The Relationship of Sex and Intimacy

So many people want to fix their sex lives without looking at their relationship.  We have this romantic notion that sex happens early on in a relationship and is ment to stay that way over time.

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Resentments build up, busy careers create exhaustion, kids, commitments in the community, etc. all can diminish the love that brought two people togeather in the first place.

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Without a strong, loving, intimate friendship it’s very difficult to have a regular, loving, erotic sex life.  Has your relationship and sex life gotten marginalized?  Is your relationship in trouble?

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Is sex therapy for you?

Do you feel stuck in your sexual relationship even though you love your partner?  Do you think that things will “just get better” over time?  Have you been waiting a long time for things to “just get better?”  If so, sex therapy may be for you.

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People are often afraid or embarrassed to talk about their sexuality with a professional.  However, if you can’t talk about sex, you probably can’t “do” sex.  Bodies and preferences change as people age.  Arousal time may take longer then it used to and being able to communicate this to your partner is essential.

To answer the question, “Is sex therapy for you?”  take a look at this article and see what you think.

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Here’s a live video feed from Channel 5 in Wisconsin.  They interview a few sexual addicts, talk about what it is and how many people it affects in this country.  Log on to their site at this address:

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More on Cybersex Addiction

With all the buzz about cybersex addiction it’s good to know that there are a lot of great resources out there for help.  This web site gives you comprehensive information and can answer a lot of questions you may have.

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Symptoms of Love Addiction

Do you find yourself going from one painful relationship to another?  Do you feel desperate about ever finding someone to love?  Often love addicts report these symptoms.  Additionally, people report feeling afraid of rejection, afraid of being hurt, fearing new situations and feeling like they will never get what they want.

Love addicts often become sexually co-dependent meaning they feel they have to have sex with someone in order to be loved or loveable.  Here are some general symptoms to look out for:

Love can be “addictive” when it…

  • Is all consuming and obsessive
  • Is inhibited
  • Avoids risk or change
  • Lacks true intimacy
  • Is manipulative, strikes deals
  • Is dependent and parasitic
  • Demands the loved one’s devotion

For more information on this topic take a look at the following books:

“Is it Love or is it Addiction?” by Barbara Schaeffer

“Facing Love Addiction”  by Pia Mellody

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Cybersex Addiction

Did you happen to watch Oprah today?  How about the fact that approximately 15% of all people who look at pornography on the internet are sexually addicted to it?  Are you or one of your loved ones one of these people? Sex Addiction Los Angeles

If you think you have a problem, take a look at this article.  It’s a comprehensive look at what cybersex addiction is, who is prone to it, why people do it and what to do to get out of it.

If you live in the Los Angeles area and need help with any sexually compulsive problems you can call me and I will assist you in getting the treatment you need.  My office number is 310-335-0997

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Science and Consciousness Conference

Although this doesn’t have much to do with sex and sexuality, I want to invite you anyway.  This is a fascinating conference where you will learn and stretch your ideas about the nature of life.  If your curious, I encourage you to take a look at this site. Sex Addiction Los Angeles
John Cogswell and Alexandra Katehakis will be a featured presenters at The 2006 International Conference on Science and Consciousness, April 21-26, in Santa Fe, New Mexico,  USA.
The exploration of consciousness remains the new frontier of scientific inquiry.  Physicists, medical researchers, psychologists, anthropologists, shamans, healers, meditators have all experienced phenomenon which cannot be explained under the old scientific paradigm.    This conference brings together a multi-disciplinary team of experts in the field of consciousness who will share their knowledge through lecture, discussion and experiential sessions.
Come join your peers and 48 presenters including Peter Russell, Don Campbell, Fred Alan Wolf, Helen Caldicott, Jean Shinoda Bolen, Richard Moss, Dan Millman, Gregg Braden, Cleve Backster, Konstantin Korotokov, JZ Knight, Christine Page, Russell Targ, William Tiller, and MORE.

For more information phone: 505-474-0998 or 505-505-474-7604
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Erectile Dysfunction

Are you and/or your partner concerned about erectile dysfunction?  Many men suffer from this problem and often times the solution to the problem is easier then people think.

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Here are some frequently asked questions:

What Is Erectile Dysfunction?

Erectile dysfunction, commonly referred to as ED, is the inability to achieve and sustain an erection suitable for sexual intercourse.

2. Is Erectile Dysfunction a Normal Part of Aging?

No. ED doesn’t have to be a part of getting older. While it is true that older men may need more stimulation (such as stroking and touching) to achieve an erection, they should still be able to get an erection and enjoy sex.

3. Can Erectile Dysfunction Be Prevented?

For people who are at risk of developing ED due to personal behavior, such as drinking too much alcohol, steps may be taken to prevent its occurrence. However, other causes of ED may not be preventable.

4. How Is Erectile Dysfunction Treated?

There are many different ways ED can be treated, including: oral medications, sex therapy, penile injections and surgery. Each type of treatment has its own advantages and disadvantages. Talk to your doctor to determine the best treatment for you.

5. How Successful Is Viagra at Treating ED in Diabetics?

Viagra is generally a successful therapy for erectile dysfunction, with about 50% of people achieving positive results using the drug with a minimum of side effects.

6. Does Insurance Cover ED Treatment?

Insurance coverage of ED depends upon the type of treatment prescribed. If there is a documented medical condition that is shown to be causing ED, insurance will usually cover at least some of it. Sex therapy and medications that have not yet been approved by the FDA, however, are generally not covered. Along with sexual therapy and medications not approved by they FDA, Medicaid does not cover vacuum constriction devices or penile implants. Talk to your insurance provider to determine if the treatment you are considering will be covered.

Reviewed by the doctors at the Glickman Urological Institute at The Cleveland Clinic.

Edited by Charlotte E. Grayson, MD, WebMD, June 2004.

Portions of this page © The Cleveland Clinic 2000-2004

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Sexual Resource Directory

If you need help with your sex life or have questions about your sexual health, take a look at this web site.  It is chocked full of practitioners all over the country who can assist you with your needs.

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Help for Sexual Addiciton in the Bay Area

If you live in the Bay Area and are in need of information and/or help for issues related to sexual addiction, contact
You will find this group of independent Bay Area Psychotherapists offer quality counseling and psychotherapy to individuals, couples and families struggling with sexual addiction and sexual compulsion issues, and related relationship issues. 
Their site also features numerous book, web resources and 12-step program information.
If you want to talk to someone, contact Mark Robinett, MFT
415-221-3182 and he will be able to answer your questions.