurons, that fire when the animal sees or hears an action and when the animal carries out the same action on its own.

But if the findings, published in 1996, surprised most scientists, recent research has left them flabbergasted. Humans, it turns out, have mirror neurons that are far smarter, more flexible and more highly evolved than any of those found in monkeys, a fact that scientists say reflects the evolution of humans’ sophisticated social abilities.

The human brain has multiple mirror neuron systems that specialize in carrying out and understanding not just the actions of others but their intentions, the social meaning of their behavior and their emotions.

“We are exquisitely social creatures,” Dr. Rizzolatti said. “Our survival depends on understanding the actions, intentions and emotions of others.”

He continued, “Mirror neurons allow us to grasp the minds of others not through conceptual reasoning but through direct simulation. By feeling, not by thinking.”

The discovery is shaking up numerous scientific disciplines, shifting the understanding of culture, empathy, philosophy, language, imitation, autism and psychotherapy.

Everyday experiences are also being viewed in a new light. Mirror neurons reveal how children learn, why people respond to certain types of sports, dance, music and art, why watching media violence may be harmful and why many men like pornography.

How can a single mirror neuron or system of mirror neurons be so incredibly smart?

Read more…

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Oldies but Goodies

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