Sexual Abuse

No one likes to talk about sexual abuse because it’s so painful.  But getting help and talking about it is necessary in order to heal and prevent the cycle from continuing.

If you or a loved one has been sexually abused or been the abuser, here is a site that is full of information for getting help.

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Books on Sex Education

I know this site is heavy on sex addiction problems and what not to do sexually.  So here are some refreshing, hopefully fun, book suggestions on what you can do to have fun with your sexuality!

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There are some really wonderful educational books on sex that have come out in the last few years and here’s a site that is pretty comprehensive in its listing.  These make great holiday gifts to the one you love too!!

Click on this link to find out what’s currently in print.

Sex Addiction Treatment in Vancouver, Canada

If you or a loved one are seeking help for sexual addiction and live on the west coast of Canada, contact Paulette Thomasson at the link below.  Good luck in your recovery! Sex Addiction Los Angeles

Is sexual surrogacy for you?

Vena Blanchard has been a professional surrogate partner (and advocate for ethical surrogate practice) for the last 20 years. She is the current president of the International Professional Surrogates Association (IPSA) and is also their senior trainer. She has written and spoken extensively about sex therapy, surrogate partner therapy, and the dynamics of sexuality and change. Sex Therapy Los Angeles

You can read more about the work of a sexual surrogate to see if it’s for you by going to the link below.  If you have any comments, please click the comment button below and let us know what you think.

Internet Infidelity

Marlene Maheu, Ph.D. has written a book called “Infidelity on the Internet.”  You can go to this self-help site if you are struggling with this problem. Sex Addiction Los Angeles

Can Ted Haggard be Converted??

I find this article in the Boston Globe disturbing because the dialog about Ted Haggard’s sexual acting out is being framed around whether or not he is gay.  In order to remedy his problem, he has apparently agreed to go through conversion therapy.

Sadly, all parties are missing the strong possability that Mr. Haggard is a sex addict and it remains to be seen whether he is gay or straight.  It doesn’t sound like the “restoration” program he will go through will include sex addiction treatment but will “restore” his heterosexuality. Sex Addiction Los Angeles

Sadly, we are still living in the dark ages about this problem.  To read the article click on the link listed.  Please let us know your thoughts about this by clicking on the comments button below.

For families and friends of sex addicts you can visit the Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health bookstore at:

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Ted Haggard

I am relieved to know that Ted Haggard came out with his truth about the accusations made against him last week.  From the moment I head the first report that he only bought the drugs and recieved a massage, I knew he was minimizing his behaviors because that’s what sex addicts do. Actually, I was sure that he had used the drugs and had sex with the prostitute for the three years he was accused of and knew that this was not a new problem for him.

It was shocking to hear his congregants minimizing his behaviors on the radio, and in some cases out right denying them.  It is interesting to hear the anger on various blogs today about his immorality and the thrill that comes from bringing the religous right down. Sex Addiction Los Angeles

What both sides are missing is that Mr. Haggard needs serious help. An obvious lesson here is that a person can pray “until the cows come home” and it will not make a difference in their sexual acting out behaviors.  God alone cannot fix this problem because if that were the case, Mr. Haggard would have fixed this problem a long time ago.  In fact, he stated that he has been struggling with his own personal darkness in this area his entire adult life.

Sad as this is, it may be the most important time in Mr. Haggard’s life and therefore in his ministry.  Getting into sexual recovery and making the changes he needs to live a congruent life will be the greatest gift he can give to himself and others.  Let’s hope he does.  For the latest article on this topic go to:

Gay Men, Sex Addiction and Depression

A new report compiled by the Medius Institute for Gay Men’s Health — a small, New York-based organization founded in June 2005 — suggests that since gay men have higher rates of depression than the general population, they inevitably also are more likely to engage in high-risk behavior associated with depression, including unsafe sex and drug use. Sex Addiction Los Angeles

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Can Love Be An Addiction?

Can love really be an addiction?  Stanton Peele says this:

There is an understandable resistance to the idea that a human relationship can be equivalent psychologically to a drug addiction. Yet it is not unreasonable to look for addiction between lovers when psychologists find the roots of drug addiction in childhood dependency needs and stunted family relationships. Chein, Winick, and other observers interpret drugs to be a kind of substitute for human ties. In this sense, addictive love is even more directly linked to what are recognized to be the sources of addiction than is drug dependency.

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